Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Perspective: Accepting and Embracing Your Sexual Self

What are you hiding?

C’mon…you know you’re hiding something.

What is it? You can tell me.

It’s just between the two of us. I won’t tell anyone – and you’ll feel better if you tell someone!

Don’t believe me? Find a person that you feel is non-judgmental and that you can trust. Tell them, and see for yourself. What? You say that’s easier said than done?

What if someone seems non-judgmental, and you think you can trust them, but then you’re wrong. You certainly won’t be feeling much better when your secret is out.

You know, you’re right. But you know what else? Interestingly, more than likely that person who would be talking about your thing, has their very own thing, too…and they keep it just as tightly wrapped up as yours. They, too, wonder what others might think…wonder if they’re a bad person, or if something is wrong with them because their interest isn’t in the mainstream of the conservative, “OK” sexual realm. All the while, though, they have a sense of guilty enjoyment from the pleasure that draws them to do it in the first place.

The thing is, though, that while they’re off talking about another’s thing, they keep attention away from they own, and they are sure to let others know that they’re not like THAT. Funny how we human beings are, covering parts of ourselves that we actually have in common with others, but don’t know it because we’re too busy hiding it.

I’d be willing to bet there may even be at least one person who would read this and say, “Not me! I’m not hiding anything!” If that is you, you might want to consider if you are denying a part of yourself because you feel that it’s wrong to have the interest/desire/feeling that you have. So, truly you aren’t really hiding it, but rather just denying it…all the while you ARE IT!

Interesting, don’tja think?

Now, of course, I could be off base here. My experience is what I have come to base my thoughts on. It seems to me that sex and sexual matters are the last taboo in our society. It is the one thing that is not supposed to be “out there” for public consumption. As a pleasurable activity, some would say it isn’t even supposed to be there for private consumption. It is one of those things that is being pushed down, pushed aside, covered up, while all the time still living quite a fertile life.

Has anyone considered that the more it’s covered up and hidden, the more it is made the thing that shouldn’t be done, the more likely some will want to do it, or try it?

Ever do something that you weren’t supposed to be allowed to do – and then wonder what the charge was? Or perhaps you went the other way…you got a big charge out of it because you were doing something you weren’t supposed to do?

Think about this. People have sex in their office or an elevator, or in other “off limits” places because they’re “off limits.” It probably wasn’t until someone said; “No, this is not acceptable” that couples lined up and said, “Let’s have sex HERE!” I wonder how many people would be having sex in these types of places if suddenly anyone could do it anywhere.

Now, before you think I support having sex anywhere, let me say, given how things have been, if suddenly it was OK, I would imagine for awhile people would be doing it just about anywhere. But, I would also imagine that the reaction would wear off after a time, and people would cease to do it just because they could, but rather because they wanted to. Maybe there would even be a reversion to “let’s just do this for us” behind closed doors.

Oftentimes, I think people REACT vs. ACT. They don’t realize it at the time. But the minute someone says they can’t do something – they NEED to do that very same thing.

There’s an expression what you resist, persists. If we as a society resist certain sexual behaviors, they will likely continue on a larger scale than those who are vocal about it would like. On a more personal level, resisting a part of who you are – or think you could be – will only have that part of you continue to haunt and taunt you. Allow it, and you may find that the driving power it seemed to have diminishing, and you’ll be free to be or not to be, to do or not to do, and no longer be at its mercy.

I realize, again, that this may just sound a little too easy of a solution, while it feels to you to be quite a difficult thing to allow. However, I have had many conversations with people regarding these types of things, and once they released themselves from another’s restraints (opinions and judgments), they found relief.

Given the nature of what I have written, I feel compelled to speak to the following: as long as humans continue to make judgments about what they think is “wrong”, “right”, “good”, “bad”, there will always be a diversity of opinions on the assessments of another, based on another’s relative experience. For that reason, someone can always find a way to justify their own behavior. This article was written with the greatest of respect for people and their sexual nature. It was not intended in any way to promote any sexual behavior or tendencies.

