Saturday, February 28, 2009

Perspective: Benjamin Zander TED Talk

I saw this on Twitter today (@ponzarelli).
I have been spending so much time
there lately. I never could have imagined
the possibilities that have unfolded as a
result...however, that is a different
blog entry.

This one is about this precious video, the
precious message I received from spending
time there. The message I saw on Twitter
said it was the most ReTweeted
(for those who don't know what that means,
it was the most SHARED).

When you look at it, I am fairly certain you
will understand why.

In the video, Benjamin Zander says many
profound things. There are in 2 in particular
that stand out to me.

I will place my comments below, in case you
want to view the video first. My comments might
make more sense that way, however I hope to write
it in a way that the message may still be gotten.

Let's face it.

Sometimes it sucks to be human.

I know, not a terribly enlightening thing
to say. However, in the midst of anguish,
frustration, confusion, anger, and a
myriad of other human emotions, it would
be easy to feel like it really does suck.

It sucks because it's all you know at the

In the middle of that, there is always
an opportunity for a different perspective.

Easily attained, perhaps not.

However it IS there, waiting for its turn.

Once I heard someone say something to the
effect that life is like waves, when you're
up, you may wind up down, and when you're
down, you can look forward to going up.

I am not sure that is the most empowering
way to look at it. However, it is like
saying "being human sucks." It is an
acknowledgment of the fact that despite
our best efforts, we can't know everything
or control everyone and everything.

And despite the fact that these things
seem to be true, we don't want them to be.

I can't say anything for a fact, except
for what I am experiencing in my own life,
and even that might be open to interpretation.

However, in the exact moment of distress,
there is no other interpretation.

Having said that, I also think in my calmer,
more enlightened, moments that there are
things greater than our limited perspective.

I think that the journey we take through
all of the twists and turns, the ups and the
downs teach us something about ourselves,
and what is important - TO US.

I think that maybe life is a training ground
that never ceases to give us insights. Now
whether or not we choose to give them the
light of day is something all together

Sometimes we look for a confirmation of
an answer to a question we ask. Since we
already think we know the answer, it's the
only one we want.

The only problem comes when we don't get
the one we want. Talk about FRUSTRATION!

Maybe we could get what we wanted, however,
there is something better that comes out
of it when we don't.

In college, I got to go to England & Europe
because of a set of circumstances at the time
that seemed to me to be devastating. I had no
clue when it was happening that a great
summer in England and Europe was going to be

I would like to think that if I knew it was
going to happen that way I would have felt
better about what was happening at the time.
Maybe I would have. Maybe I could have.

But I'll never know. What I do know, however,
is that it did work out perfectly.

Did I want to know what was going to happen?

Did I need to know all of the small steps
along the way for it to work out? No.

And this, I believe, is what Benjamin
is referring to when he is discussing classical
music. There is one piece in particular
that he focuses on. In that context,
he says, it is "a piece that goes from
away to home...for me to join the B to
the E [he's referring to how the music is
written, the scale]I have to stop thinking
about every single note along the way
and start thinking about the long long
line from B to E."

This subject has been on my mind a lot
lately, as so many people I have spoken
to recently have been struggling
(myself included) in terms of finding
their way, their path, the direction
that is theirs to take.

It has been a long and winding road that
many have been frustrated with. Answers
are being sought to questions, and it
seems that many are left with the question.

I get it. Believe me, I do. I always say,
"I have more questions than answers."
Sometimes I am better with that ratio than
others. Sometimes it frustrates the heck
out of me. I WANT TO KNOW that what I am
doing is the RIGHT thing. I WANT TO KNOW
that the direction I am heading in is the

Recently, I had a session with a lovely
woman, Barbara Barnett (
and part of what I got from the session was
to just keep taking steps. Yeah, but is
each step going in the RIGHT direction???

I know it's tough to know when there's a
lot you don't know.

For me, when Benjamin said the piece was
like going from away to home, it was a metaphor
for our journey in life. The more we travel
our path, the more we are true to ourselves,
the closer we come to being "home."

The second part of what he says speaks to
the process of the journey: "for me to
join the B to the E [he's referring to how
the music is written, the scale] I have
to stop thinking about every single note
along the way and start thinking about
the long long line from B to E."

To me, it's like saying, stop paying attention
to those steps that you are taking, and think
about the big picture (the long long line) of
what my life is intended to be.

