World of Perspective

A Letter of Love

2010-07-06T15:34:00.000-07:00

I continue to share these Letters of Love for what they may offer you. While they are often written for someone specific, there are many times the message is more universally felt. If you'd like one of your own (which will be kept confidential and private, if you want it to be) visit Notes-of-Love.com for info.

You will survive this. This is a blip in your radar screen. You have taken huge steps along the path of life, and have moved up each time. You must recognize the progress instead of focusing on the losses and pain. It is really a perceived loss which isn’t a loss at all. It may seem to be one, and yet you will gain more than you could possibly imagine from this time. You have no idea what is in store for you, and each step you take brings you closer.

Before XXXXX you were resigned. You thought there would be no one. Had you ended life, you would have missed the incredible time that you had with XXXXX and the awesome gift you got from it. You can’t see the big picture, but you can see the smaller parts, and while some may look like tears, they may be flowers yet to bloom.

Who you are is not who you’ve been. You would never have been able to have an experience like this with who you once were. You had to give up certain ways of looking at things to allow for this to happen. You had to give up who you believed yourself to be. Each step is an important step, and you must trust the love that brought you here.

We know you are thinking and believing that love brought you to pain. But love only brought you an experience. Your perspective created the pain, and in the same way it was created, you can allow yourself to let it go. You can finally allow the anger of your past and not being able to express yourself and not being heard, go. You can express yourself and be heard at any time to anyone anywhere. You don’t need an acknowledgment of your expressions. You don’t need someone to validate them – or you.

You wouldn’t be sitting here, learning of this lesson, had it not been for what has occurred. And it is a perspective worthy of absorbing and growing from. When you look back at XXX you see so much of who you became because of what happened. You had so much to give, and got so little in return, and yet you allowed yourself to express yourself and you allowed yourself to love. You have received some very profound gifts that you have been able to share with others.

And we hear, what about ME?

What about you? You are who we are. We are you. You are others. Others are you. It is all ONE. And when you realize that you will be giving yourself the greatest of all gifts because within that there is no lack. There is only support. There is only Love. There is only growth. Understanding. Compassion. Love. All of the things that you think you seek. They’re all within you right this very moment. When you acknowledge them, you no longer feel the need to be filled. There is no need when there is plenty. When love overflows, nothing is left in want. Nothing. Not even you. You give of love, and you have love. It really is that simple. You are love, you are in love. There is no love to find, and there is no love to give, as love is already in place for everyone at every moment, every where.

Acknowledgement is what is needed more than love. Because LOVE is present right now. Right this moment you can be embraced in love. You can feel love. You can know love. Right this moment, and it is not conditional on anyone anywhere. It is NOW. You can feel the shift in your energy with these words. You can feel how things move without moving.

Life is fertile. Life is ever changing. The mistake people make is in believing that things will stay the same. An even bigger mistake is wanting them to stay the same. They have an opportunity to always be, and get, better, and yet human beings hold onto the old, the known, and the things they think they want, and they run the risk of losing out on the things they truly do.

The time for those to awaken to the things that truly matter is now. The things that truly matter never have price tags, despite what others believe to be true. Many think that value needs to have a number assigned to it. That is why there are lists. That is why there are boxes. That is why there are graphs, bar charts, bank accounts. That is why there are ratings. That is why there are so many things that divert from the things that are lacking in form - physical form, that is.

The physical form of something is only an eggshell. It is only a covering. Knock it the right way and it can crack. Knock it a different way, and the shell can be remarkably strong, keeping things out, and other things in. Limitations are formed when a form is attempted to be maintained…it doesn’t matter what that is from a relationship to a vehicle, to another type of vehicle, the body. Everything has a form, and every form can and will change moment to moment. And what you do with it will have you standing, sitting, crying, crawling. You may want to crawl into a corner to think that you are safe. The problem is that corner isn’t safe. That corner is as flexible and changeable as anything else. There isn’t much between you and the outside world, and it can be gone in one fell swoop by words or actions, by creation or by destruction.

You create when you grow or you destruct. The difference is only a matter of perspective. Which is it that you do? Do you grow or do you destruct? It’s all the same in terms of the energy and the result, however, it is what you see and what you experience that will take you to the next moment of growth which is right now and now and now and now. It is endless and it is unstoppable.

The question is how unstoppable are you and how unstoppable are you willing to be?

Perspective Short: Knowledge (CY)

2010-07-03T13:09:00.000-07:00

"Listen and learn and you will be amazed
at what you will teach yourself
about what you already KNOW."

- Elizabeth Alraune (CY)

Perspective Short: Perfection

2010-07-02T21:26:00.000-07:00

What if perfection doesn't look
the way we think it should?

What if nothing's perfect
and everything is?

Elizabeth Alraune

A Letter of Love

2010-06-29T22:43:00.000-07:00

6-29-10 10:04 PM

Mankind has thought for a long time that when it improved his situation, he was making life better. The problem and the answer were both deceptive. There never really was a problem, so there was really no answer to be found.

Man is very clever, but he must learn when to say no to the things of his imaginings. Not everything that man becomes aware of must be acted on and not everything is going to make life any better.

He must learn this lesson by either being simpler or being made to be simpler.

Man is very jealous of other men and is always seeking ways to up himself over another. There have always been competitions to prove one's worth and one's mettle. Over time the competitions may have changed, but the competitive piece remains, and in competition is destruction.

There may be the illusion of unity, however, the pieces that are in unison are working against the other pieces. Whenever there is competition there is weakness instead of strength. There is confusion instead of clarity. Mankind must begin to realize that the very thing that he aspires to, the very thing that he dreams of the very things he wishes for are all inside of himself. He must realize that the world outside is only a distraction.

The environment in which he lives is being threatened one thought at a time.

Man has become more distracted through the generations. He was never meant to become distracted. The things that have drawn his attention were meant to be tools to learn to compare to contrast to be able to see what was of value however instead of things showing what was of value things became the value...and until man is able to go within he is going to have to at times go without.

There is great abundance in the world, and yet all of the clutter is having it disappear and fog over. It is becoming uncertain and the world is turning in ways it doesn’t need to because of the distractions. Mankind can begin to alter the external world by allowing itself to view the internal one.

He must be able and willing to go within and look at himself and see himself clearly and when he does the world will clear up as well. Until then it is like a foggy cloudy nightmare and even though the sun does shine, it is no where to be found for some. The world needs its inhabitants to be able to see the sun shining for the world to get what it needs.

For in darkness there is only death and despair, and while they are true and real emotions, there is a transformation that is possible with even one ray of sunshine. One ray of sunshine is all it takes to make a difference, and each person can be their own ray, if they are willing to get out of their own way and stop paying attention to what is going on with their neighbor in a competitive way.

If he on the other hand is able to be friendly with his neighbor and be willing to support his neighbor, he will find that the one ray that he has will be multiplied many times, and the world as a whole will transform when the attention of the individuals shift from what they believe to be true to what they know to be true.

The time has come to see what truly is and there is no more hiding from it. There are events that are compelling that are occurring – things that were once unfathomable that have become possible realities. The time is now whether man is ready or not does not matter because he must be involved in what happens next because he has brought much of this upon himself and this is not said as in a punishment or a judgment, but rather just an observation.

What is now IS. What is tomorrow is something that can be all together different.

There is nothing that is set in stone, only perceived to be so. Man is resilient, and man will find his way through what is about to happen…what remains to be seen is how he does it. There is no question of if, just only how. That is the one thing that mankind is able to control and that is how he personally comes to interact with nature and the events and his fellow man.

The time is now to become aware and to stop doing, and start allowing. Start allowing himself to BE. The time to BE has come. Man must come to BE. When man comes to be, there will be peace in his heart, and peace on his earth.

***

Please let me know what you think of these messages.
Thanks!
Elizabeth

Endlessly Seeking | Note of Love

2010-06-29T09:37:00.000-07:00

I have decided that I am going to begin to
use what I have access to - what comes
through me - to see what might show up on
a more regular basis.

This is what came today:

Dear Ones
You are endlessly seeking the best of everything when all the while it is right in front of you. You are always in such a hurry to get where you already are. You are always seeking the ultimate - when what is ultimately yours in its purest most divine most beautiful form is right in front of you.

Why do you seek more when it only leaves you with less?

A Letter of Love

2010-06-28T08:30:00.000-07:00

Here is a Letter of Love that was recently
written for someone and, as often is the
case, there seems to be a universal message
that can be appreciated by more than just
the one it was intended for. It also
mentions (briefly) about the oil situation
in the gulf.

If you read it, please leave a comment,
and let me know your thoughts.

Hope you are well. Thanks for stopping by!

Want your own letter? See Notes-of-Love.com

***

You are a perfect child…full of fertile imaginings.
You can create anything, including perfect health
and happiness. You are a wonder to behold, and
yet you do not behold yourself as such. You are
one to be loved, and yet you do not love yourself...
at least not in the way that acknowledges that
love is present. You speak of Love and yet you
remove yourself from it. You dance around love
instead of dancing in love. You think somehow it
is for others, and yet you too are deserving of it.