Since I care a great deal for others, it is my belief that it is important for us to be true to ourselves, but not to the detriment of another. What has been written here was written in this context, and it is my desire that a person reading this, who has been fighting aspects of their sexual persona, has been provided a prospective that provides an alternative to their current experience.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Are YOU Psychic? Being in Tune with Your Own Inner Guidance

A few years back, I found a copy of a letter I wrote to a friend
while in college. In the letter, I described how one day I was
standing somewhere on campus, and was thinking about how
something was going to happen, and expressed being
astonished how it happened the way I thought it would -
what a "coincidence."

In 99/00, I was taking some "self-help" courses, and we had
to "interview" each other, asking questions about ourselves to
others - often times someone we really didn't know beyond
superficial contact. Many times I would get, "how did you know

Another time I was sitting in my living room, having seemingly
random thoughts, and odd ones at that. I was wondering who
in the world could die, that the world would go into mourning
for. At the time, different people crossed my mind, JFK Jr,
Mother Teresa, Lady Diana...I focused on Lady Diana, but
found myself thinking how odd it was, after all, she was so
young. My next thought, "how could she die?" was answered
with "a car accident." I immediately thought, "Someone would
likely be driving her" (as if that would prevent her from dying -
but it was the logic that I came up with in the moment.)

I remember thinking about it for a bit, and wondering how I
could say anything to anyone. This American woman, who had
no connections to anyone anywhere, and even if I did, how
crazy were these thoughts. How would I look if I even tried
to attempt to say something.

I let it go.

A few months later, while a friend was visiting, we had the
radio on, and I hear something to the effect that Lady Diana
died - in a car accident - with someone else driving.
Needless to say, I was beyond flabbergasted.

There are other seeming "coincidences" that have occurred
over the years. I have come to realize that there are very few
"random" thoughts.

I wanted to write this blog entry because there is some insight
that I have into the world of "psychics" and "intuition." I just
love how a lot of what I am interested in are things that people
seem to have very strong opinions about. Talk about feeling
just a "wee bit" uncomfortable and vulnerable.

Back in 99/00 I announced to those in the courses with me
that I was a "psychic." Everyone had been telling me I was one,
so I decided to claim it. At the time, though, it was a rather
timid claim, because I was still afraid of what others might
think of me. Even without "announcing" my intuitive ability
to my brother, most of our life he would tell me how grateful
he was that I had hogged our family's "flaky genes."

For a long time, I was very defensive about who I was and my
interests, not being understood by those closest to me, and
certainly never fit in with a majority of those around me, and
now, I was going to claim myself as "psychic," what was I

However, I did claim it, and actually began to work as an
intuitive. I actually decided I liked that word better than psychic.
Psychic can be off putting, and has lots of negative connotations.
Beside which, I never really felt like I was a "tell me about my
future" kind of person. My intuition always seemed to come
out in the context of conversations. It was never one way, and
I hated (and still do) when someone would try to put me on
the spot, and "test" me.

What I have discovered over the last several years is that what
I have, if a "gift" as some claim, is a "gift" that we all have. The
difference between me and someone else, I would contend, is
the fact that I am more open to it, and recognizing it for what
it is.

The brother I mentioned before has one of the best
intuitions of anyone I know. However, instead of recognizing
it as that, he just believes that he is "a good judge of human
character." Who is to say that being a good judge of human
character isn't tapping into one's ability to be intuitive?

By having a conversation around intuition and psychics that
is woo-woo and negative, it is no wonder that few people would
want to "claim" this ability for themselves. After all, what would
people think? The "funny" thing is, though, the more that I have
allowed myself to be free to express myself around this, the
less I have had to whisper it, and the more I find people not
only appreciating what I am saying, but also attesting to how
it aligns with their own experiences.

Working as an intuitive, I came to realize a "truth" for me that
I will share with you. I came to realize that many people who
spoke with me usually knew the answers to the questions
they were asking. They were either seeking confirmation, or
hoping for a different answer.

Sometimes what they needed was someone to talk to, or some
perspective on what was happening from someone outside the
situation. It would seem we have so few options of people
to talk to about things that can actually be helpful. This,
by the way, is not to say that intuitives are the best advisors
- I have heard some pretty awful things that some have said
- however, they are "someone" for someone who feels they have
"no one."

