Saturday, January 31, 2009

Perspective: More Trey Ratcliff Pictures

Trey Ratcliff of
will be my guest, Saturday, February 7

He recently posted a Top 100 pictures
on Flickr. If you'd like to see more
of his work, please visit this Flickr page.

Perspective Short: Greg Mooers

As heard on the 1/29/09 Show:

We talk about the world,
and we think we are 6 billion
people living in one world...
The fact is,
we are one people living
in 6 billion worlds.
- Greg Mooers

Perspective Short: The World Goes Round

This poem was written several years ago.
Recently, it was coupled with a picture
from Trey Ratcliff, and made into a
YouTube video for
(see link for other videos of mine)

Perspective Short: Dreams

To dream of a person you would like to be is to waste the person you are
- Unknown
(If you know who said this, please let me know).

Friday, January 30, 2009

Perspective Short: Greg Mooers

As heard on the 1/29/09 Show:

Money comes and goes.
Time just goes.
- Greg Mooers

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Perspective Brouhaha at American Idol

Did you hear about that today?

Apparently one of the contestants
in parting apparently said something
like, "be careful whatever you do."
It was something later found out
to be a regional way of speaking,
however some of the judges,
apparently from a different region,
heard it as a threat.

Here's the LA Times Article

Ever hear of the slang "Phat"?
It sounds like "fat"...and unless
you are familiar with it, you might
just take it as an insult. However,
it is actually a slang compliment -
Pretty, Hot, And Tempting.

The next time you think you might
want to take offense at something
said, you may want to take a
moment. It might just be that it's
not what you thought, and might
actually even be its opposite.

Ever wonder how many altercations
may begin from this type of

I'd say it's something to consider...

Perspective Short: Laughter

when a smile has an orgasm
- urban dictionary

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Perspective Short: Theodore Roosevelt

Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.
- Theodore Roosevelt

How many times have you stopped because you think
you, or it, isn't good enough, big enough, "right"
enough, beautiful enough...?

Q: How do you eat an elephant?
A: One bite at a time

If you have an idea that speaks to you in some way,
it likely is worth doing, however you can get it done.
You can always change or build upon it later.

If you have ever felt this way,
consider the following:
If you were "given" the idea,
you likely already
know how to take the first step.
An idea never seeks perfection,
(what is "perfection," any way?)
it only gives you direction.

Perspective by Greg Mooers

Greg will be joining World-of-Perspective-Radio tomorrow.
Please come and join us, and share about yourself!

For other upcoming guest videos, please visit

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Perspective Short: Frank Crane

Your sole contribution to
the sum of things is yourself.
- Frank Crane

Perspective: Advertising

I am sitting here, looking
at an ad.

It is for a coating company.

In relatively small writing maybe
taking up 1/8 of the ad, it
says, "we do not cut corners on
our work. From metal prep to
the final product each step is
quality inspected for 100%
customer satisfaction."

On the right 1/3, plus a little,
there is a beautiful woman
with long, blonde hair and
a bikini, and it has a sunburst
over her butt that offers a
discount on any job, if the ad
is mentioned. Just so it looks
like she belongs there, she has
a piece of equipment in her

I notice this without judgement.
After all, they're just trying to
get noticed. You have to be
noticed to be in business, don't you?

It just makes wonder...which part
is more valuable to the
company in terms of getting
noticed and/or business.

Your thoughts?

Monday, January 26, 2009

Perspective: Morphing

Morph = to be transformed.

Usually morph means something
that happens on a
computer, such as what happens
with the images of these
Presidents. However, it is
interesting to consider
that moment to moment we,
too, are being transformed
"morphed" into a new version
of ourselves.


Perspective Short: waldo garcia

I find it difficult to believe
'there's no hell' because that
would ruin so many of my
afterlife travel plans.
- waldo garcia

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune

There can be light and beauty
inside what appears to be dark and ugly.
Elizabeth Alraune

(This was a message that spoke to me/
was for me...I shared it, so that maybe
it would provide something for someone else.