The aches and pains you feel are your desires to be
loved to feel love to embrace love to be embraced
by love you have a healthy love life to live and
you will live it because you are beginning to see
how you affect yourself and you are beginning to
find your own way. Reluctantly at times as you,
like other human beings, want to be told what to do.

It makes no sense really as you already have the
answers and they await your acknowledgement and
action. It does not matter what will happen tomorrow
just as it does not matter what happened yesterday.

Claim now and live it to its fullest. Live it in all
of its preciousness. Live it fully and completely.
Live it totally conscious and aware and you will
find more beauty than you have ever imagined or known.

Fear is anything but living in the present. Fear
only exists in relation to the past or to the future.
There is no fear in this moment. In this now. In this
now all there is is now. All there is is what you
choose. It’s what you choose and recently you released
a lot of hurt and pain and disappointment and anger.

You were someone who has had much pain and disappointment
because you have yet to understand the power of this
moment of this now of who you are in this moment. You
are an incredible piece of beauty and love and direction
and you have much to share and this time of crisis and
pain and feeling lost will be something to share when
the time is right.

You will know what it is that you need to share and
when is the time to share it. Keep being who you are
and embracing the love the care the concern the passion
the love it is all available to you at each and every
moment. Each and every moment is a gift that should
never be analyzed or assessed value. It is of value
in so many ways for so many people you must understand
that there is no way to understand something for another
that can be understood so many ways. Yes you can try
and even to yourself you can try to understand or you
can understand.

You have the ability to understand right now in this
moment you have the ability to claim understanding.
There are zero absolutes. One will fight to the end
with a belief in absolutes. They will claim one thing
or another and they will die speaking “the” truth that
they believe.

Even these gurus know within, that truth exists only
in a moment..and try as they may to capture the moment
they never can, and they never will. At least not
permanently. They catch it as easily as you would catch
a ray of light. It is only a momentary thing that
appears to be something that it is not.

Human beings want to make things solid, and therefore
many things appear to be solid. The problem comes when
they are proven otherwise…they are lost, and they don’t
now what to do, because they are wanting something solid
to latch onto.

There is nothing solid to latch onto ever…and the only
time there will seem to be is in that one precious moment
of awareness.

Awaken from your sleep. Awaken from your dreams.
Awaken and recognize that the only power that you have
is the power of this moment the power of this now
the power of who you are.

And yes it is the sum total of many things that would
appear past present and future, but once again it is
only a mere illusion. You must claim all that it is
in THIS moment. In This now.

In this way are you are to be the empowered should that
you are meant to be. Life is a journey and journeys
never end. There is always a new turn a new twist and
the appearance of an ending. But there is truly no
end as there is truly no beginning.

You will never reach an “end” point because you have
never begun. You are all that you need to be and always
will have everything that you need for the moment.

Start listening and you will hear many things, and you
will know which ones to act on and which ones to dispose
of for when you hear things, you will hear an acknowledgement
and/or a call to action…a call to love, a call to act, a call
to forget, forgive...whatever it is, you will know if
you only listen.

You must listen to what you must do to get the balance
you seek in your life. You are out of balance when you
aren’t listening because then you go off in a direction
that is fearful and/or motivated by anything other than
love.

Love is never fearful. Love is never despair. Love is
never pain and love is never repair. Love is just there
and here and you are love my dear child. You are love
completely and totally and it is as solid as anything gets,
and yet it is fluid. It is something that morphs from
moment to moment and yet you are able to capture it in
any moment that you choose to. You can capture it in a
smile, in a laugh, in a hug, in a shared moment, in an
understanding, in an appreciation in art in music, in
the oil.

Yes even the oil. There is love there. It is just
covered up by human beings who aren’t listening. It is
the perceived ugliness that is calling people to see the
beauty.

There is much that is taken for granted when one isn’t
aware of the moment to moment nature of life and of love.
When you are in the moment, you are able to treat it with
love and respect and admiration or you are able to throw
it away.

There truly is no future or past, however all nows are as
beautiful as the sum total of the moments that are
appreciated. There is no moment more precious or
beautiful than this one.

Love it. Respect it. Cherish it. Adore it. BE IT.

Hope this finds you well...

2010-06-20T11:01:00.001-07:00

It has been a long time since I have posted.

Life has a way of taking twists and turns,
as we all know, and I have had to go off in
a different direction for a while now.

I am still not sure where I am headed, and
was reminded recently that things are ever
changing and evolving, so while we may think
we know something, we just never know.

It has been difficult for me to balance
everything...only so much energy to give.

I do miss spending time here, and connecting
with those I did on Twitter. Occasionally
I will poke my fingers in, and say hey.

I am not going to say much more at the moment,
however I did want to let those who appreciated
my 15 Essential Things to Ask Yourself, that I
now have 15 More Essential Things to Ask
Yourself.

If you get a chance to check it out, please
let me know your thoughts.

As always, I hope you are well, safe, and
living a life that is true to who you are.

with Love...

Perspective: A good kind of exhaustion

2009-12-28T13:00:00.000-08:00

Have you ever really wanted something really bad?

Have you done all that you could to make it happen,
even if didn't? Have you said all there is to
say?

I came across this today, and I thought it an
interesting statement that I made to someone in
a letter:

"I have done all that I can. I have exhausted
every avenue, every option, every street, every
thing...so much so I stand here feeling empty
and yet complete."

The beauty is that it was a situation that I
very much wanted to turn out differently than it
did, however I found peace in the fact that I
said and did everything I could.

Communication is a beautiful and powerful thing.

Perspective: From A Third Grade Report Card

2009-12-28T12:21:00.000-08:00

Today I was going through some papers
one of which was my third grade report card.

One of the teacher comments was,
"Elizabeth is a lovely child.
She can do better work and will
if she talks a bit less."

I remember someone saying that the
thing you got into trouble for as a child
is likely the thing you are meant to do.

I LOVE to talk to people, and I am in a
"talking profession"....what a surprise!
:-)

We aren't all meant to be spectacular at
everything. While it is difficult for
me to do certain things, the one thing I
have always had ease in is talking to
people.

The mistake we can make is to limit the
things we are good at in the interest of
refocusing on the things others find
more important.

I remember as a child I always talked too
much - according to others. It may have
been my way of trying to get attention.
However, it also seems that I did - and
do - have a knack for it.

What do YOU have a knack for? and what
are you doing with it?

Things that make you go hmmm...

2009-12-27T10:33:00.000-08:00

People who know me know how much I get
upset when people are manipulated by the
likes of those who are adept at hypnotic
technique and NLP.

Today I saw something that I think is
questionable. I know exactly what the
person is doing, and it troubles me.

There was a blog entry about the "dangers
of conversational hypnosis" which ever so
conveniently linked to a program on how
to do conversational hypnosis. How much
you want to bet it's an affiliate link?

When you tell someone about something like
this, the danger almost always often is a
call to investigate further.

I have said for quite some time that people
CAN be manipulated with hypnotic technique,
and it concerns me that there are those who
are teaching others how to do it, claiming
that it's not the tool that is troubling,
but the people who use it. I even heard one
such person's audio which said that if you
were unethical you should not buy his program.

All I can say to that is, "Puhleassse." If
someone didn't know what he was doing, they
might think how wonderful that he was discouraging
misuse. Do you really think someone unethical
would care about what he was saying? Besides
the fact that how he was saying it, was only
encouraging anyone and everyone listening to
buy his offering.

And all I can say to you is do what you can
to become aware about what is possible. The
more aware you are, the less likely it is
that you could be manipulated. Sadly, I do
not believe there is any way to truly and
completely guard against abuse, but it is a
start.

Be well and be safe...and enjoy the rest of
the year.

with Love,
Elizabeth

Perspective: Stores Online

2009-12-22T14:23:00.000-08:00

Recently I went to a seminar for Stores Online.

They use a common ploy these days:

They invite you to an hour and a half introduction,
and serve you a meal. In addition they offered a
"free" mp3 player. It wasn't an ipod. Although
if you wanted an ipod instead of the cheap looking
thing they offered, turns out you can get a
remanufactured one for shipping of about $8.

The introduction they offer is convincing. They
tell you for $48 they will provide you an internet
workshop and lunch. They also tell you - to be
"fair" - that they will be selling you on their
products and services.

I always like to learn as much as I can, so I paid
the money, and went to the day seminar.

I wasn't sure what to expect. I had gone to a
similar one several years ago in NY, but thought
perhaps things had changed enough, it could be
worth it.

Sadly, what I saw was manipulation.

When I went several years ago, I didn't know what
I know now, and I "bought" into what they were
offering, only to rescind it within the legal period
of 3 days after purchase. I realized when I got
home and checked things out, it really wasn't for
me. They had, however, convinced me that what they
offered (which is "merely" tools and a platform)
would open my horizons.

Back then I wasn't as aware of language and manipulation,
as I am now, and I have to wonder how much of that went
into play.

Forward to this time, and I felt badly for those who
were manipulated into the purchase. OVER $6000 to
buy in, and then a monthly fee of about $50 (if I
remember correctly).

