Perspective Short

The years were short, the days were long.
- Unknown

Playing with Perspective

Today I saw a link that explains
how to approach the questions
you want to ask when looking for
a job, and wanting to be hired.

Ask some of the questions one way,
and you will be perceived in a
negative light. Ask it in
another way, and you might find
the person more receptive you.

For the 10 question never to ask
in job interviews click here.

The question I have always wondered
around this is...doesn't everyone
know what is really happening, what's
really being said, any way?

The point I would imagine is more
along the lines of a person's
intention. Of course, any employer
will want the best intentions from
a potential hire. However, there is
no real way, in my mind, to gauge
that in any "practical" sense...at
least not in words only.

I would suggest that these little
games we play would be unnecessary
if all parties involved could look
at the situation with respect,
and honoring the parties involved.

When I read number 10, and about
having more than 2 weeks to get
started, it made it seem like in
some employer's minds it would be
a negative.

C'mon now...who wouldn't
mind some time off between jobs,
especially if you know it'll be
some time until you are able to
take vacation?

If you weren't employed, maybe
you need some time to get things
together before returning to work.
Why does that say somehow that
you don't really want the job?

Why can't we just talk to each
other about the things that matter
to us in a way that is productive
and helpful, rather than feeling
like we need to conceal parts of
ourselves?

In some ways, it seems very much
like some relationships, and in some
ways, it's not much better there.

Let's make ourselves look as good
as possible, and then, once there
is a commitment, all bets are off.

Then let's see who is willing to
communicate, negotiate and, in the
end dissolve the relationship, if
necessary?

Wouldn't it be so much better to
know what we are getting into?
It would seem to me to be a way
of preparing everyone for the
best possible outcome.

I realize it's not that simple.
But, oh, how I wish it was.

At the same time, it is as simple
as our willingness to speak up and
be true to ourselves.

A Perspective Short

I put the "pro" in procrastination.
- Unknown

Change Your Perspective & Change Your World

A few years back, long before so many had
lost their job, many were losing their jobs,
and one day I was in a crazy, long line of
employment seekers in NYC.

An idea came to me that we so often are
around, and talk to, people who know people
who could help us, but we'd never know it
because we view things superficially.

We know what we know, and do what we do,
and if the other person is unable to help
us, well, then that is where our
communications begin and end.

I had this idea that if we were to be aware
of the idea that someone may know of someone
who might know of someone that could help us,
and we looked beyond the immediate, there
might just be a goldmine awaiting us.

Given the job environment currently, it
occurs to me that this is a time more than ever
that this type of approach could be more than
helpful. Yes, many have lost jobs, however,
I would have to guess that there are
opportunities to be found, if only there was
someone that could wave a flag and say, "HERE"!

I could be wrong, however, the only way it
seems to me to find out is to try something
to encourage new ways to connect to the
opportunities. Your best friend across country
may have relatives where you are, or friends of
theirs that could help you in your own
backyard.

Recently there was a news story about 2 brothers
who found each other blocks away in Chicago
long after one of them had been put up for
adoption. They were right near each other, and
didn't even know it.

How many opportunities do we have that are so
close, and we're just not aware because we are
in our own world?

Granted, in this day and age, there is great
reason for caution and skepticism, we have some
very unfortunate examples of things that give
us a good cause to pause. However, there are
people and organizations that, if given the
opportunity, will show the beauty of what is
possible within the human spirit and family.

I am a great believer in our intuitive abilities.
I believe in them because so many times I have
seen them be accurate, especially after failing
to pay attention to them has kicked a person
in the butt...and, of course, I speak of first
hand experiences. However, as a life coach and
hypnotist, I have seen it happen for many others
as well.

Maybe this is a sign of the times that we need
to start really LISTENING to what our guts tell
us, instead of hoping otherwise, or logically
talking ourselves out of decisions that likely
are our best choice.

I say this because when we shrink our world,
our opportunities do as well. The more skeptical
we become, the less likely we are to take
chances...and they may very well be the ones
that we are meant to take, and would give us the
very thing we have been wanting.

Be wise, be cautious, and at the same time, live
from your heart. Your heart always knows. Your
heart may not always give you the answer your
mind would demand, but your heart will never
steer you wrong.

There is a saying that insanity is doing the same
thing over and over expecting the different results.
Looking for a job the same old way doesn't seem
to be working for many at this time.

I have come up with an idea that is certainly
rough around the edges, and I believe it could work,
as long as there are people who are willing to
reach out, and spend time with other people to
see where there may be connections, ways to help.

