Have you "met" Mark Gungor? I shared a video of his
in a previous blog. If you haven't seen it yet, check
out his Tale of Two Brains here.
I was flipping through stations the other day, and
found him on his own television show, Love, Marriage
and Stinking Thinking. The subject was: "I Have to be
Honest with My Feelings."
From what I saw, his perspective seems to be counter
to what many are saying and doing in our current
culture of "I have to be honest with my feelings."
It's not that he's saying so much that one shouldn't
be honest. It seems, in what pieces I viewed, that he
is advocating a responsibility for how one expresses
what one does. In addition, he suggests that not
everything thought need to be said to the person the
thoughts are about.
In two previous blog entries I spoke about what I
thought about words and their perceived power.
Some people believe that words do have power. I would
even say most people believe that.
If you go with that perspective, then it would seem
wise to me to be a staunch guardian of the relationship
you say means the most to you by watching what you say,
and how you say it.
It isn't an easy process. We learn many different
things in school, but we don't have classes in how to
communicate effectively with one another, or on how
to express ourselves in the best way to get our
preferred results in a way that honors all involved.
As I write this, I think back on how I have been in
relationships. I am nothing like what I used to be.
There was a time I didn't say what was on my mind, and
as a result it would fester inside of me. At the same
time, I felt like I was supposed to be letting my
feelings out, so it made it even worse.
In time, I have learned that the things that need to be
said can be said in a way that is responsible to me and
the other person, and I say them. I have also learned
how to look at other things in a different way so that
in the end, it is nothing that needs to be shared with
the other person. It was something that I just needed
to see for myself.
I suspect that this might be the kind of approach that
Mark Gungor would advocate/appreciate.
Check it out for yourself. You can see a short clip here,
and find out more info on how to see his whole show,
if you're interested.
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Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Perspective Art: Connection
ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)
When I look at the above image, I think about
what some people say about how we're all connected.
Each piece is a slightly different shape, size,
color and yet - all a part of the whole.
Kinda like the inhabitants and
geography of that
Pale Blue Dot
we know, you know?
Monday, March 2, 2009
World of Perspective Radio: Dr. Lisa Love
Interview on World-of-Perspective-Radio.com
with Dr. Lisa Love
We Are the Change: Attracting the New World We Want to Live In
with Dr. Lisa Love
We Are the Change: Attracting the New World We Want to Live In
Sunday, March 1, 2009
Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune
You are as amazing as you let yourself be.
Let me repeat that.
You
are
as
amazing
as
you
let
yourself
be.
- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)
Let me repeat that.
You
are
as
amazing
as
you
let
yourself
be.
- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Perspective: Benjamin Zander TED Talk
I saw this on Twitter today (@ponzarelli).
I have been spending so much time
there lately. I never could have imagined
the possibilities that have unfolded as a
result...however, that is a different
blog entry.
This one is about this precious video, the
precious message I received from spending
time there. The message I saw on Twitter
said it was the most ReTweeted
(for those who don't know what that means,
it was the most SHARED).
When you look at it, I am fairly certain you
will understand why.
In the video, Benjamin Zander says many
profound things. There are in 2 in particular
that stand out to me.
I will place my comments below, in case you
want to view the video first. My comments might
make more sense that way, however I hope to write
it in a way that the message may still be gotten.
Let's face it.
Sometimes it sucks to be human.
I know, not a terribly enlightening thing
to say. However, in the midst of anguish,
frustration, confusion, anger, and a
myriad of other human emotions, it would
be easy to feel like it really does suck.
It sucks because it's all you know at the
moment.
In the middle of that, there is always
an opportunity for a different perspective.
Easily attained, perhaps not.
However it IS there, waiting for its turn.
Once I heard someone say something to the
effect that life is like waves, when you're
up, you may wind up down, and when you're
down, you can look forward to going up.
I am not sure that is the most empowering
way to look at it. However, it is like
saying "being human sucks." It is an
acknowledgment of the fact that despite
our best efforts, we can't know everything
or control everyone and everything.
And despite the fact that these things
seem to be true, we don't want them to be.