Granted, everyone is looking for internet magic,
however, from what I could tell, they weren't offering
much of anything that isn't available somewhere else,
and for - in some cases - free.

The instructor mentioned a "Key Word Tool" and said
that that alone was worth the money that they were
charging. I couldn't believe what he was saying! Yes,
it is a valuable tool, but it is also available through
Google at no charge!

He also kept making a distinction between the "basic"
site (the one you got for $48) and their more advanced
site with all of the tools. Interestingly, for an
internet seminar that was supposed to teach you
something, it was sorely lacking for anyone who wasn't
in a position to (or desirous to) spend the money.
None of the things that were really helpful were a part
of the "basic" plan/site.

Didn't have the money? No problem. They had financing.

If you weren't going to do this, and you had credit
problems, then good luck to you, because if you didn't
have a merchant account, then people wouldn't do business
with you. They - my friends - were your savior.

I decided to write about this because I have some
perspective regarding their services, and my experience.

I went knowing nothing, and got "sold." I went knowing
something and came away with a story to tell. I find it
sad that there are so many organizations that will
manipulate you into doing something, and under the
guise of "helping you."

To be fair, some people have had success with their
products. However, I suspect the failure rate is much
higher. There are many complaints about them on the
web.

They do tell you that you're on your own with these tools.
They don't make promises that they don't keep (at least
not as far as I can tell). But what they do do is
manipulate people into buying something that may not
be beneficial, or right, for them by weaving a deceptive
web that could easily be caught up in.

My experience of their over all attitude was that they
were quite arrogant. As with anything, I always say
you need to find your own way - listen to your gut - and
if what they offer truly speaks to you, then by
all means, act on it. You could be one of those success
stories.

However I have found that you can "get by" on your own a
lot less cheaply. Don't know how, or where to start,
perhaps I can help. I do all of my own stuff, and find
that while it may not be the best, it is a place to start.
I'd be happy to see how I could help you get started.

All the best to you.
Hope you are enjoying your holidays!
Elizabeth

Muppet Internet Perspective

2009-12-17T10:53:00.000-08:00

Be sure to watch to the end :-)

Joy, Santa, and Susan Boyle

2009-12-08T16:26:00.000-08:00

As much as I don't appreciate the
commercial aspects of the upcoming holiday,
I can't help but wonder what a world would be like that
exhibited more of the pure joy
Santa brings to the child in us.

By the way, I heard Susan Boyle's version
of Silent Night today - it is so beautiful
Listen for yourself (affiliate link)

The Paradox of Deciding Who Dies and How

2009-12-08T13:10:00.000-08:00

I just saw this article about an Ohio inmate who
was executed via lethal injection.

I am writing about it because it occurred
to me that it seemed rather paradoxical
that we live in a culture that would think
that OK, while being against a person's
right to choose to die (such in the case
of someone who is terminally ill).

I realize that inherent in the choices is
likely to be a judgment of what a life worth
living is. However, I have to wonder how a
life in pain is judged to be worth living,
IF the person living it is suffering so much
that he or she wants to make the choice to die.

I realize it - like many things - is a
complex set of issues and facts, however,
the problem, to some degree for me, is how
those who aren't in the situation get to
dictate what is allowable for someone who is.

In my opinion, when there is a true respect
for a life and an individual, there is an
awareness of a perspective that may vary
greatly from one's own. In some cases it
may be wise and helpful to watch out for
another, but when does watching out become
unnecessary - unwanted - control?

I'd like to think that most people have the
best of intentions when it comes to others.
However, these intentions can be troubling
to the intended recipient.

We may not always understand another's
perspective, but if we are truly to help
another, I think we must allow for varying
personal experiences, even when we disagree.

I also think it worthy to consider that
the choices we may inflict on another may
have more to do with us, than with them.

I am not saying that I know "THE" answer,
because I don't know that there is ONE.

However, what I do know is that throughout
life most people I know desire to be heard,
and paid attention to, and to have their
perspectives respected. Given that death
is a part of life, I would suspect that the
same would hold true even as someone
terminally ill knows more about the
impending end than others might.

What are your thoughts on
this very difficult topic?

(Want some perspective on assisted suicide?
visit http://www.assistedsuicide.org/)

Working with One's Strengths VS Going Against the Tide

2009-12-07T19:13:00.000-08:00

A friend sent this video to me today.

It's about a dog and the human who
set out to make it something it wasn't
meant to be.

As you will see, that person came to
realize the beauty in allowing the
dog to be something closer to what
its own personality is.

How many times do we try to force
things? and to what result?

Appreciation

2009-12-06T21:59:00.001-08:00

As you may know from some previous blogs,
I have been having some difficulties lately,
and have wondered if I would have to leave
southern California to return to New York.

When I moved here almost 3 years ago, I was
certain that I needed to be here. It made
no logical sense for anyone, including me.
Although, I had considered a move to the
area more than once.

My situation has made me question many
things, and has left me at times in a deep,
dark place, and at other times has given
me optimism and hope in ways never before.

Interestingly, at the darkest place I have
been, I got really sad thinking about leaving,
and I decided to begin to be grateful (on a
more aware and consistent basis) for the
things I have, the environment I am in, the
palm trees, the mountains, the fact that I
am in southern California.

In the last few weeks, that is the ONLY thing
that I am aware of that I have done
differently, as I have been plugging away
for some time, working on creating things,
as always.

In addition, there have been those who have
wished me well, and prayers that have been
sent my way that have been very much
appreciated. Positive energy in my direction
is always welcome.

While there are many issues and questions
that I am facing these days, not the least
of which are others' judgments and assessments
of what I am doing and should do, and how I go
about what I am doing. Let me tell you, I am
getting some very important lessons in
perspective.

There were certain things I felt and believed
before, and now I am becoming reacquainted
with them in a bigger way, and at some point
I will share...the point that I become more
clear about the role of the twists and turns
my life is taking.

In the meantime, I am appreciating where I
am and what I am able to do, and I am plowing
forward, and the last week or so has been one
of the best weeks I have had in a very long
time.

I don't know where this will wind up. However,
I have the desire for it to be somewhere
amazing, and believe that, just like so many
other rough patches in my life, and seeming
cliffs, there is something that I will be able
to relate with others about in a way that can
make a difference.

Who knows if it's "true," or not? But then
again, how does anyone know what is "true?"
So, for now that's my story, and I'm sticking
to it.

Be well...with much Love and Appreciation,
Elizabeth

PS If you know anyone who could use my help
as a hypnotist, or in any other way (see
JoLoPe.com for the many things that are me)
please connect us. Thanks!

Perspective: Holidays, Stress Relief, and Creativity

2009-11-27T20:16:00.000-08:00

Needed a creative outlet, as I have been doing a lot
of website page creation and coding (at times so
frustrating!)

I came up with this...what do you think? I was
thinking it might make a cool holiday greeting/
card.

If you're curious about what I am doing, please
visit Deeper-And-Deeper.com. Lots has been done,
and there's lots more to go! Anyone inspired
to proofread and check links, I'd be appreciative.
It's difficult to be a one woman band. Fresh
eyes are welcome!

I hope you had a great Thanksgiving, and are
appreciating the days leading up to Christmas.

Remember I have a Holiday Stress Buster, if
you think you need some help with how to manage
that stress. I am no magician, but I know what
I am offering has the potential to amaze you!

Seemingly Comatose Man Aware

2009-11-25T17:05:00.000-08:00

Did you hear about Rom Houben? Apparently, he appeared
to be in a coma for 23 years, when in actuality, he was
conscious, and very aware of all that was happening and
being said around him.

Many people have been amazed by Rom's story, and what is
currently being conveyed by a specialized machine and
his ability to express his experience.

It has astounded many, and stirred up all kinds of
things, including hope for some whose loved ones have
been in what would seem a coma. Might there be others
like Rom?

What I personally found interesting was my perspective
as a Hypnotist who has been hypnotized. You see, I know
when you are hypnotized, you could be in a state in which
you are unable to speak and unable to move, and yet, you
could be aware of what is going on around you, and even
"speak" things in your mind, but not be able to communicate
them audibly.

As the piece that made the difference for this man's life
and future was a brain scan, I find myself wondering what
(if any) relationship there might be between his and a
hypnotic experience. In Rom's case, he is reportedly fully
paralyzed, however, in hypnosis, what the mind "believes"
to be true will likely be the experience of the body.

It makes me think. What about you?

Stress Management with Hypnosis

2009-11-25T16:36:00.000-08:00

When you consider Stress Management, have you ever
considered Hypnosis as an option?

Just today I was working with a client who was audibly
amazed at how simply powerful hypnotic suggestion
is to make a difference.

Hypnosis isn't magic, but it is certainly magical, and if
you have ever considered it, now might be the time to
act on the idea.

Odds are fairly good you will be amazed, and if you
are seeking some sort of help or program for Stress
Management I would like to invite you to try it out my
StressBusterBuddy Plan.

It is designed in a way that helps you to interact with
stress in a different way than what you are accustomed
to. It is virtually risk free, and if you want me to take
all of the risk out of it for you, just tell me you saw this
blog, and you will get a 100% Money Back Guarantee.