In addition, I also came to realize that things are ever evolving
and changing. For as much as I felt something could happen,
and it did, there were times it didn't. Can I explain it? Well, I
wish I knew how to. I have to say I have many more questions
than answers when it comes to some things.

However, the best I can say in this regard is that I believe that
if one is going to utilize a psychic, the best thing they can do
for themselves is read the answers of that person. Do they
resonate for you? If yes, and it's an answer you like, then do
what you can to support the energy around it, and encourage
it to happen. If yes, and it's an answer you don't like, then
do what you can to do things to attempt to alter the energy
around it, so that maybe you can alter the outcome.

Speaking with someone in tune with their intuition could be
equivalent to getting a "status" check. Sometimes we need to
know that our sneaking suspicions are right, and an intuitive
could (perhaps) be that meter. Even those that are around
us can be that, too, if we are willing to be in touch with
our own gut, and own what we believe to be true. However, in
any situation, whatever is read/said will be through the
filter of the person doing the speaking.

Who or what is "right" or "correct"?

The key is to start from WITHIN. When you let someone else
tell you what to believe and think, it will mess with you,
especially if your own inner guide is in disagreement.

I hope after reading this you might have an different idea of
what psychic/intuitive is, and be able to claim your own inner
guidance. At the very least, maybe consider that, like with
anything, there are those who will mislead and take advantage,
and there are those that can help and make a difference.

Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Communication

I would say without communication
few things are possible,
with it almost anything is.

-Elizabeth Alraune

Monday, April 6, 2009

Press Release: Dan Pavlik on World of Perspective Radio

How Do You Make A Dream Come True? Make A Movie About It.

Contact: Elizabeth Alraune
Phone: 818-584-1965
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Los Angeles, CA, April 6, 2009

Dan Pavlik, Director, Producer, and Writer of the film Nominated, will be a guest on on on April 16, 2009 at 6PT/9ET.

Dan has been a professional video producer for 14 years. By most measures, he has had a successful career, and yet he is risking what he has worked for by diving into the shark infested waters of independent film with the idea of a movie that he dreamt about two and a half years ago.

While he will be sharing his story, everyone has a "thing" that they wish they could do, might do, wouldda, shouldda, couldda done. As Dan says, “I may be the director of this film, however, I am also in the role of Director of my own life, just as we all are.” He notes that in the current economy, especially, it is important to see possibilities in spite of closed doors. In the world of film he, as the director, makes choices to make the best film possible, "and the choices I make aren't always advised, popular, and are sometimes risky. There are parallels to how I am in my life." We all have the possibility to direct our own lives, and he will be discussing the risks that he is taking in the context of having a life lived that is true to himself in spite of seeming obstacles.

Elizabeth Alraune, host of, welcomes Dan as a guest amidst a line up of other shows from an eclectic group of guests which have included Janet Thornburg (numerologist), Patrick Mathieu (The Bar Code Guy), and Greg Mooers (Life Camp). Ken Newman, who will be in the role of Blake Dunbar in the film also spent some time on the show recently talking about how important humor is EVERY day, and how living for the weekend is like living only 2/7 of your life.

About Nominated

This independent film will be shot in August 2009 in the San Francisco Bay Area. Pavlik is in talks with and/or seeking the talents of Dan Aykroyd, Mariel Hemingway, Willie Ames, Carl Lumbly, Brian Degan Scott, Brian Copeland, and Ken Newman. For more information about the film, visit and/or


Hosted by Elizabeth Alraune, this show has been airing since 2008. It is a show that has a premise of providing a humane and sympathetic view of the things that matter. Shows normally air live with a call in format, and past shows are available in the Archives for online listening or podcast download through ITunes. For more information, visit

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Saturday, April 4, 2009

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Love

The essence of Love is life itself.

-Elizabeth Alraune (CY)

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Love

Love is in every dot
every spec
every drop of ink
every space between
every drop of ink
in your hands
in between
the threads
of this page
in between
the molecules
of hate and rage

-Elizabeth Alraune (CY)

Friday, April 3, 2009

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Simply Complex

Oftentimes figuring out how to say
something simply
is a complex process.

-Elizabeth Alraune