I can't say anything for a fact, except
for what I am experiencing in my own life,
and even that might be open to interpretation.
However, in the exact moment of distress,
there is no other interpretation.
Having said that, I also think in my calmer,
more enlightened, moments that there are
things greater than our limited perspective.
I think that the journey we take through
all of the twists and turns, the ups and the
downs teach us something about ourselves,
and what is important - TO US.
I think that maybe life is a training ground
that never ceases to give us insights. Now
whether or not we choose to give them the
light of day is something all together
different.
Sometimes we look for a confirmation of
an answer to a question we ask. Since we
already think we know the answer, it's the
only one we want.
The only problem comes when we don't get
the one we want. Talk about FRUSTRATION!
Maybe we could get what we wanted, however,
there is something better that comes out
of it when we don't.
In college, I got to go to England & Europe
because of a set of circumstances at the time
that seemed to me to be devastating. I had no
clue when it was happening that a great
summer in England and Europe was going to be
possible.
I would like to think that if I knew it was
going to happen that way I would have felt
better about what was happening at the time.
Maybe I would have. Maybe I could have.
But I'll never know. What I do know, however,
is that it did work out perfectly.
Did I want to know what was going to happen?
Absolutely.
Did I need to know all of the small steps
along the way for it to work out? No.
And this, I believe, is what Benjamin
is referring to when he is discussing classical
music. There is one piece in particular
that he focuses on. In that context,
he says, it is "a piece that goes from
away to home...for me to join the B to
the E [he's referring to how the music is
written, the scale]I have to stop thinking
about every single note along the way
and start thinking about the long long
line from B to E."
This subject has been on my mind a lot
lately, as so many people I have spoken
to recently have been struggling
(myself included) in terms of finding
their way, their path, the direction
that is theirs to take.
It has been a long and winding road that
many have been frustrated with. Answers
are being sought to questions, and it
seems that many are left with the question.
I get it. Believe me, I do. I always say,
"I have more questions than answers."
Sometimes I am better with that ratio than
others. Sometimes it frustrates the heck
out of me. I WANT TO KNOW that what I am
doing is the RIGHT thing. I WANT TO KNOW
that the direction I am heading in is the
RIGHT one. I WANT TO KNOW - NOW!
Recently, I had a session with a lovely
woman, Barbara Barnett (reclaimbalance.com)
and part of what I got from the session was
to just keep taking steps. Yeah, but is
each step going in the RIGHT direction???
I know it's tough to know when there's a
lot you don't know.
For me, when Benjamin said the piece was
like going from away to home, it was a metaphor
for our journey in life. The more we travel
our path, the more we are true to ourselves,
the closer we come to being "home."
The second part of what he says speaks to
the process of the journey: "for me to
join the B to the E [he's referring to how
the music is written, the scale] I have
to stop thinking about every single note
along the way and start thinking about
the long long line from B to E."
To me, it's like saying, stop paying attention
to those steps that you are taking, and think
about the big picture (the long long line) of
what my life is intended to be.
It's not to say the steps themselves are
unimportant. However, at every moment we are
moving forward. There are signs, there is
traffic, there are stop lights, there are
highways. We will find our way, just as we
would to any other place we are intending
to go.
In case you are thinking, "I don't know what
my life is intended to be!" The seeming detours
are likely to show us things that are important
for us to know about ourselves...ultimately
giving us insight into what our own unique
path is to be.
Yes. It would be great if the Purpose and
Intention Fairy would come and tell us what it
is. However, being the human that you are,
would that really work for you? My guess is
probably not.
I am unable to tell you the countless number
of times someone has either told me something
or I have told them something that didn't
click until the time was right, until there was
a moment of a receptivity to the message.
You might consider that the only reason you
don't have your answer is that you are - for
whatever reason - not currently in a place to
receive it/act on it.
If someone tells you how you should feel and why
you should feel that way, does that ever work?
Why would in work in this case? We come to
know ourselves in the context of our experiences.
Our experiences come from actions which create
results. These results create feedback, which
ultimately helps us to define who we are and
what is important to us.