If you even want me to take it a step further, I will. I
invite you to have the session first, and pay for it after
we're done, should you find value in it for yourself.

I am so certain that you will get value from this program
designed for those, like you, who need something to
help manage their stress, that I stand behind my offer
and my work.

Reasons to not do something are easy to come by, and
perhaps you'll find one not to act, however if you are
stressed, I invite you to consider finding the reasons to
experience the magical nature and effects of Stress
Management with Hypnosis for yourself.

Go here today -> Stress Management Hypnosis

Perspective: Warning Bells & Gut Feelings

2009-11-22T10:46:00.000-08:00

There is a story I read about an
Australian man who was a plumber
who reportedly masqueraded as a
Shaman.

The story says he was alleged to
have sexual contact with several
women who went to him for his
"services."

It is stories like this, coupled
with people's misconceptions, that
does no one any good.

While, for some, the idea of energy
can be "woo-wooee," if they were to
be willing to have a conversation
with someone who had some clue about
what they were talking about, they
might see that there could be some
validity to the idea that energy
work could be helpful.

Unfortunately there are a couple of
issues in regard to situations like
this. One issue is that when someone
is vulnerable, it is quite possible
they will be gullible.

However, within the midst of charlatans
and those who tend to take advantage,
there are those who want to - and can -
help while taking care of the person
who comes to them.

When day-to-day people aren't in touch
with their own inner guidance, they
become bigger targets in time of need.

Sadly, I have met some of these people,
and haven't used my own best judgment.

At the same time, a few years back a
friend of mine was telling me about this
"guru" type that she had met. He and I
spoke,and my inner alarms were going off.

Nothing ever came of it.

However, for my friend, I think there
were some things that happened that she
did not feel comfortable with. She never
went into any details but, based on what
was said, I suspect that my suspicions
(my alarms) were right.

I think we all have "alarms," we just
sometimes override them in our desire to
have something or in our desperation to
deal with it.

Things like this go back to my recurring
theme that we need to pay attention to
our inner guidance. If we did that, we
would find ourselves making the choices
that are best for us.

Is it an easy thing to do? Not really...
especially in the beginning, or in more
difficult times. However, the more that
we do it, the more dependable it can
become, and the easier it is to reach out
to it as a resource.

Perhaps we can use situations like this
to help to awaken us to ourselves...
however to do that, we need to be aware
of how we are processing stories like this.

Just because someone acted unethically in
regard to something doesn't necessarily
mean that what they are doing should be
disregarded as quackery.

It is important to separate the person from
the thing, and to assess each individually.

For instance, the subject of Hypnosis is
a hot topic. Some would not believe in
Hypnosis, and that lack of belief may stem
from an experience they, or someone else
had. That experience may have had nothing
to do what Hypnosis can do, and everything
to do with the Hypnotist.

When one blindly considers options, one may
potentially get an experience they will feel
compelled to justify or nullify, should it
not be a good one. It is one of those human
things that we do, when we're unconsciously
interacting with our situation and environment.

Gut feelings use warning bells as one means
to communicate with us, and it is important to
pay attention, and act on what they advise.
The key is to go into every situation as aware
as we can be to make the best choices for us.

The more we do that, the less likely we are to
fear the unknown, and be able to be manipulated
by others, especially predators.

Not sure how to be more in touch? Let's talk.
I bet you're more in touch than you realize.

Your Perspective, Please! (Free Publicity)

2009-11-20T09:07:00.001-08:00

Looking for stories from people of a time
that being "true to yourself" was
rewarding and empowering.

It was likely a time you felt you were
swimming against the tide, but it "felt"
more right than any other option(s) you
had, or others thought you should choose.

It could be a time

* your head and your heart were at odds,
and you went with your heart

* that you were yourself in spite of what
others said or believed

* when the odds may have seemed against
what you want to do/what you believed

* when what you were doing made no
sense to you, or anyone around you

* when success may have been defined differently
than what is "traditional" or "expected."

By submitting your story, you are giving me
permission to use it for my blog, newsletter,
and/or any other project my creativity might
come up with.

You are also giving me permission to edit your
work. If you want to see it with the edits
before it is used, to be certain it conveys
you and your story accurately, just let me know.

In addition, you are also validating that you
own the rights to what you are submitting, and
that you have the rights to give me permission
to publish your story.

In exchange for your generosity, you can include
the following information with your story:

- A picture
- Your name
- Your business name
- Your Website Address
- Your Twitter/Facebook/LinkedIn
- Phone Number/Address
- Short Bio

Got questions? I got answers. Hopefully they'll
be the ones you need. :-)

Please email your information to
MyStory@JoLoPe.com.

and....
PLEASE forward this to others!
Thanks!

Perspective: Time to Reconsider our Model?

2009-11-19T07:50:00.000-08:00

Manipulation is everywhere in so many subtle ways.

The beauty industry manipulates women into thinking
that they are not thin enough or beautiful enough,
even when the models themselves aren't what they
seem to be, either.

Websites that tell you what's good for you are at
odds with each other, depending on what perspective
they are taking. Most data can be manipulated to
fit whatever case someone wants to make.

Marketers will tell you to ACT NOW to get a special
offer that will likely still be around long after
it is supposed to go away.

People claim themselves as Experts, and as such,
you are led to believe what they say as the Gospel
Truth.

What is defined as success is even manipulated.
Can you only be a guru, an expert if you are making
gazillions of dollars at what you do?

The experts will, of course, tell you yes, and then
they often proceed to charge you great sums of money
for what they do because they are an EXPERT.

I suggest that we look at this model very carefully.

I suggest it because it is a model that doesn't
necessarily serve anyone, except, perhaps the person
who is selling the product or service. How many
things have you bought that haven't been helpful to
you? Of course, if they haven't been helpful to you
there's something wrong - with you.

Ironically, then, you want to become one of "those"
experts so you can start charging a lot for your
product and/or service. If you don't charge enough,
you have "value" issues. Sorry, but I am not sure
I agree.

I would like to suggest that we start to view things
differently, and it means listening to others, but
only long enough to gauge what they say against what
we feel. The problem is that often what we can feel
can be manipulated by someone who is skilled at
manipulation when we don't take the time to assess
things for ourselves.

Is it easy? No. It is much easier to just go with
the flow, and then when faced with remorse, justify
that we did the right thing.

However, I would suggest that it would be much more
rewarding for us to listen to ourselves rather than
sales pitches when making a decision.

I suspect most purchases are REACTIONS to a pitch than
they are a conscious choice on your part.

With the way things are currently, I suspect that there
is a lesson here that needs to be learned, and the
sooner we can learn it, the better. The difficult
thing is that we can't avoid learning the lesson by
ignoring the problems we're having.

I haven't quite figured this out yet, however, I believe
strongly that there is something to this conversation,
as there are always other perspectives to be had.

Sometimes we can't see or understand a thing, unless
we are able to see or experience its opposite.
Sometimes what we think we see isn't what we thought
we saw a minute ago.

What if what is happening is the best thing that could
ever have happened? What if it allows people to open
themselves up in a whole new way? What if we stop buying
things that are unnecessarily filling up our landfills?
What if we start doing the "core" things in life, instead
of being swayed by what could, by some, be interpreted
as "fluff"?

Several years ago I wrote about the ingenuity of mankind.
It is amazing the things that he is capable of creating.
Does it mean that everything conceived should be created?

I will tell you in my experience I know how to do things
that can greatly affect people in a negative way - for
them. Do I do it? No. I even go out of my way to stay
away from doing it.

Perhaps it is time we stepped back and questioned things
in a whole new way. Perhaps it is a time to turn within
and look at those things we haven't wanted to face. I
bet they're much more beautiful than we have thought them
to be (due to the undo influence of outside forces).

It is uncomfortable to change directions, but I think it's
even more uncomfortable to know you need to change directions,
and not act on it. I suspect anyone reading this knows
exactly what I mean, and if you do, I would kindly (and
gently) suggest that it's time to start paying attention.

If you're struggling against yourself, and want to change
it, it's a good idea to work with your unconscious.
Someone I have been working with recently said, "I feel
like I am handling life, instead of life handling me."

This is the kind of power we can all have.

If interested in learning more about hypnosis, and what
hypnosis can do for you, please visit
DeeperAndDeeper.com.

If this conversation interests you, please see more on
this topic at MagicPillforHappiness.com

Your comments are welcome. How do you feel about what
I have said?

Victoria Gardens

2009-11-17T15:37:00.000-08:00

Over the summer I was in Rancho Cucamonga, CA's
Victoria Gardens with my handy dandy Flip Camera.

At the time I made this video. Maybe it'll be a
taste of warmth for those who are in the cold this
time of year.

Enjoy!

Hypnosis or DE-Hypnosis?

2009-11-16T10:48:00.000-08:00

Some people who believe that when a person is
hypnotized, they are actually DE-hypnotized.

The reason for this reasoning is that we are
often suggestible to our environment in
unconscious ways, and as a result act as one
would under the effects of "formal" hypnotic
suggestion.