It, in some ways, is saying,
things don't always appear
what they seem to be.)

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Perspective: Overload?

I just watched the following
video on YouTube.

You may have seen it, or similar
things, previously. It is interesting
(to say the least) to consider what
it reports, and how it can and does
and will affect us.

Some have definite opinions, and some
are like, so what?

It is like anything. Things can mean
nothing, or they can mean whatever
we make them mean in our world,
in our perspective.

Consider taking a look for yourself:

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune

If it works for you, it works.
- Elizabeth Alraune

Saturday, January 24, 2009

Perspective Short: Sex on Television

Ever watch Monty Python's Flying Circus?
That is quite an exercise in perspective.

Here is a quote from one of their shows:

I object to all this sex on the television.
I mean, I keep falling off.
- Graham Chapman as an old woman

Perspective: It's Raining!

I know the odds are you are probably
thinking, so what?

Maybe you don't even like the rain.

Up until about two years ago
I took rain for granted.

I have, until two years ago,
always lived in a climate that
had 4 (mostly) distinct seasons,
and ample amount of rain.

Two years ago I moved to SoCal,
otherwise known as Southern California.
I knew the song that says it never
rains in Southern California, and
was even amazed when I came for
a visit for a few days the year
before I moved that every day it
was raining. I was so sad. I wanted
to see sunny California. It's the
way it's supposed to be, isn't it?

I moved here, and in the first
year if it rained a handful of times,
it was a lot.

Whenever it was due to rain, it
was a newsworthy story. People who
are natives of here don't seem to
handle it well. I think they may just
be used to all of the sunshine, and
have become a little spoiled.

Living in the NYC area, I was caught
more than a few times in an unexpected
downpour. Depending on how I was dressed,
and where I needed to be, I would have
different reactions.

One time I got off the subway after work,
and it was was incredible.

Most everyone was caught off guard, and
people were huddling, waiting for it to
stop before heading home.

I took a moment to assess the situation,
and when I realized that I wasn't wearing
anything that could be damaged, wasn't
carrying anything that could be damaged,
and was only going home, I did what for
many would likely be unthinkable: I
walked home, and not only did I walk home,
I walked home SLOWLY.

It was only a few blocks, and when I got
to my building, you would have thought
that I had just stepped out of the shower
with my clothes on.

It was an incredible feeling to be so free
to enjoy what nature was offering.

It was an incredible feeling to soak in the

It was an incredible memory that I remember
vividly to this day.

It's so funny how people are always afraid
to get wet, and for women especially how
it can mess with your hair and make up. I
had been one of them, until that day.

I still cared when I was heading somewhere
important, but when that wasn't the case,
I could really "soak" in the atmosphere of
the storm, whether or not I chose to get
actually get soaked.

So...I move to California, and it IS Sunny,
and it is occasionally cloudy, and once in
a while the weather flirts with rain. I
came to realize, in time, how much I missed
the rain.

I knew I would miss NYC Chinese food, NYC
bagels, and NYC pizza. I knew because I
had left it other times, but I never once
considered how rain would come to be a part
of that list.

It just goes to show me that when you are
in the midst of something, it isn't always
easy to appreciate to what you've got. I
know we've heard how you "don't miss it
til it's gone." However, somehow between
the things that we come to miss, it seems
all too easy to forget to remember to
appreciate what we have.

So...while I was in NY, I appreciated the
rain, but nothing like I do now. The
beauty of it is the excitement I can now
have from the sounds of a storm. It is
an added dimension.

Perspective can be an awesome gift, when
I allow myself it. There are times I
could give it to myself or, like with the
rain, wait for life to provide it for me.

I love the feeling of the added dimension.
It gives me a childlike feeling of
excitement. In many cases, an abundance
of snow is only exciting for a child.

A child has no where to be, except school,
and perhaps it keeps him from having to
go. An adult looks at it, and it's "UGH."