Btw, remember what I said, I am in this with you,
and so are others. Yes, it helps to know that
perhaps. And yet, your experience is uniquely
yours, the "bad" and the "good."
There is no one who will ever truly know what
you feel. Somehow that might just be a good
thing because the very thing that might just
seem frustrating might be the best way for you
to come to know who you are, and what you need
to be doing, and the direction you need to take.
In the video Benjamin suggests you listen to
the piece with someone in mind. Might I suggest
something similar?
Listen to your life, like you did to the various
pieces of the composition, with yourself in mind.
When he suggested who to keep in mind, it was
like telling you to listen with your heart
instead of your head. Listen to your life from
your heart. Live your life from your heart, and
you may hear things a whole different way.
Benjamin said at one point,
"Everybody loves classical music,
they just haven't found out about it yet."
I would venture a guess that
Everybody has a life to love,
they just haven't uncovered the beauty of
what their life experience has to offer yet.
Notice
the
word,
"Yet."
I have been spending so much time
there lately. I never could have imagined
the possibilities that have unfolded as a
result...however, that is a different
blog entry.
This one is about this precious video, the
precious message I received from spending
time there. The message I saw on Twitter
said it was the most ReTweeted
(for those who don't know what that means,
it was the most SHARED).
When you look at it, I am fairly certain you
will understand why.
In the video, Benjamin Zander says many
profound things. There are in 2 in particular
that stand out to me.
I will place my comments below, in case you
want to view the video first. My comments might
make more sense that way, however I hope to write
it in a way that the message may still be gotten.
Let's face it.
Sometimes it sucks to be human.
I know, not a terribly enlightening thing
to say. However, in the midst of anguish,
frustration, confusion, anger, and a
myriad of other human emotions, it would
be easy to feel like it really does suck.
It sucks because it's all you know at the
moment.
In the middle of that, there is always
an opportunity for a different perspective.
Easily attained, perhaps not.
However it IS there, waiting for its turn.
Once I heard someone say something to the
effect that life is like waves, when you're
up, you may wind up down, and when you're
down, you can look forward to going up.
I am not sure that is the most empowering
way to look at it. However, it is like
saying "being human sucks." It is an
acknowledgment of the fact that despite
our best efforts, we can't know everything
or control everyone and everything.
And despite the fact that these things
seem to be true, we don't want them to be.
I can't say anything for a fact, except
for what I am experiencing in my own life,
and even that might be open to interpretation.
However, in the exact moment of distress,
there is no other interpretation.
Having said that, I also think in my calmer,
more enlightened, moments that there are
things greater than our limited perspective.
I think that the journey we take through
all of the twists and turns, the ups and the
downs teach us something about ourselves,
and what is important - TO US.
I think that maybe life is a training ground
that never ceases to give us insights. Now
whether or not we choose to give them the
light of day is something all together
different.
Sometimes we look for a confirmation of
an answer to a question we ask. Since we
already think we know the answer, it's the
only one we want.
The only problem comes when we don't get
the one we want. Talk about FRUSTRATION!
Maybe we could get what we wanted, however,
there is something better that comes out
of it when we don't.
In college, I got to go to England & Europe
because of a set of circumstances at the time
that seemed to me to be devastating. I had no
clue when it was happening that a great
summer in England and Europe was going to be
possible.
I would like to think that if I knew it was
going to happen that way I would have felt
better about what was happening at the time.
Maybe I would have. Maybe I could have.
But I'll never know. What I do know, however,
is that it did work out perfectly.
Did I want to know what was going to happen?
Absolutely.
Did I need to know all of the small steps
along the way for it to work out? No.
And this, I believe, is what Benjamin
is referring to when he is discussing classical
music. There is one piece in particular
that he focuses on. In that context,
he says, it is "a piece that goes from
away to home...for me to join the B to
the E [he's referring to how the music is
written, the scale]I have to stop thinking
about every single note along the way
and start thinking about the long long
line from B to E."
This subject has been on my mind a lot
lately, as so many people I have spoken
to recently have been struggling
(myself included) in terms of finding
their way, their path, the direction
that is theirs to take.