For me personally, there is nothing better than
connecting with a person, and seeing what he or
she has to offer. I may not be able to use it
just then, or at all, but there may be others that
could benefit, and there is nothing cooler than
to be able to hook these people up.

I realize that may not be the case for everyone.
However, when I think about it, I would rather
have an opportunity presented to me because of
my interactions with others than to be hanging
by the threads of some employment agency that just
sees me as one of many.

The idea I have developed is presented in audio
form, in the left column of this blog, at the
top of the page. It is approximately 7 minutes
long. I invite you to listen, and see if it
might be something you are interested in.

If you are remotely interested, please give me
the opportunity to speak with you, and get to
know you, and see what possibilities might exist.

I am also working on a series of internet radio
shows that will help to support those who are
needing work, as well as other things. I invite
you to visit www.World-of-Perspective-Radio.com
for details.

Have you ever looked up at the sky and when you
look in one direction see the sun but when you
look in the other one see only clouds?

It's all the sky, however, where you look is
everything in terms of what you experience.

Right now there is so much going on that would
show us only clouds and storms. If we look
closely, though, there is likely some sun if
we let ourselves view these circumstances through
different eyes.

Maybe now is the time we need to look at our lives
differently. Maybe now is the time we need to
stop settling for less than what we know we are
capable of. Sometimes when we don't make changes
our own we get help in the form of things we
never would want to happen.

Maybe now is a lesson in living into the things
that matter to us, or maybe it is in learning that
our true value isn't wrapped up in a paycheck
or our belongings, or maybe it is in finding
that we have been hiding ourselves in the facade
that we think is our life.

Unfortunately, at first glance and experience, these
may be terrible things, and if it is anything like
I just described, our walls come tumbling down when
we least feel prepared for it. The good part is
that when we get through to the other side we are
able to reflect and appreciate when things fell
apart because they made way for us to truly be
ourselves.

In case you are in the midst of virtual storms
right now, and think that I could be just saying
words, let me tell you that I know something of
what I speak.

In 1999, I lost my last "real" job - you know, one
that pays you for time off, decides how much money
you are worth, tells you when you need to work,
and you get benefits. It was not the first time
I got laid off, but it was the one that got me
looking at life differently.

I struggled. I got into financial problems. At
one point I was working 4 jobs, making no money at
any of them. Things really sucked, and then I
had to move.

I wondered how much worse bad could get. I went
to get aide to pay my electric bill. Collectors
were calling me. I felt worthless. It was a
horrible time in my life.

I remind myself of that time from time to time to
show myself that I am able to get through it all
because I am now living on the other side of the
country, and working on my own is what got me here.

Never in a million years did I see how that would
be/could be possible back during my roughest times.
It was nothing that I could even imagine as a
possibility.

So before you think I am just talking, please
realize that you are not the only one questioning
yourself, your life, your choices, where to go
from here.

If you are troubled by your current life's
perspective, consider that there might just be
another one...one that - in a moment - or in time -
will show up as a gift, a gift of yourself.

It will show up as an opportunity to be who you
are in ways you never knew you could be.

If you need someone to talk to, I would like to
offer myself. Please make contact with me if you
think that I could help.

There is nothing worse than feeling alone, and
out of sorts, and wondering how much worse bad
can get.

If you are interested, I will share with you
how I got out of it. It is an interesting story.

All the BEST to you, to ALL of us.
The world needs the best of us more now,
maybe more than it ever did in our lifetimes,
any way. It may difficult to consider,
but what is happening now might just be
laying the groundwork for that to happen.

Just a thought.

Somehow...

I think the man in the following story
had a different perspective than God.

Sometimes it helps to make sure that
the words we speak, and the intentions
we seek, align with the perspective
of the other person.

We are more likely to get the things and
outcomes we want in life when we
understand that words can be interpreted
different ways by different people. I
would suggest that this perspective allows
for flexible, and quite likely more
effective, communications.

Too bad this guy didn't seem to know that.
:-)

*****************************************

An atheist was walking through the woods.

"What majestic trees!
What powerful rivers!
What beautiful animals!"
He said to himself.

As he was walking alongside the river,
he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him.

He turned to look.
He saw a 7-foot grizzly bear
charge toward him.

He ran as fast as he could up the path.
He looked over his shoulder &
saw that the bear was closing in on him.

He looked over his shoulder again,
& the bear was even closer.

He tripped & fell on the ground.