For an adult it means shoveling, un-burying
the car, driving on slick roads. How
often does an adult, though, appreciate
the weather that is clear?

It may seem silly to you that I enjoy rain
so much. However, I share it so that
perhaps you can see where in your life
you find yourself forgetting to remind
yourself to be thankful for the wonderful
things that are happening to you.

As much as I appreciate the rain now, I
wish I could more so when I was in NY.
There were so many more opportunities to
be excited that I missed.

Friday, January 23, 2009

World of Perspective Radio: Greg Mooers

On THURSDAY January 29, 2009 5:00 PST/8:00 EST
Please join me and visit with Greg Mooers
Guest call-in number (347)324-5745
Go to
at the date and time of the show
to join in the chatroom conversation

Greg Mooers ( will be joining me to discuss his perspective on networking and how what is happening now economically for people is a change from an old economy of money to a new economy of what is meaningful. During the show, you will be invited to join the show by calling in and telling me, and those listening, what you love to do, and what you need. It could be anything from a job to someone to do work for you (could be barter, could be for pay). It could be potential advertising if you are self-employed, or have a business. I'll ask you to tell me your city, something about you, and what it is that you love to do and what you need, as well as find out if you are open to bartering.

I also suggest that you join the Yahoo Group, where you can post these pieces of information for people to find you. Please be cautious when speaking with others, and providing any personal information. However, with an unemployment rate so high, let's see what we can do for our neighbors. Even if you are employed, you are welcome to call, after all, you love to do things, too, and undoubtedly need something as well. There is a world of opportunity, let's find a way to tap into it!

Please share this with others, and spread the word. Here's an opportunity to share about what you are passionate about, and the more who listen and call, the more possibilities there will be.

It is my desire to have this type of show on a regular, on-going basis. If this is something that interests you, please take the time to let me know, and to pass it along to others.


Perspective Short: Richard Bach

The opposite of loneliness,
it's not togetherness.
It is intimacy.
- Richard Bach

Thursday, January 22, 2009

Perspective: The Next Time You Think Something is Impossible...

consider it may be something possible
you just haven't experienced yet...

Perspective Short: Mahatma Gandhi

An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind.
- Mahatma Gandhi

Perspective Short: Martin Luther King

A riot is the language of the unheard.
- Martin Luther King

Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Confessions of A Teen Idol

Have you heard about the VH1 show called
Confessions of a Teen Idol?

I am not sure why I was drawn to it.
I wish I could remember what it was,
as I am not one to watch much TV.

I wish I could remember because I have
found it to be full of perspective, and
if a person watching had an open mind,
s/he would likely get much more than
what appears at first blush.

What is really great is that all of
the guys (Chris Atkins, David Chokachi,
Bill Hufsey, Jeremy Jackson, Eric Nies,
Adrian Zmed, Jamie Walters) seem to
have gotten along well. There have
been bumps, but it generally seems
that they all have a healthy respect
for one another.

I am sure it helps that they have all
come a similar place. There is
something to be said for have a
"like" experience, it tells someone
that there is a greater chance they can
understand what you are going through.

However, I have found that just
because someone hasn't gone through
what you've gone through doesn't mean
that they can't help. All human
experiences have underpinnings that
are related, even when the specifics

I would suggest that someone who is
unwilling to listen to another, unless
s/he has gone through similar
circumstances is potentially blocking
his or her own growth. It isn't
uncommon to get caught up in the
superficial when attempting to solve
a problem because it is a very safe
place to be. It never addresses the
core issue, which might be a hot spot.

And, hot spot, or not, it is a place
we feel comfortable and familiar, and
we as human beings will often do
everything not to rock the boat. So
the next time you are having difficulties,
consider listening to another to see
what you CAN get from the conversation,
instead of automatically assuming
there is nothing.

Chances are there might be some gem.