It has been a long and winding road that
many have been frustrated with. Answers
are being sought to questions, and it
seems that many are left with the question.
I get it. Believe me, I do. I always say,
"I have more questions than answers."
Sometimes I am better with that ratio than
others. Sometimes it frustrates the heck
out of me. I WANT TO KNOW that what I am
doing is the RIGHT thing. I WANT TO KNOW
that the direction I am heading in is the
RIGHT one. I WANT TO KNOW - NOW!
Recently, I had a session with a lovely
woman, Barbara Barnett (reclaimbalance.com)
and part of what I got from the session was
to just keep taking steps. Yeah, but is
each step going in the RIGHT direction???
I know it's tough to know when there's a
lot you don't know.
For me, when Benjamin said the piece was
like going from away to home, it was a metaphor
for our journey in life. The more we travel
our path, the more we are true to ourselves,
the closer we come to being "home."
The second part of what he says speaks to
the process of the journey: "for me to
join the B to the E [he's referring to how
the music is written, the scale] I have
to stop thinking about every single note
along the way and start thinking about
the long long line from B to E."
To me, it's like saying, stop paying attention
to those steps that you are taking, and think
about the big picture (the long long line) of
what my life is intended to be.
It's not to say the steps themselves are
unimportant. However, at every moment we are
moving forward. There are signs, there is
traffic, there are stop lights, there are
highways. We will find our way, just as we
would to any other place we are intending
to go.
In case you are thinking, "I don't know what
my life is intended to be!" The seeming detours
are likely to show us things that are important
for us to know about ourselves...ultimately
giving us insight into what our own unique
path is to be.
Yes. It would be great if the Purpose and
Intention Fairy would come and tell us what it
is. However, being the human that you are,
would that really work for you? My guess is
probably not.
I am unable to tell you the countless number
of times someone has either told me something
or I have told them something that didn't
click until the time was right, until there was
a moment of a receptivity to the message.
You might consider that the only reason you
don't have your answer is that you are - for
whatever reason - not currently in a place to
receive it/act on it.
If someone tells you how you should feel and why
you should feel that way, does that ever work?
Why would in work in this case? We come to
know ourselves in the context of our experiences.
Our experiences come from actions which create
results. These results create feedback, which
ultimately helps us to define who we are and
what is important to us.
Btw, remember what I said, I am in this with you,
and so are others. Yes, it helps to know that
perhaps. And yet, your experience is uniquely
yours, the "bad" and the "good."
There is no one who will ever truly know what
you feel. Somehow that might just be a good
thing because the very thing that might just
seem frustrating might be the best way for you
to come to know who you are, and what you need
to be doing, and the direction you need to take.
In the video Benjamin suggests you listen to
the piece with someone in mind. Might I suggest
something similar?
Listen to your life, like you did to the various
pieces of the composition, with yourself in mind.
When he suggested who to keep in mind, it was
like telling you to listen with your heart
instead of your head. Listen to your life from
your heart. Live your life from your heart, and
you may hear things a whole different way.
Benjamin said at one point,
"Everybody loves classical music,
they just haven't found out about it yet."
I would venture a guess that
Everybody has a life to love,
they just haven't uncovered the beauty of
what their life experience has to offer yet.
Notice
the
word,
"Yet."
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Perspective: Louis CK
I saw a video today with Louis CK on Conan O'Brien's show.
Here is some comedic perspective on You Tube.
Louis CK
I was just saying the other day about how you used to
have to know what money you needed over the weekend,
otherwise you might be left without because the banks
would be closed...and now we take 24 hour access to
our money for granted.
Do you ever wonder what the world will be like when the
babies of today are parents? I am sure our ancestors
would be dumbfounded.
Here is some comedic perspective on You Tube.
Louis CK
I was just saying the other day about how you used to
have to know what money you needed over the weekend,
otherwise you might be left without because the banks
would be closed...and now we take 24 hour access to
our money for granted.
Do you ever wonder what the world will be like when the
babies of today are parents? I am sure our ancestors
would be dumbfounded.