It's not to say the steps themselves are
unimportant. However, at every moment we are
moving forward. There are signs, there is
traffic, there are stop lights, there are
highways. We will find our way, just as we
would to any other place we are intending
to go.

In case you are thinking, "I don't know what
my life is intended to be!" The seeming detours
are likely to show us things that are important
for us to know about ourselves...ultimately
giving us insight into what our own unique
path is to be.

Yes. It would be great if the Purpose and
Intention Fairy would come and tell us what it
is. However, being the human that you are,
would that really work for you? My guess is
probably not.

I am unable to tell you the countless number
of times someone has either told me something
or I have told them something that didn't
click until the time was right, until there was
a moment of a receptivity to the message.

You might consider that the only reason you
don't have your answer is that you are - for
whatever reason - not currently in a place to
receive it/act on it.

If someone tells you how you should feel and why
you should feel that way, does that ever work?
Why would in work in this case? We come to
know ourselves in the context of our experiences.
Our experiences come from actions which create
results. These results create feedback, which
ultimately helps us to define who we are and
what is important to us.

Btw, remember what I said, I am in this with you,
and so are others. Yes, it helps to know that
perhaps. And yet, your experience is uniquely
yours, the "bad" and the "good."

There is no one who will ever truly know what
you feel. Somehow that might just be a good
thing because the very thing that might just
seem frustrating might be the best way for you
to come to know who you are, and what you need
to be doing, and the direction you need to take.

In the video Benjamin suggests you listen to
the piece with someone in mind. Might I suggest
something similar?

Listen to your life, like you did to the various
pieces of the composition, with yourself in mind.
When he suggested who to keep in mind, it was
like telling you to listen with your heart
instead of your head. Listen to your life from
your heart. Live your life from your heart, and
you may hear things a whole different way.

Benjamin said at one point,
"Everybody loves classical music,
they just haven't found out about it yet."

I would venture a guess that
Everybody has a life to love,
they just haven't uncovered the beauty of
what their life experience has to offer yet.


Friday, February 27, 2009

Perspective: For Parents & Others

I ran into a stranger as he passed by,
"Oh excuse me please" was my reply.

He said, "Please excuse me too;
I wasn't watching for you."

We were very polite, this stranger and I.
We went on our way and we said goodbye.

But at home a different story is told,
How we treat our loved ones, young and old.

Later that day, cooking the evening meal,
My son stood beside me very still.

When I turned, I nearly knocked him down.
"Move out of the way," I said with a frown.

He walked away, his little heart broken.
I didn't realize how harshly I'd spoken.

While I lay awake in bed,
God's still small voice came to me and said,

"While dealing with a stranger,
common courtesy you use,
but the family you love, you seem to abuse.

Go and look on the kitchen floor,
You'll find some flowers there by the door.

Those are the flowers he brought for you.
He picked them himself: pink, yellow and blue.

He stood very quietly not to spoil the surprise,
you never saw the tears that filled his little eyes."

By this time, I felt very small,
And now my tears began to fall.

I quietly went and knelt by his bed;
"Wake up, little one, wake up," I said.

"Are these the flowers you picked for me?"
He smiled, "I found 'em, out by the tree.

I picked 'em because they're pretty like you.
I knew you'd like 'em, especially the blue."

I said, "Son, I'm very sorry for the way I acted today;
I shouldn't have yelled at you that way."
He said, "Oh, that's okay.
I love you anyway."

I said, "Son, I love you too,
and I do like the flowers, especially the blue."

As heard on
Read and Shared by Rabbi Yitzchak Goldman/

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

World of Perspective Radio: Cindi Sansone-Braff

Please listen for
excerpts from interview with
Cindi Sansone-Braff,
The Romance Whisperer

Perspective: Louis CK

I saw a video today with Louis CK on Conan O'Brien's show.

Here is some comedic perspective on You Tube.

Louis CK

I was just saying the other day about how you used to
have to know what money you needed over the weekend,
otherwise you might be left without because the banks
would be closed...and now we take 24 hour access to
our money for granted.

Do you ever wonder what the world will be like when the
babies of today are parents? I am sure our ancestors
would be dumbfounded.

Monday, February 23, 2009

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune

There are many ways to the life we live,
none so right, or so profound, as the one
that is uniquely ours.