I say this in part because, as I have
said, I feel that there are lessons
in perspectives that come from the
observation of what these men are going

It might be easy to get caught up in
the they look, for
instance, and the resulting judgments
that come from that, and the fact of
the matter is that I have seen several
bloggers do just that. Some have
even said that, short of wanting to
catch up with a favorite, there is
no point in watching.

I beg to differ.

I'll give you one of the perspective
"gems" from the show. Apparently,
Chris Atkins was "having fun" as he
went to see the producer and directors
of Footloose, as he was slated to play
the lead role. He said he went in
"out of his mind" and they "saw this
crazy guy," and realizing that they
couldn't take a chance, the role was
no longer his. As a result, of losing
the role, he wound up having a break down,
and went into rehab.

He said he hasn't touched anything
since, and it has been 22 years.

The question that comes to my mind is
what would have happened if he had
gotten the role? Would he have gotten
sober? Would he have lived to tell
the tale?

Sometimes things happen in our lives,
and these are things we'd rather do
without. However, it is these seemingly
devastating things that can bring us
a gift in the form of something
positively unexpected.

Yes, he is back to see what chance he
might have at fame again, and now who
he is, and what he has to share, is a
result of the sum total of his life
experiences...which include what has
happened from the moment he stepped
into rehab - a life he may not have had
without it.

For me, it is awesome to see the
perspective that time and life and
choices have made on these men. We
all have to have our own experiences,
so the odds of someone hearing some
helpful words is all relative to the
lesson that needs to be learned.

Let me just say, too, that I believe
that there are all kinds of lessons
to be learned, some of which are positive.
Thank goodness some of the world's
trailblazers "didn't listen."

Kudos to these men for stepping up,
and into their desires and dreams.
Kudos for jumping into the unknown,
their "discomfort zones." Many people
sit back and dream and wonder, and
do nothing.

Have you ever noticed that with
dissatisfaction comes change? Have
you ever noticed that there is very
little reason to desire, or create,
change when you are on the inside,
caught up in what is going on?

To make a change is to be able to be
on the outside looking in, and taking
a stand, likely to be someone, or do
something, that doesn't "fit" that

While inside the Hollywood picture,
they had less to bring than they do
now because I would suspect they likely
had less of themselves than they do now.
If they return, they enter into it,
bringing the "outside" perspective -
the one that has empowered them to be
where they are today. Once
there, they'll have an opportunity to
make a change from the inside out...
by just being who they are.

And, just maybe instead of warning
others of pitfalls, by being who they
are, they'll actually help to create
an environment with less pits.

One person at a time.
One step at a time.
One choice at a time.
One moment in time.

Perspective Short: Fight Club

If you woke up at a different time,
in a different place,
could you wake up as a different person?
- From Fight Club, the Movie

Perspective Short: Carl Jung

Everything that irritates us about others
can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
- Carl Jung

Perspective Short: Albert Einstein

No problem can be solved from
the same level of consciousness
that created it.
-Albert Einstein

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

The Snooze Button: A Hot Topic

Today I saw a Facebook Group devoted those
who have to hit the snooze button many
times. It got me wondering.

I went searching on the internet, and
found it to be a hot topic. There are
581,000 search results for "snooze button."

It seems that there are many ideas to "fix"
the problem. Some of them suggest getting
enough sleep. It's an excellent idea, the
only problem with that is that many in our
current culture just aren't able to do that.

All of the ideas have some merit. Even
the ones that put the alarm clock on the
other side of the room, or the idea of
setting multiple alarms. Eventually they
seem to work, because sooner or later
the person will get up. However, as the
Facebook group seemed to note, they still
feel they need their caffeine, the "extra"
sleep didn't help.

It might just be helpful to know WHY there
is a problem, and WHY it seems to be more
and more difficult over time to awaken.

It has to do with the way our bodies work.
When we first awaken, we are in a hypnotized
state. The alarm goes off, and we awaken
just barely long enough to hit the snooze.