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Perspective: Love
I just saw this video,
and wanted to share it
http://www.youarelovemovie.com/.
Enjoy the perspective,
with Love.
and wanted to share it
http://www.youarelovemovie.com/.
Enjoy the perspective,
with Love.
Perspective: Living in Community (The LINC Pages Blog)
Recently Greg Mooers was on the World-of-Perspective-Radio.com
show, and he was speaking about how he views networking.
(If you haven't heard the conversation yet, visit the Radio Show
site, and visit the archives. You can download a podcast.)
He has some pretty great ideas, and I have been looking for ways
to implement these ideas. Today I began a new one:
http://thelincpages.blogspot.com/.
In part, the idea is to hook up people who want something to those
who love to do what they want.
As I move forward, I will be adding people to the blog who share
with me what they love to do, and what it is that they want. My
desire, my hope, my wish, is that you will go there from time to
time, and check these folks out and contact them. I also encourage
you to leave comments about the person in the entry about them,
so that others can get to know a little more.
There is a keyword list, so you will be able to seek out specific
things that are of interest.
If you would like to be included, please provide me the following
information:
Your Name
What you love to do/what makes your heart sing
What you want that would make you feel really good to get
Contact information (which can include)
Your Twitter ID
Your Page on Facebook/Facebook ID
Your Phone Number
Your Website
Your MySpace Page
Suggested keywords
Once you are there, please let me know how it goes. If you find
others there that you connect with, please also give me feedback.
I am looking to make this as useful as possible. If you have
any questions, please let me know, and feel free to pass this
along.
Thanks for your interest!
Elizabeth
show, and he was speaking about how he views networking.
(If you haven't heard the conversation yet, visit the Radio Show
site, and visit the archives. You can download a podcast.)
He has some pretty great ideas, and I have been looking for ways
to implement these ideas. Today I began a new one:
http://thelincpages.blogspot.com/.
In part, the idea is to hook up people who want something to those
who love to do what they want.
As I move forward, I will be adding people to the blog who share
with me what they love to do, and what it is that they want. My
desire, my hope, my wish, is that you will go there from time to
time, and check these folks out and contact them. I also encourage
you to leave comments about the person in the entry about them,
so that others can get to know a little more.
There is a keyword list, so you will be able to seek out specific
things that are of interest.
If you would like to be included, please provide me the following
information:
Your Name
What you love to do/what makes your heart sing
What you want that would make you feel really good to get
Contact information (which can include)
Your Twitter ID
Your Page on Facebook/Facebook ID
Your Phone Number
Your Website
Your MySpace Page
Suggested keywords
Once you are there, please let me know how it goes. If you find
others there that you connect with, please also give me feedback.
I am looking to make this as useful as possible. If you have
any questions, please let me know, and feel free to pass this
along.
Thanks for your interest!
Elizabeth
Friday, February 20, 2009
Perspective: 90 year old back to work
This is an interesting story/video.
This 90-year-old man lost his life's savings
of $700,000 because of Madoff. What is so
amazing to me is his resiliency, and his
"you do what you gotta do" attitude. His
wife's perspective is pretty amazing, too.
I suspect there is something we all can
learn from them/this situation.
This 90-year-old man lost his life's savings
of $700,000 because of Madoff. What is so
amazing to me is his resiliency, and his
"you do what you gotta do" attitude. His
wife's perspective is pretty amazing, too.
I suspect there is something we all can
learn from them/this situation.
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Thursday, February 19, 2009
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Perspective Short: Howard Fine - Possibility
As heard on
Confessions of a Teen Idol
Episode 7, Act 6
"You have to ask yourself,
do I continue to do exactly
what I was doing, and here's
where I have gotten, or do
I look at another possibility
and see where I might go."
- Howard Fine, Acting Coach
Confessions of a Teen Idol
Episode 7, Act 6
"You have to ask yourself,
do I continue to do exactly
what I was doing, and here's
where I have gotten, or do
I look at another possibility
and see where I might go."
- Howard Fine, Acting Coach
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Perspective: Human Connection & Conflict
What if the following statement is true?