We need to get to the place that is
Separate from what you've ever done
Separate from what you'll ever do
The place you know is

-Elizabeth Alraune

Sunday, February 22, 2009

World of Perspective Radio: Dave Rudbarg

Please join me and Dave Rudbarg on
tomorrow, Monday, February 23
at 5:00PM PST/8:00PM EST.

Click show title for details on
how to listen, join the chat,
download a podcast once show is

To get a taste of what Dave's
perspective is, listen below:

Perspective: Elizabeth Alraune on Choice

Occasionally thoughts come to me, and I
write them down. Sometimes they're rather
interesting. Here are a few...tell me,
how do you feel when you read them? Do
they resonate for you? What do you get
from them? I would love to hear.


Just as you would plow a field with food,
not all would be edible, or worthy of being
put into your system, every thought is not
one you would want to keep.

It takes discernment to know what is good,
and what should be left behind. You already
have the discernment, but sometimes, give a
blind eye, looking to fill up the pots.

Sometimes you fill yourself with junk, just
to be full. Whoever said full was a good
thing. It leaves no room for anything else
to enter the picture.

It leaves no room for new understanding. It
leaves only something stale and stagnant.

You must be able to see how the world is
getting more and more FULL of pain, of sadness,
of anguish in its efforts to be FULL...

Always looking for something, and gobbling
everything along the way. You must know that
you are able to discern AND you must discern
AND you must guide your choices by your

Any piece on its own fails to stand, and all
parts are equally important to notice and
nurture. You must understand the nature of
choice. It is something present at every
moment, and a lack of conscious choice, is
a choice to fill yourself up with the equivalent
of junk food.

- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)

Perspective Short: Frederick Buechner on Vocation

Where your deepest gladness and the
world’s deepest hunger meet,
that’s your vocation.
- Frederick Buechner

a strong impulse or inclination
to follow a particular activity
or career.

Would you agree?

Saturday, February 21, 2009

Perspective: A Unique Barter

When Dr. Lisa Love was on
this past Thursday, we spoke some about bartering.
I had mentioned that I saw value in bartering
for something I didn't necessarily need because
it could be something I could use as currency
for barter with someone who couldn't use my
hypnosis (or other services).

Sometimes we get caught in our limited boxes,
and have limited results as a result.

Today I saw this video which seems to me to be
the ultimate in barters. Kudos to the hospital
for orchestrating this. How many answers might
we find when we stretch ourselves?

Your thoughts?

Perspective: Love

I just saw this video,
and wanted to share it

Enjoy the perspective,
with Love.

Perspective: Living in Community (The LINC Pages Blog)

Recently Greg Mooers was on the
show, and he was speaking about how he views networking.

(If you haven't heard the conversation yet, visit the Radio Show
site, and visit the archives. You can download a podcast.)

He has some pretty great ideas, and I have been looking for ways
to implement these ideas. Today I began a new one:

In part, the idea is to hook up people who want something to those
who love to do what they want.

As I move forward, I will be adding people to the blog who share
with me what they love to do, and what it is that they want. My
desire, my hope, my wish, is that you will go there from time to
time, and check these folks out and contact them. I also encourage
you to leave comments about the person in the entry about them,
so that others can get to know a little more.

There is a keyword list, so you will be able to seek out specific
things that are of interest.

If you would like to be included, please provide me the following

Your Name
What you love to do/what makes your heart sing
What you want that would make you feel really good to get
Contact information (which can include)
Your Twitter ID
Your Page on Facebook/Facebook ID
Your Phone Number
Your Website
Your MySpace Page
Suggested keywords

Once you are there, please let me know how it goes. If you find
others there that you connect with, please also give me feedback.

I am looking to make this as useful as possible. If you have
any questions, please let me know, and feel free to pass this

Thanks for your interest!

Friday, February 20, 2009

Perspective: Everything is Relative

A great exercise in Perspective:

Perspective: 90 year old back to work

This is an interesting story/video.
This 90-year-old man lost his life's savings
of $700,000 because of Madoff. What is so
amazing to me is his resiliency, and his
"you do what you gotta do" attitude. His
wife's perspective is pretty amazing, too.

I suspect there is something we all can
learn from them/this situation.