At that point, you actually go into a
deeper sleep state than when you first
awakened. Then the next time the alarm
goes off, you repeat the process, except
this time you were in a deeper sleep, and
then when you hit the snooze, you go even

Can you see why it could seem like an endless
pit? Sooner or later you DO have to get up,
and you are in such a trance like state it
is difficult to function at first.

The other part of it is the fact that since
you are in a hypnotic state, it likely feels
like you are "driven" to be the way you are
in the morning. It probably feels like you
don't have a choice. After all, it has been
this way a long time, you've now accepted it
and have joined a community of people who
have also surrendered to it.

Sound familiar?

So...the best way to deal with awakening in
the morning is (please don't hate me
for this) to just get up when the alarm goes
off. I have found if I sit up, and turn
the light on immediately, and give myself
a few moments, I can begin to get going -
slowly - but get going, none-the-less.

One of the few ways to break a pattern is
to force yourself to break it. And part
of that comes from being conscious of what
is happening, and making a conscious choice
to do something different.

It can be done.

It just might be pretty difficult in the
beginning, and you may have to work at it.
Work before work? Ugghh. I know it sucks.
It would be so much better to just awaken
when our body felt it had enough sleep.
The only problem with that is we have to
find a way to negotiate our time
in a way that allows us that ability.

It also means dealing with stress more
effectively, as stress can be a huge energy
drain to our body, and have us feeling like
we need more sleep than we would if we were
able to better cope with the things that
stress us.

I know it may seem like an impossible choice.

However, with a willingness, there is a way.
You would be potentially surprised to know
that many "feed" off of stress. They feed
off of it because it is familiar. We love
the familiar, even when it doesn't work for
us. Familiar is our comfort zone.

That is a slightly different conversation, so
I will save it for another entry. For now,
though, at least you know a little something
that perhaps you didn't know before.

Maybe try an experiment tomorrow, and for a
few days, and see how you feel. I promise
it'll be really easy to go back to how things
are if you really want to, AND if you give
it some time, you might find it easier than
you thought to get up when the alarm first
goes off.

If you are interested in making changes, but
are not sure how, I would be happy to speak
with you about how that is possible. I am
a Life Coach and Certified Hypnotist, and you
would be surprised at the things you don't
know you don't know, and when you know, it's
all you need for some change to occur, that
in some cases, can almost seem like magic.

You can contact me at
blog at
for any reason.

Feel free to comment here, and
Have a great night!

Perspective: The Power of a Team Effort

I'd say this pretty much
speaks for itself,
what do you think?

Perspective Short

From Michael Nutter, the Mayor of Philadelphia:

One of the great things about Philadelphia
is that it's an old, historical city. One
of the great challenges of Philadelphia, it's
an old, historical city.

Perspective Short

Many of life's failures are people
who did not realize how close they
were to success when they gave up.
- Thomas Edison

Monday, January 19, 2009

Perspective Short

The years were short, the days were long.
- Unknown

Sunday, January 18, 2009

Playing with Perspective

Today I saw a link that explains
how to approach the questions
you want to ask when looking for
a job, and wanting to be hired.

Ask some of the questions one way,
and you will be perceived in a
negative light. Ask it in
another way, and you might find
the person more receptive you.

For the 10 question never to ask
in job interviews
click here.

The question I have always wondered
around this is...doesn't everyone
know what is really happening, what's
really being said, any way?

The point I would imagine is more
along the lines of a person's
intention. Of course, any employer
will want the best intentions from
a potential hire. However, there is
no real way, in my mind, to gauge
that in any "practical"
least not in words only.

I would suggest that these little
games we play would be unnecessary
if all parties involved could look
at the situation with respect,
and honoring the parties involved.

When I read number 10, and about
having more than 2 weeks to get
started, it made it seem like in
some employer's minds it would be
a negative.

C'mon now...who wouldn't
mind some time off between jobs,
especially if you know it'll be
some time until you are able to
take vacation?

If you weren't employed, maybe
you need some time to get things
together before returning to work.
Why does that say somehow that
you don't really want the job?