When someone is hypnotized effectively, one
possible result is that the suggestions given
become who the person is, and it is longer what
they do.

How much of your life is already this way?
How much of you can you separate? How often
does your identity lie in an object or a
profession or in your relationships with
other people?

When something is so much a part of who you are,
you are likely unconsciously threatened by the
idea of letting it go...even if it doesn't really
work for you. If it's a part of you, it might
feel like you're losing a hand.

This is why a formal hypnotic state can be a
good thing. It can help you uncover what these
unconscious decisions and connections are, and
help you change them, without feeling like you
are losing out. And, as a matter of fact, it
can likely empower you and make you feel better
by making a different choice.

We can consciously know we want to make changes,
and why, but it often doesn't help because knowing
is one thing, and finding the switch is another.

You can know that there is a light in the room,
and that there is a switch to turn on, but if
you can't find it, what good is it?

Perhaps a friend comes along and helps you find
that switch...that friend, my blogger friend,
could be hypnosis. Hypnosis can be one way to
find your way to the you you've always wanted
to be.

Most people are at least a little curious about
hypnosis and what it can do for them, are you?
If so, let's talk...:-)

(You can also visit DeeperAndDeeper.com for more
info on hypnosis: podcasts, FAQ, and a list of
many things hypnosis can be used for)

There's this thing called the phone...

2009-11-15T08:20:00.000-08:00

http://www.flickr.com/photos/aussiegall/ / CC BY 2.0

There's this thing called the phone. Have
you heard of it?

It is an electronic device that has numbers
on it. Once upon a time it actually had a
dial. These days, except for those who wax
nostalgic, it is likely to have buttons.

When these buttons are pressed, there is
some magic that happens. Those numbers that
are "dialed" (coming from the older days)
actually go to another phone which belongs
to someone you'd like to speak with.

Upon dialing you hear a sound which is
called ringing. The other person also hears
ringing, however, these days the ringing in
either case could actually be music, or
even someone speaking.

Should that person choose to pick up the
phone, you can actually have a live conversation
with them! Can you imagine that?!

The benefits of this piece of equipment are
as follows:

An actual connection with another person

No waiting to get an answer for a question,
unless the person needs to get back to you for
some reason.

Fewer misunderstandings than text messages and
emails. Less communications back and forth to
understand.

It is likely to be more expedient to get work
done.

In the event that you are unable to connect
with the person, you can leave the verbal
equivalent of an email with something called
an answering machine, but probably more likely
something called voicemail. Since the person
will be able to hear your voice, they will be
better able to tell how you are feeling about
what you're saying than if they were reading it.

In addition, if this person likes you, they
may very well enjoy hearing the sound of your
voice, and appreciate "hearing" from you.
People have been known to save messages,
especially the ones that they enjoyed listening to.

I invite you to consider using a phone in this
manner. As a matter of fact, below this blog
entry there is a red symbol that looks like a
triangle with a line over it. It also has the
words "call here." The graphic is meant to
symbolize the phone. Now that you know what a
call is and the purpose of a phone, perhaps you
could click it, and call me. And we can talk.
And who knows?

Wouldn't that be something?

Help, Please...Thanks.

2009-11-13T16:46:00.000-08:00

Recently I needed a distraction, so I took
@Alamar9's avatar on Twitter, and played
with it in Photoshop. This is what I came
up with

I am no expert in Photoshop, but I do seem
to come up with many things that people
like (including my Twitter background).

It's fun, and it is a creative outlet, which
I enjoy, and I got to thinking that maybe
there were others on Twitter, or even in the
"real" world (how does the real world exist
without Twitter?) that might have a need for
a revamped original image, or perhaps something
that I can create for them.

You may have seen my previous blog entry about
how things are for me at the moment, and to
say "not good" is an understatement. People
seem to appreciate what I do, as long as it's
free. I am more than happy to give of myself,
the only problem is I need to pay bills, and
things are fairly desperate at the moment.

So...My request to you if you are reading this
is to remember me if you need - anything. I don't
know if I can help, or not, but I will give it
my best shot. I may not be able to help
personally, but I can reach out to others. In
addition, maybe I can help you in a way that I
can get paid for my services, maybe in a way you
didn't even know I was capable.

There are many things I am able to do, and it
is difficult to make a comprehensive listing of
them in a way that marketers tell me won't be
confusing for you.

I am open to partnering with people, creating
affiliate type relationships, to helping creating
basic web pages, to hosting those pages, to helping
someone with a project from an administrative point
of view, to...(the list could go on).

You can learn more about me and (about some of) what
I do at JoLoPe.net and HolidayStressBuster.com.
There is a lot there, and if you prefer, just
pick up the phone and call. I find it the most
expedient and effective way to get things done.

I know I can't be the only one in this position -
someone with something to give, and having
difficulty finding a way to give it and survive
these tough times. Let's do what we can for each
other - Please. Thank you.

PS If you'd like to help me with my basic needs
and are willing to donate any funds, you can send
money on PayPal to ThankYou@JoLoPe.com.
It sucks to ask because I would so much rather
do something to help another for any money received.
If you really want to help, the best thing you could
do is help another by helping them to find me. I
promise you, I will take very good care of them, and
should they want hypnosis, they will get one of the
best hypnotists out there. Thanks so much!

PPS This is about helping each other, so even if you
don't think you can help me, and you need help, please
speak up! However, don't underestimate the value of
a recommendation, or a small purchase. For example,
I have a recording for less than $10.

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune

2009-11-12T13:37:00.000-08:00

When things and money
cease to be more
important than people,
things and money
will take
care of people.

~ E. Alraune

To My Followers on Twitter

2009-11-11T09:23:00.001-08:00

Greetings. I hope you are having a good day.

I am writing because of a need of expression.

I am not sure how this will come out, but it
needs to. I always try to be mindful of those
within earshot, and make it productive. If,
however, it seems to be something different
than that, my humanity may just come shining
through. :-P

All year I have been on the edge financially.
I was holding my breath all year, working on
various things, and creating website pages,
and talking to people, and hypnotizing, and
doing my radio show.

I kept thinking something had to give sooner
or later. Unfortunately what gave was a
primary source of my income.

I am now in a position that no one would want
to be in (and perhaps way too many are). I am
getting to the end of what I have available to
me financially, and have to make some decisions
in the the next 6 weeks.

Yesterday, I was speaking with @denyseduhaime
on Twitter, and she does internet marketing.
She was incredibly helpful, and wonderful to
speak to, and she gave me some suggestions for
places that I could go to to consider to perhaps
make some money some of which were advertising
sites. Ok, Collective Gasp!

Back in March, I wrote about my first experiences
with Twitter and my impressions. At one point
I also did a survey on how people felt about
advertising on Twitter. Interestingly, and
not surprisingly, everyone who does Twitter has
an idea on how it should be done - just like life.

And, just like life, these perspectives may vary,
and quite often DO vary, and therein lies a difficulty.
How do we get along with differences of perspective?

I have been more than happy to share people's info
on Twitter, freely. I have often given much of myself
and what I have to offer, freely. In the beginning of
my Twitter odyssey I figured if something was helpful
enough for someone to tweet, then others might be
interested, too.

I didn't put it through my own personal filters
because everyone is different. Some people won't
recommend something unless they're familiar with it
and believe it in. I wouldn't recommend anything
unless I felt that way, either.

However, there is a difference between sharing
information and recommending it. We have collapsed
the two, and I believe it does a disservice to what
is possible.

I have thought for a long time that if we all went by
the feeling of our gut we would be better guided in
all avenues of life. We'd know what best to eat, how
best to exercise (if we should exercise at all). We'd
know what things to do, what things to avoid. We'd
know who to do business with, and who to stay away
from. We'd stop seeking answers and solutions from
others and we would find the way best suited to us
(MagicPillforHappiness.com is based on this idea)

Now skip to this moment in time. I am in a financial
bind, and I can use as many resources as possible. I
am stressed, and doing the best I can with what I got.
Am I being reactive? Perhaps. Am I listening to my
gut? I am honestly not sure. (Yes, even someone who
can help others with stress relief can get stressed,
and have difficult moments, LOL. I am still part of
the human race (at least last I checked)).

However, I decided to sign up with a few of these
services, and started to Tweet their info, and got
asked this morning why I was Tweeting Spam.

I cringed.

I don't know if you know me, but if you do, you know
among other things, that I am about people finding
their own way, and being true to themselves. It is
one of the most difficult tasks to do sometimes, and
it can be incredibly rewarding.

So now I am in a position of wondering how best to
interact with those who interact with me on Twitter.
Do I care what others think? Absolutely. However
what others think varies. I can take surveys, and
ask what people want, and in the meantime, I have
bills to pay.

Some say one "ad" per 7 Tweets, others say other things.
My thinking in this most recent regard was for me to
do a "commercial break." I figure if Tweets don't
interest people, they'll just ignore them. I would
do the "commercial break," and then be back to my
regular interactions. What I didn't do was announce
the break, or check in with anyone first.

How much of being yourself needs to feed off what
others think you need to be?