Watch more AOL News videos on AOL Video

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Perspective: Genius Unique Creative

World of Perspective Radio: Dr. Lisa Love

Dr. Lisa Love will be on tonight @7:00PST/10EST.

We will be discussing the current economic situation, and how to use the Law of Attraction to understand and improve what is going on. Is it possible some good could be coming out of this? If so, how can we use the law of attraction to create a better world to live in? Let's talk about where we have been, where we are now, and where we'd like to go...and discuss just how we plan to get there.

Come and join us!

Perspective: Dave Markowitz - Excerpt

Here's an excerpt from the interview with Dave Markowitz.


Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Perspective Short: Howard Fine - Possibility

As heard on
Confessions of a Teen Idol
Episode 7, Act 6

"You have to ask yourself,
do I continue to do exactly
what I was doing, and here's
where I have gotten, or do
I look at another possibility
and see where I might go."
- Howard Fine, Acting Coach

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Perspective: Human Connection & Conflict

What if the following statement is true?

The soul desires connection rather than conflict,
and yet conflict can become that connection.

- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)

Sunday, February 15, 2009

Perspective: Dave Markowitz

Perspectives: A Radical Approach to Healing
MONDAY, February 16, 2009 3:00 PST/6:00 EST

Join me and my guest, Dave Markowitz ( when we discuss mind/body medicine, personal empowerment, and healing. Call in and listen, and/or ask Dave questions about what is happening with you. During the show he will provide intuitive readings that relate to what is happening with you physically.

If anything is telling you to join us, listen to it, you'll be glad you did. Listening alone will likely be a great and helpful experience. However, you will find it even more helpful if you take advantage of being able to speak with him live.

Dave has lectured for thousands and worked with an uncountable number of clients over the last decade. He has lectured with Deepak Chopra and Gary Null, and has appeared on ABC News, and currently writes a column for Mystic Pop Magazine.

You can send questions ahead of time to, and/or join us in the chat room at the time of the show. To get the call in number, listen online, or join in the chat, please visit

Perspective Short: Buddha on Love

Love in the past is only a memory
Love in the future is only fantasy
It is only here and now
that we can truly love.
- Buddha

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Perspective: Being True to Yourself

Have you seen this show...? I am hooked. I even wrote a blog entry about it previously ( There are so many rich attributes to the show, and I am amazed when I hear someone pooh-pooh it because of superficial reasons. This clip is a preview of the next episode. You can watch all episodes online at

I especially love what Jeremy says at the beginning of it. We're all on our own journey, and everyone has an opinion, and sometimes it's difficult to know when to remain true to ourselves, to listen to other people, or to know when to strike a compromise.

Isn't it amazing, though, when you know you are listening to your inner voice, and succeed? The key is to develop that relationship with yourself and nurture it, so that you know you can trust it. If you are uncertain how to do that, let's talk...I won't give you answers, and I'll help you find them from within yourself.

Enjoy the video!

Friday, February 13, 2009

Perspective on Words: Meaning and Misunderstanding

I know what I meant by what I said,
and I know, based on your reply,
what you think I meant,
and they're not the same thing.

Ever have this experience? I asked
someone if they have an email
address for me.

He replied by giving me his email
address. When I asked again, he
still wanted to give me his. He
must have thought that I didn't
get it the first time.

What I actually meant was, did he
have an email where he could write
TO ME, if he wanted to.

It could have been any other
conversation, on any other topic.
I am sure, if you thought about it,
you would see examples of it in
your own life.

It happens all of the time.

We think we speak the same language
because we use the same words.
However, words are just a vehicle
for the meanings and interpretations
that the words "carry."

The next time before you respond
to what someone has said (especially
in a negative way), consider
s/he didn't mean what you thought
you heard, or that they heard something
different than what you meant.


Have a GREAT day!

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Thoughts

If you realize that it is quite
possible that you are what
you say you are, you may
want to consider watching
your thoughts.

When you watch them,
you are likely to find
that - just like little
children - they can, and do,
play tricks on us.

- Elizabeth Alraune

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Perspective: Tony Vear - Power of Romance

Here is a brief excerpt from the
interview from 1/10 with Tony Vear

He is offering an e-book to go along
with the show. Get the recording
from the show archives, and request
your copy.


Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Perspective: Tony Vear

Tony Vear, Love Coach will be on
today at 4PST/7EST.