Why can't we just talk to each
other about the things that matter
to us in a way that is productive
and helpful, rather than feeling
like we need to conceal parts of

In some ways, it seems very much
like some relationships, and in some
ways, it's not much better there.

Let's make ourselves look as good
as possible, and then, once there
is a commitment, all bets are off.

Then let's see who is willing to
communicate, negotiate and, in the
end dissolve the relationship, if

Wouldn't it be so much better to
know what we are getting into?
It would seem to me to be a way
of preparing everyone for the
best possible outcome.

I realize it's not that simple.
But, oh, how I wish it was.

At the same time, it is as simple
as our willingness to speak up and
be true to ourselves.

A Perspective Short

I put the "pro" in procrastination.
- Unknown

Saturday, January 17, 2009

Change Your Perspective & Change Your World

A few years back, long before so many had
lost their job, many were losing their jobs,
and one day I was in a crazy, long line of
employment seekers in NYC.

An idea came to me that we so often are
around, and talk to, people who know people
who could help us, but we'd never know it
because we view things superficially.

We know what we know, and do what we do,
and if the other person is unable to help
us, well, then that is where our
communications begin and end.

I had this idea that if we were to be aware
of the idea that someone may know of someone
who might know of someone that could help us,
and we looked beyond the immediate, there
might just be a goldmine awaiting us.

Given the job environment currently, it
occurs to me that this is a time more than ever
that this type of approach could be more than
helpful. Yes, many have lost jobs, however,
I would have to guess that there are
opportunities to be found, if only there was
someone that could wave a flag and say, "HERE"!

I could be wrong, however, the only way it
seems to me to find out is to try something
to encourage new ways to connect to the
opportunities. Your best friend across country
may have relatives where you are, or friends of
theirs that could help you in your own

Recently there was a news story about 2 brothers
who found each other blocks away in Chicago
long after one of them had been put up for
adoption. They were right near each other, and
didn't even know it.

How many opportunities do we have that are so
close, and we're just not aware because we are
in our own world?

Granted, in this day and age, there is great
reason for caution and skepticism, we have some
very unfortunate examples of things that give
us a good cause to pause. However, there are
people and organizations that, if given the
opportunity, will show the beauty of what is
possible within the human spirit and family.

I am a great believer in our intuitive abilities.
I believe in them because so many times I have
seen them be accurate, especially after failing
to pay attention to them has kicked a person
in the butt...and, of course, I speak of first
hand experiences. However, as a life coach and
hypnotist, I have seen it happen for many others
as well.

Maybe this is a sign of the times that we need
to start really LISTENING to what our guts tell
us, instead of hoping otherwise, or logically
talking ourselves out of decisions that likely
are our best choice.

I say this because when we shrink our world,
our opportunities do as well. The more skeptical
we become, the less likely we are to take
chances...and they may very well be the ones
that we are meant to take, and would give us the
very thing we have been wanting.

Be wise, be cautious, and at the same time, live
from your heart. Your heart always knows. Your
heart may not always give you the answer your
mind would demand, but your heart will never
steer you wrong.

There is a saying that insanity is doing the same
thing over and over expecting the different results.
Looking for a job the same old way doesn't seem
to be working for many at this time.

I have come up with an idea that is certainly
rough around the edges, and I believe it could work,
as long as there are people who are willing to
reach out, and spend time with other people to
see where there may be connections, ways to help.

For me personally, there is nothing better than
connecting with a person, and seeing what he or
she has to offer. I may not be able to use it
just then, or at all, but there may be others that
could benefit, and there is nothing cooler than
to be able to hook these people up.

I realize that may not be the case for everyone.
However, when I think about it, I would rather
have an opportunity presented to me because of
my interactions with others than to be hanging
by the threads of some employment agency that just
sees me as one of many.

The idea I have developed is presented in audio
form, in the left column of this blog, at the
top of the page. It is approximately 7 minutes
long. I invite you to listen, and see if it
might be something you are interested in.