The soul desires connection rather than conflict,
and yet conflict can become that connection.
- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)
The soul desires connection rather than conflict,
and yet conflict can become that connection.
- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)
Saturday, February 14, 2009
Perspective: Being True to Yourself
Have you seen this show...? I am hooked. I even wrote a blog entry about it previously (http://a-world-of-perspective.blogspot.com/2009/01/confessions-of-teen-idol.html). There are so many rich attributes to the show, and I am amazed when I hear someone pooh-pooh it because of superficial reasons. This clip is a preview of the next episode. You can watch all episodes online at vh1.com.
I especially love what Jeremy says at the beginning of it. We're all on our own journey, and everyone has an opinion, and sometimes it's difficult to know when to remain true to ourselves, to listen to other people, or to know when to strike a compromise.
Isn't it amazing, though, when you know you are listening to your inner voice, and succeed? The key is to develop that relationship with yourself and nurture it, so that you know you can trust it. If you are uncertain how to do that, let's talk...I won't give you answers, and I'll help you find them from within yourself.
Enjoy the video!
I especially love what Jeremy says at the beginning of it. We're all on our own journey, and everyone has an opinion, and sometimes it's difficult to know when to remain true to ourselves, to listen to other people, or to know when to strike a compromise.
Isn't it amazing, though, when you know you are listening to your inner voice, and succeed? The key is to develop that relationship with yourself and nurture it, so that you know you can trust it. If you are uncertain how to do that, let's talk...I won't give you answers, and I'll help you find them from within yourself.
Enjoy the video!
Friday, February 13, 2009
Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Thoughts
If you realize that it is quite
possible that you are what
you say you are, you may
want to consider watching
your thoughts.
When you watch them,
you are likely to find
that - just like little
children - they can, and do,
play tricks on us.
- Elizabeth Alraune
possible that you are what
you say you are, you may
want to consider watching
your thoughts.
When you watch them,
you are likely to find
that - just like little
children - they can, and do,
play tricks on us.
- Elizabeth Alraune
Thursday, February 12, 2009
Perspective: Tony Vear - Power of Romance
Here is a brief excerpt from the
World-of-Perspective-Radio.com
interview from 1/10 with Tony Vear
(TonysLoveLetter.com)
He is offering an e-book to go along
with the show. Get the recording
from the show archives, and request
your copy.
Enjoy!
World-of-Perspective-Radio.com
interview from 1/10 with Tony Vear
(TonysLoveLetter.com)
He is offering an e-book to go along
with the show. Get the recording
from the show archives, and request
your copy.
Enjoy!
Monday, February 9, 2009
Perspective Short: Failure and Perfection
The surest way to fail is to
aspire to an idea of perfection
that doesn't even exist.
- Elizabeth Alraune
aspire to an idea of perfection
that doesn't even exist.
- Elizabeth Alraune
Sunday, February 8, 2009
Perspective: Trey Ratcliff
Here's an excerpt from Trey Ratcliff's appearance
on World-of-Perspective-Radio.com from 2/6/09.
To download a full podcast, visit the Archives
at World-of-Perspective-Radio.com.
on World-of-Perspective-Radio.com from 2/6/09.
To download a full podcast, visit the Archives
at World-of-Perspective-Radio.com.
Perspective: Reid Mihalko - Cuddle Party Creator
Here's an excerpt from Reid Mihalko's appearance
on World-of-Perspective-Radio.com from 2/6/09.
To download a full podcast, visit the Archives
at World-of-Perspective-Radio.com.
on World-of-Perspective-Radio.com from 2/6/09.
To download a full podcast, visit the Archives
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Perspective Short: Trey Ratcliff
As heard on the 2/7/09
World-of-Perspective-Radio.com Show:
I like to say that left brain
is for getting through life,
but the right brain is for living.
- Trey Ratcliff (www.StuckinCustoms.com)
World-of-Perspective-Radio.com Show:
I like to say that left brain
is for getting through life,
but the right brain is for living.
- Trey Ratcliff (www.StuckinCustoms.com)
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