The Power of Romance:
7 Keys to Making Valentine's Day EVERY Day

To those in great relationships, this conversation will likely enhance what you already have. If you are someone who is in a troubled relationship, you will hear bite-sized morsels that will help re-stoke your relationship fire.

Come, listen, and call in when I speak with Tony Vear, Love Coach, a man who has those he speaks with experience love as a state of mind, supported by practical real world actions. Find out where love is missing, and better yet, find out how to put it back into your life and relationship.

If you have any questions you would like to ask Tony ahead of time, email

Come and join us for the conversation!

Monday, February 9, 2009

Perspective Short: Failure and Perfection

The surest way to fail is to
aspire to an idea of perfection
that doesn't even exist.

- Elizabeth Alraune

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Perspective Short: Genius

Genius is nothing but a great aptitude for patience.
- George-Louis DeBuffon

Friday, February 6, 2009

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune

For as much as we uncover
there is always more to discover.
- Elizabeth Alraune

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Peace

P.eople E.verywhere C.herished & E.nlightened
- Elizabeth Alraune

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Thursday, February 5, 2009

Perspective: Reid Mihalko - Cuddle Party Creator

Please come and join Reid Mihalko
and me on
tomorrow (Friday 2/6) at 8:00PST/11:00EST

Perspective: Ben Hecht - Newspapers

Trying to determine what is
going on in the world by
reading newspapers is like
trying to tell the time by
watching the second hand
of a clock.

- Ben Hecht

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Perspective: Stumble Upon

I just found this cool site today -

It helps people wade through the large
amounts of information on the internet
by letting people focus on the things
that are important to them.

They synthesize people's ratings and
comments in a way that can potentially
be helpful to others.

It makes sense, as we all prefer to
focus on the things that matter to us.

I have incorporated a button on this
blog (on the upper left of the page),
and on the
radio page that makes it easy for you
to submit them, if you believe that
someone else would find it of interest
and/or helpful.

I would appreciate it if you'd take
a moment and do that, if you believe
that another could be benefited by
what I am creating here.

Thanks so much!

Perspective Short: Seth Godin

Selling to people who actually
want to hear from you is
more effective than interrupting
strangers who don't.

- Seth Godin

Perspective: Lotus Sutra

Listen for a couple of minutes to this,
and be amazed at how calm you feel.
Listen for a few more minutes,
and you'll zone out.
At the end you, like me, might
wonder how these sounds can affect
you as they do...and yet be grateful,
that even without understanding,
that they do. If you're stressed,
do yourself a favor,
and listen, listen
without doing anything else.

Like, WOW.

Change what you focus on, and
change how you feel.

Perspective Short: David Whyte

...the soul would much rather fail at its own life
than succeed at someone else's.

- David Whyte, Crossing the Unknown Sea

Monday, February 2, 2009

Perspective: Orin Lavie - Her Morning Elegance

By the way this video is manipulated,
it looks "real" in its own way.
I love the creativity of it.

It is also interesting to note that
it was created from many stills.

How much life there is in something
so still. Where else might that apply?

Perspective: Greg Mooers

Greg was on the 1/29/09
show with Elizabeth Alraune.

The following is a
short excerpt.


Perspective: Nick Vujicic

How can this video have so few views?
Amazing perspectives make amazing men.
Take a look...

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune

Isn't it interesting how human beings often try to
"one up" each other, and in some way negate the
other person's experience? For some, no one's
situation could ever be as bad as their own.

In my opinion, the thing to remember is that
whatever is happening in your world to you is
never any less real than what is happening in
another's world to them.

- Elizabeth Alraune

Perspective Short: Harmony - Doug Floyd

You don't get harmony when everybody sings the same note.

- Doug Floyd

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Perspective: Jill Bolte Taylor TED Talk

This is Jill Bolte Taylor's talk
"My Stroke of Insight."

I referenced it in my 06/01/08 Blog Entry.

I thought I would share it more directly today.
Maybe you have seen it before, and like with
anything great, it is likely worth seeing again.

If you've never seen it, may I suggest you
take a few moments and spend the time, or
bookmark it, and come back to it as soon as
you are able. She is powerful and profound
and humorous.

The one piece that stands out to me at this
moment (even though there are so many
wonderful pieces) is every seeming
dilemma and difficulty there are perspectives
that can empower us...should we choose them.