He rolled over to pick himself up but
saw that the bear was right on top of him,
reaching for him with his left paw &
raising his right paw to strike him.

At that instant the Atheist cried out,
"Oh my God!"

Time Stopped.
The bear froze.
The forest was silent.

As a bright light shone upon the man,
a voice came out of the sky.

"You deny my existence for all these years,
teach others I don't exist and
even credit creation to cosmic accident.

Do you expect me to help you
out of this predicament?

Am I to count you as a believer?"

The atheist looked directly into the light,
"It would be hypocritical of me
to suddenly ask you to treat me
as a Christian now, but perhaps
you could make the BEAR a Christian?"

"Very well," said the voice.

The light went out.
The sounds of the forest resumed.
And the bear dropped his right paw,
brought both paws together,
bowed his head & spoke:
"Lord bless this food,
which I am about to receive
from thy bounty through
Christ our Lord, Amen."

Feeling Stuck?

Have you ever wondered why you pay a profession for their
service, product and/or opinion, and then proceed to do
nothing with it, or listen to the advice that comes along
with it? Maybe you buy a program, and then put it on
the shelf?

If you are like many others, you likely do exactly as I
described above, and then, better yet, proceed to kick
yourself for not following through, wasting money, or
any number of less than positive things.

Did you know when you do - or don't do - something,
it is very likely that you have your own best interests
in mind? Yes, I know it sounds odd to say that,
so I will explain.

Our mind is an incredible place to be, for many reasons.
In this case I will focus on the fact that we have a
sub/unconscious mind and a conscious mind. Our
conscious mind functions with logic and reason,
and thinks it is in control. At the same time,
our unconscious mind functions quite simply in the
realm of knowns and unknowns, and can often override
conscious choices when at odds with the conscious part
of our mind.

Our unconscious works with - and keeps - the "knowns"
in play, while pushing out the unknowns. Our
unconscious mind is designed to keep us in safe and
familiar territory. The problem is that in this safe
and familiar territory, we are often limited to the
same types of experiences we have always had. As
a result resources go unused, or are underutilized.
In addition, coming from this place, we can - and
we do - sabotage ourselves.

Ever notice that consciously knowing the right
decision to make, or a good decision to take,
isn't always enough to make it happen? In
cases like these, it wouldn't be surprising to
find a level of frustration or a feeling of being
stuck in those who consciously want
to move forward and be successful, but find
themselves stuck in a rut,
not knowing how to get out of it.

The problem is that the "programming" that
goes behind our ultimate choices is
"behind the curtain." Sometimes, just like
in the Wizard of Oz, it can be scary to see
what's behind it, and that is only once
we know that we can look there for answers.

Understanding that the fear often comes
because the unconscious mind
feels threatened by the unknowns can
sometimes help navigate to new
ways of looking at things. In addition,
having someone there with you through the
process can help you to identify how
perhaps the thing behind the curtain isn't
nearly the thing you thought it was.
It might even be like the shadow on the
wall that turns out just to be someone's
hand, and after initially being scared
of this unknown, you think, "is that all?"

If you are feeling stuck, one of the best
ways I know of to shake things up is with
hypnosis. If you've never been hypnotized
you may wonder what it is like, and maybe
even have some misconceptions about what it is,
and how it works. In short form, it works
because it speaks directly to the subconscious
part of you, and because of that, it can often
be more expedient than some other methods of change.

When you come out of the hypnotic state,
it is likely you will feel
great, and will be well rested. Many report
the state so blissful that they would have
loved to stay there, or would love to go back.

There are so few times in life that
we can take the kind of break
hypnosis affords, and the best part is
that when you're done you
might be surprised to find
the perspective you have on your problem
has changed, maybe even wondering
why you ever thought it was a
problem to begin with.

If you have any questions about hypnosis,
please feel free to contact me. I am a
Certified Hypnotist who has had over 10,000 calls
from clients since 2001
(yes, hypnosis can be done over the phone!).
I am part hypnotist,
part life coach,
part intuitive and healer.
Those who find me often find that
in getting unstuck, they are better
able to understand, love, and express
their truest selves as a result
of our work together.

A Peaceful Perspective

Here is a peaceful, soothing recording
that is only 6 minutes long.
Listen online, and if you enjoy it,
you can get the .MP3 recording -
for free, by emailing
innerpeace@gotstressgetrelief.com.

15 Essential Things to Ask Yourself

Sometimes the questions
we ask ourselves
are more important
than the answers we seek.

To find out the
15 Essential Things to Ask Yourself
visit www.15Essentials.com.