I don't believe there is an exact, THE answer, however
it is something to consider. And what I have come up
with as a temporary measure is that I will now announce
these "commercial breaks." I will announce them, and
then they'll be over. In the midst of them, I may still
interact with others, as I did last night.

I apologize if you find this to be abhorrent in some way,
and I ask for your patience during this time. I guarantee
you, you wouldn't want to be standing where I am now.

As always, I am just doing the best I can. If you'd like
to help me get away from this approach, please feel free
to help me spread the word about my paying services
(DeeperAndDeeper.com/JoLoPe.net) and I believe
there are other ways for people to help each other. If
you hold the secret, I am all ears.

In the meantime, in this economy, might I suggest a
little more tolerance for those who are doing what they
need to to survive? I know it might be difficult to
discern the difference with standards attached, but if you
listen with your heart, you might just be able to tell.

Thank you for listening.

Soon to Appear on The Jobs Guy Website: Dear JoLoPe

2009-11-10T08:34:00.000-08:00

Starting this week I will be working in conjunction
with @TheJobsGuy and his job site.

This is another we "met on Twitter" story.

There is a perception in the world at large that
Twitter is silly and a waste of time. Those who
think it likely don't understand what is possible.

There are certainly people who are silly with
their tweets, and do waste time on there, and I'd
even go as far as to say it's likely a majority,
however, those who are on there to truly connect
are able to find others who are like-minded.

I hope you will come along for the ride. Please
let others know about Ken's site, and the fact that
I will be there. As I've been saying on Twitter
lately, "I KNOW there are stressed people out there
....just wondering where "there" is...I KNOW I can
help...can anyone help me find them?"

I really want to share what I can with those who
could use my help. I know people appreciate being
in touch with peace and direction within, and I can
help with that. Please keep me in mind should you
find someone who would be benefited by the work I do.

Btw, I updated DeeperAndDeeper.com today. It now
includes a FAQ page. Please check it out when you
can, and share, share, share. Thanks.

Have a great night/day!

"All Americans Have Health Care" - Huh?

2009-11-07T15:27:00.000-08:00

Rep. Steve King said this about health care:

I could see why many would get upset about
his statements. He obviously has a perspective
they don't. I can only imagine he is thinking
about Medicaid, and other types of emergency
type of help people can sometimes get.

However, I don't quite know how emergency help
equates to "health care."

I don't know what the answer is to the current
dilemma, but what I do know is that when the
people who are making the decisions don't really
understand the perspectives of those they are
making the decisions for, there is a problem.

Please remember that the next time you are in
a position to affect those you are responsible
to/for.

Thank you.

Make YOUR World a Better Place

2009-11-07T12:57:00.000-08:00

I have to wonder if every individual was
able to be true to who they were meant to
be if the world would be a better place.

I have to wonder because there is no way to
know, however, I would have to speculate
that it would be. After all, how often are
events and choices motivated by fear and lack,
and an inability to express oneself?

How often are we less than who we are and
can be because something else has our
attention, and usually it is a lack of some
sort. A lack of love, a lack of money, a
lack of safety, a lack of respect, a lack
of...

If you would like to be less reactive to
people and your circumstances, and more in
control, if you would like to change
something that doesn't seem to want to budge,
if you want to know that what you are doing
makes sense in spite of what others think,
there is a good possibility hypnosis would
be of benefit.

Many people are scared of hypnosis, and don't
understand it. It was like when I used to
say I didn't like red peppers when I only
had had green peppers, and didn't like them.

I made assumptions based on limited knowledge,
and I turned out to be wrong. Many times we
think we know something and make choices
based on what we think we know, rather than
what we'd find out if we researched things
further.

If you want to make changes, consider giving
yourself an opportunity to learn about what
hypnosis is and what it can do for you. I
have training as a hypnotist, and experience
as a life coach that can be helpful to you.
Becoming aware of the underlying assumptions
you have can be helpful in the process of
aligning your desires with your actions and
outcomes.

DeeperAndDeeper.com will help you learn a
few things, and I am happy to speak with you
about it, should you have an interest. Email
me, or just click the phone icon at the bottom
of this message.

Hypnosis isn't magic, however you might just
be amazed by how magical it is.

Understanding is difficult, and yet Judgment is so Easy

2009-11-06T11:35:00.000-08:00

I was just watching a video with Rhianna.

She speaks eloquently about her experience
with Chris Brown.

There were many things that struck me about
what she said, but there was one thing in
particular that stood out. She says she
was embarrassed that she fell in love with
"that" type of person.

What I have found in calls with my clients
is that many define love a certain way -
one with conditions attached. In the world
of Love, many times Love gets confused with
actions or lack of thereof.

Love is Love. Abuse is Abuse.

They are two separate things. You can totally
Love someone who has abused you, you just don't
have to stay with them. However, when Love
gets collapsed with actions, the leaving part
isn't so easy.

Human beings often merge things together, and
they become one. It takes the ability to
alter one's perspective to be able to see the
parts that make up the whole.

Love isn't something we have, but it is
something we have access to through our
interpretations of acts and things. How we
experience Love is an interpretive dance,
one in which our interpretations will
take us to the places or great joy,
or potential sadness. The place we get
caught is believing that Love=those things.

If I was to speak to Rhianna, and she'd want
to know what I thought, I'd tell her:

Love the fact that you could share Love.
It is an incredible gift.

Love that you can now separate the feeling
of Love from how it is represented.

Since the way it was represented was harmful
to you, Love that you were able to take a
different action.

Love yourself. You are not stupid, as some
might say or believe, nor do you have any
reason to be embarrassed. Like you said,
you are a human being, and human beings tend
to do things that aren't always understood.
Ironically, some of the choices we make that
wind up causing pain are meant to take care
of us.

We think we're supposed to know it all, and
have it all handled. Our ego is great for that.
However if you look at life, it seems that it
isn't meant to be seamless. Take what you
can from this situation, and do your best to
focus on what helpful things can (or have)
come from it.

Love Love. To feel any other way about Love
is to have is to still have it collapsed with
other things. Love is a beautiful thing.

I realize that in the midst of pain it is
difficult to see much else, and painful
situations are so much easier on the outsider
who always seems to have an answer.

Situations like yours are never easy, and
neither are the answers, and no one will ever
fully understand why you did what you did
or what happened, but that won't stop many
from judging. I am sorry for the pain of
their judgments, and how they can mess
with you.

If they would take a step back they might
realize that even though they don't
understand you or your situation, they have
had times when they've been uncomfortably on
the receiving end of another's judgment.

Thank you for sharing where you've been. In
my experience it is helpful when someone
steps outside of the mask that many wear while
in the world.

To anyone reading who might be struggling in
a relationship, or just struggling in general
(feelings like these aren't exclusive to
situations like this one) odds are you, too,
are doing things that are unconsciously guiding
you for your own good. If you want to make a
change, and don't know how, have you considered
hypnosis? It is one of the best ways to tap
the part of you that is making the choices, and
help it to make new ones.

You CAN break destructive habits and behaviors.

To learn more about hypnosis, please visit
DeeperAndDeeper.com.

Perspective Short: St. Francis de Sales: On Fear and Love

2009-11-04T22:09:00.000-08:00

Those who love to be feared fear to be loved,
and they themselves are more afraid than anyone,
for whereas other men fear only them, they
fear everyone.

~St. Francis de Sales

Perspective: Communication and Human Equations

2009-11-04T21:06:00.000-08:00

We all have equations: If X, then Y.
If you love me, then you'd call me every day.
If you love me, then you'd give me some space.

If you're in a relationship, it is
important to know what the other
person's equations are, and to share
yours, and both parties need to
determine if the other person's
equation is something that they
can work with.

Nothing says equations can't change,
but the only equation you can change
is your own.

Got Stress? Get Relief.

2009-11-03T14:38:00.000-08:00

I find many people don't quite understand hypnosis,
or what it can do for them so I thought I would
share about what I do.

When I am done, you can check out DeeperAndDeeper.com
for more information, should this subject interest you.
On that page you will find 3 radio show broadcasts on the
subject, as well as a list of many things hypnosis could
be used for. Some are a little more "interesting" than
others (such as Past Life Regression).

You may say you're not interested in hypnosis, and I
would understand. At the same time I will tell you
that many people will say that to me, only to become a
client once they better understand what is possible.

It is good for making changes. Making changes is one of
the most difficult things we ever do because it is all
too easy to do what we've been doing. If consciously
knowing that you want to make a change was sufficient to
make a change, people would be doing it instead of talking
about it, and able to do it with ease.

It is helpful with chronic pain. You want to be careful
using hypnosis with pain. Sometimes the body is signaling
something which needs to be paid attention to. Shut off
the pain, and you could be putting yourself in danger.
However, if you have chronic pain that you feel you must
live with, the fact is that hypnosis is potentially able to
help you minimize that pain.

It is good for stress relief. Hypnosis can create
powerful reactions. We get triggered all of the time.
Imagine what shorting that trigger would feel like, and
you'll can imagine part of the magical nature of hypnosis.