If you are remotely interested, please give me
the opportunity to speak with you, and get to
know you, and see what possibilities might exist.

I am also working on a series of internet radio
shows that will help to support those who are
needing work, as well as other things. I invite
you to visit
for details.

Have you ever looked up at the sky and when you
look in one direction see the sun but when you
look in the other one see only clouds?

It's all the sky, however, where you look is
everything in terms of what you experience.

Right now there is so much going on that would
show us only clouds and storms. If we look
closely, though, there is likely some sun if
we let ourselves view these circumstances through
different eyes.

Maybe now is the time we need to look at our lives
differently. Maybe now is the time we need to
stop settling for less than what we know we are
capable of. Sometimes when we don't make changes
our own we get help in the form of things we
never would want to happen.

Maybe now is a lesson in living into the things
that matter to us, or maybe it is in learning that
our true value isn't wrapped up in a paycheck
or our belongings, or maybe it is in finding
that we have been hiding ourselves in the facade
that we think is our life.

Unfortunately, at first glance and experience, these
may be terrible things, and if it is anything like
I just described, our walls come tumbling down when
we least feel prepared for it. The good part is
that when we get through to the other side we are
able to reflect and appreciate when things fell
apart because they made way for us to truly be

In case you are in the midst of virtual storms
right now, and think that I could be just saying
words, let me tell you that I know something of
what I speak.

In 1999, I lost my last "real" job - you know, one
that pays you for time off, decides how much money
you are worth, tells you when you need to work,
and you get benefits. It was not the first time
I got laid off, but it was the one that got me
looking at life differently.

I struggled. I got into financial problems. At
one point I was working 4 jobs, making no money at
any of them. Things really sucked, and then I
had to move.

I wondered how much worse bad could get. I went
to get aide to pay my electric bill. Collectors
were calling me. I felt worthless. It was a
horrible time in my life.

I remind myself of that time from time to time to
show myself that I am able to get through it all
because I am now living on the other side of the
country, and working on my own is what got me here.

Never in a million years did I see how that would
be/could be possible back during my roughest times.
It was nothing that I could even imagine as a

So before you think I am just talking, please
realize that you are not the only one questioning
yourself, your life, your choices, where to go
from here.

If you are troubled by your current life's
perspective, consider that there might just be
another that - in a moment - or in time -
will show up as a gift, a gift of yourself.

It will show up as an opportunity to be who you
are in ways you never knew you could be.

If you need someone to talk to, I would like to
offer myself. Please make contact with me if you
think that I could help.

There is nothing worse than feeling alone, and
out of sorts, and wondering how much worse bad
can get.

If you are interested, I will share with you
how I got out of it. It is an interesting story.

All the BEST to you, to ALL of us.
The world needs the best of us more now,
maybe more than it ever did in our lifetimes,
any way. It may difficult to consider,
but what is happening now might just be
laying the groundwork for that to happen.

Just a thought.

Friday, January 16, 2009


I think the man in the following story
had a different perspective than God.

Sometimes it helps to make sure that
the words we speak, and the intentions
we seek, align with the perspective
of the other person.

We are more likely to get the things and
outcomes we want in life when we
understand that words can be interpreted
different ways by different people. I
would suggest that this perspective allows
for flexible, and quite likely more
effective, communications.

Too bad this guy didn't seem to know that.


An atheist was walking through the woods.

"What majestic trees!
What powerful rivers!
What beautiful animals!"
He said to himself.

As he was walking alongside the river,
he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him.

He turned to look.
He saw a 7-foot grizzly bear
charge toward him.

He ran as fast as he could up the path.
He looked over his shoulder &
saw that the bear was closing in on him.

He looked over his shoulder again,
& the bear was even closer.

He tripped & fell on the ground.

He rolled over to pick himself up but
saw that the bear was right on top of him,
reaching for him with his left paw &
raising his right paw to strike him.

At that instant the Atheist cried out,
"Oh my God!"