I have a client who manages many restaurants. With the
way things have been going, he has been managing more than
anyone should really be handling. To listen to him talk,
he is managing to manage. However, it is taking a toll on
him in more ways than one.

He initially asked for help with the feeling of stress he
was having. After one session he already noticed an
improvement. The next session he admitted to me (remember
I work mostly on the phone and never see my clients) that
he felt the stress was having him gain a few pounds. That
never came up in our first conversation. As a matter of
fact, he told me how he worked out, and was in good shape.

I suspect it was the combination of feeling comfortable
and seeing the positive effects of the change that made
a difference for him, and it is why he decided to make a
point of bringing it up the second time. Working together
on what he believes to be the causes of his weight gain, he
will likely be making different choices going forward.

I have also been working with someone who considers themselves
Obsessive Compulsive. I haven't been working with him on
his diagnosis, but what I did do was help him to find himself
calm when he might otherwise spiral to a place of significant
discomfort.

Another client works in the ER (or Intensive Care) as a nurse,
and also came to me for stress relief. It would likely come
as no surprise that she said her work environment is very
stressful. That is, until we worked together. Well...the fact
is there is still the potential for stress, but she is finding
herself better able to react and cope through what has been
created hypnotically.

In each case I have worked with these individuals on creating
something that works for who they are as an individual.
There is never a blanket answer as far as I am concerned, and
I believe that is why what is being done is as effective as
it is.

The nurse has worked with me for several months now, and
what we did initially is reinforced each time we speak,
although I am not certain is necessary at this point, it is
something she has come to enjoy and appreciate.

If you've never been hypnotized, you might be amazed at how
wonderful the state of hypnosis is. I can often hear a sense
of "relief" in someone's voice while in that state.

Please visit DeeperAndDeeper.com or call me if you'd like to
learn more about what hypnosis can do for you.

The fact is you are hypnotized more often
than you realize...and without your awareness
or knowledge. It might be beneficial to expose
yourself to it with your awareness, knowledge,
and direction.

You can call me easily by clicking the phone
icon just below this message. There is no
charge for us to make contact the first time
so feel free to make the call.

Have a great day!

Life: It's an amazing ride

Perspective: The You that Others See

2009-11-03T12:46:00.000-08:00

The above picture was a gift from @garciaje on Twitter. He is a graphic designer, among other things (I'd give a web address, but he doesn't provide one).

Out of the blue he sent this picture a few days ago. I thanked him and, as I looked at it and appreciated his version of me (and interpretation of one of my avatars), I got to thinking about how others see me.

At the same time, Twitter released its list making abilities, and it is interesting to see the names of these lists. It certainly tells you a little something about how you are perceived when you show up on a list called People-I-Have-Seen-Naked (which, by the way, and for the record, she hasn't - not quite sure what she does mean. Just thought it an interesting list name) or Geeky-in-a-Sexy-Cool-Way. I struggled with how to "do" Twitter in the beginning, so it is cool to see myself on the list of a Twitter leader (@Kim) called Rockin-This-Twitter.

For someone who has spent a good part of her life trying to hide...the last few years have been a big exercise in stepping out, and being seen. It takes some getting used to, and it helps that I am getting such a wonderful reception, and to know "that you like me, you really really like me!" (or something like that, LOL) Thank you for spending some of your precious time and energy with me. What a gift.

Life: It's an amazing ride.

Perspective: Songs are to be Sung

2009-11-02T17:06:00.000-08:00

I don't know about you, but it bothers me
(and has for a while) when people charge
what seems like insane prices for things
because, they say, there is a perception
that if something is expensive, it is of
better value. They also say that it has
to do with your own perception of value.

Whether or not these things are perceived
truths, doesn't mean that they need to stay
that way. I watched a video with a
hypnotist who says that if a hypnotist is
inexpensive they're no good. Someone
watching that could very well buy into it,
as it fits in with the first thing I
mentioned above.

However, I can tell you that it just so
happens that I am a dang good hypnotist,
and have worked for free, and discounted
rates on more than one occasion. Why?
Because I believe if someone wants and
needs help they should be able to get it.

I have had clients who have gone to hypnotists
in person who charge more than I do, and have
been unable to be hypnotized. They come to me,
and not only are hypnotized (and often on the
phone), but get results.

I ask you to consider the model that we have
been living in. It is the same model that has
a very high unemployment rate at the moment,
and people in significant credit problems.

I just had a friend tell me that maybe I should
charge $300 for a Letter of Love, maybe people
would buy it. I offered the Letters over the
weekend for whatever people would be willing to
pay for one, with it being a minimum of $1.00.

Not one person took me up on it. I have been
told that maybe people don't understand what they
are, and yet anyone who has visited the page has
felt the value of what they seem to offer.

I also had someone once buy one (granted an
atypical case) without even knowing what she
had bought (she had used her intuition, which
was rewarded when she received her personalized
message).

In addition, I offer a FULL MONEY BACK Guarantee.
If it doesn't fit, you get your money back. And
yet, not one person asked for one.

It is befuddling to me. I realize that there will
be those with marketing caps on that will say
something about how I market it, or don't, or who
my audience is, and so on...however, I firmly
believe that when we allow ourselves to act on
something (even when - and especially when - we
don't understand it) we are usually rewarded.

There will be others who will say find out what
people want, and give it to them. In my experience,
these letters are what people want, they're just not
packaged in the way that they might expect.

There is a part of me that wants to desperately
disprove what all of these "gurus" are saying. There
is a part of me that believes that if we live in a way
that is true to ourselves, it paves the way for things
better than money can buy...even though money may
indeed exchange hands.

The whole recent Sedona, AZ incident, to me, is in
some way "proof" of that. So many have questioned, given
the available details, why the cost was as high as it was.

I believe that there are things that I can do that can
help people. Some would call them "gifts." I don't
really like the term because it feels like an elevation
and I don't believe I am any different than you or anyone
else. What I believe is different (perhaps) are my
passions and my focus. When you are passionate and
focused it would seem to me that you would be pretty darn
good at what you do, and it might just seem like a "gift"
to someone who is passionate and focused in another
direction.

Many who have experienced my works have expressed
appreciation for them. Because I have not used them as
a ploy to get you to buy anything, they are given freely
and with Love.

However, I do need to make a living, and at the moment I
am struggling. I have been struggling all year to find
a way to present myself in a way to the world that is
helpful to anyone who might be touched in some way by
what I do.

I have taken different approaches, however two that I
have declined to take are the ones that seem to be
manipulative (do you realize how much you are
manipulated?) and the outrageous, high price.

What I have failed to do is to convey to you, and anyone
listening, is the value there is in your getting to know
me as a Life Coach and Certified Hypnotist.

The fact is what you get is YOU. How do you convey
something so unique to every individual and circumstance?
Apparently with great difficulty.

I have lots of questions about things, and have many
unanswered questions. not the least of which is how to
convey to you that I believe that if we put our collective
heads together we might just find that we can help not only
ourselves, but others.

In general, the world is hurting, and in specific, I am
hurting because there is an expression of me that is not
finding its outlet.

I'd like to ask you two things:
1. What do you need in your life?
2. How can I help to make that happen?

Next, I invite you to pick up the phone, and call me
(just click the phone icon below).

Let's talk. Let's create. Let's shake things up.
Let's stop accepting anything that doesn't work for us,
and creating a world in which we get to be all that we
can be.

I am also asking you to pass this along to others if you
feel like there is a valuable message here. I am fairly
certain that you appreciate when the song in you is
sung. If you would like some help to have your song sung, I would love to help. At the same time, you will help me sing mine, and in the process together perhaps we can help others to sing theirs.

Thank you for listening.

JOy LOve PEace - where is it?

2009-11-01T13:52:00.000-08:00

I am looking for people and websites and organizations
and pictures, and anyone and anything that is in some
way representative of JOy LOve and/or PEace.

Know of something others should know about?
Please share in the comments below, or you can email
me privately at infoATjolope.com.

Thanks!

Letters of Love - Special Treat

2009-10-30T10:33:00.000-07:00

Do you know about my Letters of Love?

If you don't, you may want to. For
each individual that I have written
one for it is a balance of love,
understanding, encouragement, and
support.

I have shared some of the letters
written to others, and many have
agreed there are some very profound
universal messages.

The letters have often elicited a
"WOW" response. Many are surprised
that all I need to do one is a name/
a way to identify the person, but
that is indeed it.

Because of the nature of it, I offer
a 100% money back guarantee for the
$35 I normally charge. Every person
who has ever paid felt the money
spent was well worth it, and that is
my preferred response from those who
get one (smile).

Since it is Halloween weekend, and
it is a time for "tricks" or "treats,"
I thought I would offer a treat.

I would like to offer you the
opportunity to name your own price
for one of these letters, with a
minimum price of $1.00, and offer
you the same money back guarantee.

All you need to do is send your
payment to ThankYouATJoLoPe.com on
Paypal with a note that it is for a
letter. In addition, please add the
name of the person the letter is for.

Once you've made your payment, please
drop me a quick note at infoATJoLoPe.com
to let me know.