Time Stopped.
The bear froze.
The forest was silent.

As a bright light shone upon the man,
a voice came out of the sky.

"You deny my existence for all these years,
teach others I don't exist and
even credit creation to cosmic accident.

Do you expect me to help you
out of this predicament?

Am I to count you as a believer?"

The atheist looked directly into the light,
"It would be hypocritical of me
to suddenly ask you to treat me
as a Christian now, but perhaps
you could make the BEAR a Christian?"

"Very well," said the voice.

The light went out.
The sounds of the forest resumed.
And the bear dropped his right paw,
brought both paws together,
bowed his head & spoke:
"Lord bless this food,
which I am about to receive
from thy bounty through
Christ our Lord, Amen."

Tuesday, January 13, 2009

Feeling Stuck?

Have you ever wondered why you pay a profession for their
service, product and/or opinion, and then proceed to do
nothing with it, or listen to the advice that comes along
with it? Maybe you buy a program, and then put it on
the shelf?

If you are like many others, you likely do exactly as I
described above, and then, better yet, proceed to kick
yourself for not following through, wasting money, or
any number of less than positive things.

Did you know when you do - or don't do - something,
it is very likely that you have your own best interests
in mind? Yes, I know it sounds odd to say that,
so I will explain.

Our mind is an incredible place to be, for many reasons.
In this case I will focus on the fact that we have a
sub/unconscious mind and a conscious mind. Our
conscious mind functions with logic and reason,
and thinks it is in control. At the same time,
our unconscious mind functions quite simply in the
realm of knowns and unknowns, and can often override
conscious choices when at odds with the conscious part
of our mind.

Our unconscious works with - and keeps - the "knowns"
in play, while pushing out the unknowns. Our
unconscious mind is designed to keep us in safe and
familiar territory. The problem is that in this safe
and familiar territory, we are often limited to the
same types of experiences we have always had. As
a result resources go unused, or are underutilized.
In addition, coming from this place, we can - and
we do - sabotage ourselves.

Ever notice that consciously knowing the right
decision to make, or a good decision to take,
isn't always enough to make it happen? In
cases like these, it wouldn't be surprising to
find a level of frustration or a feeling of being
stuck in those who consciously want
to move forward and be successful, but find
themselves stuck in a rut,
not knowing how to get out of it.

The problem is that the "programming" that
goes behind our ultimate choices is
"behind the curtain." Sometimes, just like
in the Wizard of Oz, it can be scary to see
what's behind it, and that is only once
we know that we can look there for answers.

Understanding that the fear often comes
because the unconscious mind
feels threatened by the unknowns can
sometimes help navigate to new
ways of looking at things. In addition,
having someone there with you through the
process can help you to identify how
perhaps the thing behind the curtain isn't
nearly the thing you thought it was.
It might even be like the shadow on the
wall that turns out just to be someone's
hand, and after initially being scared
of this unknown, you think, "is that all?"

If you are feeling stuck, one of the best
ways I know of to shake things up is with
hypnosis. If you've never been hypnotized
you may wonder what it is like, and maybe
even have some misconceptions about what it is,
and how it works. In short form, it works
because it speaks directly to the subconscious
part of you, and because of that, it can often
be more expedient than some other methods of change.

When you come out of the hypnotic state,
it is likely you will feel
great, and will be well rested. Many report
the state so blissful that they would have
loved to stay there, or would love to go back.

There are so few times in life that
we can take the kind of break
hypnosis affords, and the best part is
that when you're done you
might be surprised to find
the perspective you have on your problem
has changed, maybe even wondering
why you ever thought it was a
problem to begin with.

If you have any questions about hypnosis,
please feel free to contact me. I am a
Certified Hypnotist who has had over 10,000 calls
from clients since 2001
(yes, hypnosis can be done over the phone!).
I am part hypnotist,
part life coach,
part intuitive and healer.
Those who find me often find that
in getting unstuck, they are better
able to understand, love, and express
their truest selves as a result
of our work together.