This offer of "name your own price"
stands until Sunday, November 1,
midnight (CA time).

If you'd like to learn more about
these letters, please visit
Notes-of-Love.com and/or
see a previous blog entry with a
video where I discuss being true
to yourself.

I love writing these letters, and
welcome the opportunity to do one
for you, or someone you know.

I look forward to hearing from you,
and thank you in advance for sharing
this with others, should you feel it
appropriate.

Have a great weekend!

Perspective: Influenza - What are you "in"?

2009-10-29T14:09:00.000-07:00

Today I started to think about the flu. I have thought about it before, but it occurred to me to write about it in my own unique perspective. Perhaps there are others out there considering this conversation the same way I am, but I have yet to see it, so it makes me wonder if others have.

There are two books and authors that speak to the mind/body connection when it comes to our body that I often recommend: Feelings Buried Alive by Karol K. Truman and You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay. They both have a "menu" of physical symptoms and what they perceive to be the correlating thoughts/emotions.

What I have found is that often these lists are amazingly in tune with what is going on with me and others. When I first started to consider the possibility that the mind and body could be related, it was a difficult thing. Others would say, well, yeah there's that, but, there is also a bug, and that might be what is causing "X." And, I was like, well, yes, but no? You see I found myself wondering how you could say things were related, but not?

What I have come to realize is that it is very difficult to talk about the relationship because it means an inherent level of responsibility for our situation (you mean it's MY "fault" I'm sick?), and while I certainly don't have all of the answers to many of the inevitable questions, I do my best with the ones that make sense to me. Even with the outstanding questions, what I am sharing with you is part of where I come from for myself and when working with others, and find that there have been many times it has been useful.

Maybe they'll be helpful to you. When you can see how the body and mind can connect, then it gives us one of the things we as humans so desperately crave - an element of control. If our mind and emotions do cause what happens with our body, when we deal with them it could have the potential to affect how our body feels. If we can identify what is going on with us, and address it, it might help prevent some things from happening, and help others to clear up.

It may not align with some readers and their beliefs. I would expect that, after all, I always believe we need to be where we need to be, and that is the place where our choices and beliefs resonate for us, and if we all agreed the world would be a much different place. Perhaps this discussion will in some way confirm what they believe. All I ever desire is a healthy and conversation, with respect to perspectives shared.

As far as the bug thing goes, I think that the difference for some people might just be where they are emotionally and mentally in life. Perhaps those who feel good about life, and are optimistic, without fear, and anger could find themselves physically fine while others who have been exposed to the bug are sick, and therein lies the relationship. First line of defense being the handling of things that need to be handled, and when that happens, the "bug" has no where to land, or if it does, its effects can be minimal.

This conversation is much bigger than a blog entry (after all many books have been written on the topic) so there is no way that it could be all encompassing. If it has you asking questions, then I would like to think it has served its purpose. I tend to think that if we are unwilling to ask questions of the things we believe, then what we say we believe, we may not believe at all.

Having said that, the following are a few thoughts that I have come up with with Karol and Louise's assistance. If you want to pursue the conversation more thoroughly, I welcome it, and of course, you can seek their books out.

First I thought about the word "Influenza." It is interesting to me to note the parts of the word "in" fluenza. Whatever "fluenza" is, one with the flu is "in" it. If you consider the mind/body connection, what are you "in"?

Consider that a chimney flue removes smoke, hot air and gas from your living environment. If you were in that flue, it would be unhealthy, and likely could kill you, or at least make you sick. What things are you in that are unhealthy for you?

In addition, influenza could also relate to
mass fear
a fear of the worst thing/outcome

Mass fear, fear of a "worst" outcome. Consider how our world is at the moment. How do you think people are handling it? Are they handling it? Or might they be surviving it? If there are things that are affecting us that aren't being addressed, our body tends to tell us that something is up by its symptoms.

What are the symptoms of the flu?

cough - can be related to
anxiety
feeling annoyed
feeling like your life circumstances are intolerable
In general a reaction of the body in an attempt to release

sore throat
throats are about expression - are you sore about something you've expressed?
or sore about something that needs to be expressed?
It can also relate to creativity and its expression or lack thereof

fatigue
could relate to boredom
if feeling fatigued, what burdens are you carrying emotionally?
or what are you carrying that feels like a burden?
What are you holding on to? What are you resisting? fighting?

chills
a contracting/pulling in
could be a form of protection/wanting to be left alone/an escape

fever
anger ("hot" under the collar)

runny or stuffy nose
difficulty in "breathing" in life
and/or controlling your life and/or circumstances
a form of crying
potential childlike feeling/desire for attention/to be taken care of
feeling stuffed/blocked

body ache
physical pain can be an expression of inner (emotional) pain.
It can also be a form of punishment where there might be guilt
Can also relate to sadness, or an "ache" to be loved/feel love.

headache
thoughts that hurt and/or are painful to consider
being hard on yourself

vomiting
an act of release/an inability to digest what is going on
an act of involuntary surrender/perhaps a desire to surrender
could relate to fear

diarrhea
a running off/feeling lack of control in regard to all of the s*** in your life
also could relate to fear

So now that you have seen this list, perhaps consider what is going on for you, and in your life. If there are things you've pushed aside, perhaps consider bringing them out, and dusting them off, and finding a way to address them. The good/bad news is that our body will often tell us when things need to be addressed. However, the beauty of having information like this is the possibility of creating an inhospitable environment for the things that could make us feel unwell, and prevent us from being anything but our best selves.

Please be safe and well this winter, and if there is anything that I can do in the way of information or support (hypnosis is a great tool for so many things) please let me know. You can reach me all kinds of ways, including clicking the phone icon below.

As always, I welcome your comments and thoughts.

Perspective: Sunset Over Phoenix

2009-10-28T16:06:00.001-07:00

I love taking pictures from a plane.

I have gotten some really gorgeous ones,
and I'll need to share more at some point.

Oddly, they consider a digital camera
"electronic" equipment (maybe someone
can explain this to me?), and it's not
as easy as it once was to take pics at
the beginning and ending of a flight.

Perspective: Jon Stewart & CNN - "We'll Leave it There"

2009-10-28T14:40:00.000-07:00

I think Jon Stewart has great perspective on things.

While his show is often humorous, it is the kind of
humor that can get you questioning things, and I am
always up for a good question.

In this case, there are some very interesting things
he brings up, however, the one I am left with,
probably is not quite where he as headed.

He makes some fun of CNN's "we'll leave it there"
closing. Of course, they can't be the only ones to
ever say it, but the joke wouldn't have worked so
well if others were brought into it.

The thing that occurs to me is how often do we leave
things "there" in ways unstated (or even stated), and
more importantly what does that action cost us? What
would be the cost of allowing ourselves the time and
effort to explore whatever it is that we need to
explore.

And, with that...I'll leave it there.

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"How much does your life weigh?"

2009-10-25T15:30:00.000-07:00

Interesting question. This movie looks like
it would be thoughtful on several levels.

Another question that comes up for me
watching this trailer is, what are the
"miles" in our lives, and are they worth
pursuing? Are they valuable enough
to cover the "cost"?

I might have to see this movie. :-) If you
you do, please come and comment - let
me know what you thought of it.

theupintheairmovie.com

Perspective: Divorce Illegal in California?

2009-10-24T20:58:00.000-07:00

Last year there was much conversation
around California and gay marriage.

In the end, the proposition allowing
gay marriage wasn't passed.

I thought the videos below were an
interesting perspective piece, and
make an interesting point.

There are horrendous relationships
between two adults of the opposite
sex that are terrible for anyone
involved. Why would it be so
difficult to believe that there
could be a loving, supportive, and
successful family with two people
of the same sex?

Something that is "normal" isn't
always "good." It's just "normal."
It's what we're used to. Our minds
are rigged that way: "Good"="Known"
"Bed"="Unknown." But something
"good" because it's "known" could still
be bad for us, and something "bad"
because it's "unknown" could be
something great for us.

Is it possible that there could be
some good things that could come
from a change in perspective?

I hesitate in discussing this topic
much further at the moment, as it is
a multi-faceted and multi-layered
issue. It is also not one that I
am entirely versed on.

However, I present this as it is an
excellent example of my favorite word:
Perspective.

Perspective: Untitled (The Movie)

2009-10-23T20:57:00.000-07:00

The premise of this movie looks like a
perspective at its offbeat best.

If you see it, let me know what you think.

Perspective: Ballet Dancers Unlike Any You're Likely Ever Seen Before

2009-10-23T18:59:00.000-07:00

I would have to wonder if what these two
do in the following video is seen as
extraordinary by them. If I had to guess,
I would say the answer is likely a NO.

The beauty for the rest of us is the
fact that it might seem extraordinary
gives us perspective in which to
experience our own lives and choices.

Poignant. Beautiful. Touching.

What other words might you add?

A Fulfilled Request - 2 Psalms on MP3

2009-10-23T11:29:00.000-07:00

Recently a request was made for me to
record the 23rd and 91st Psalms.

I just completed them, and have made
these Psalms available here.

If you find these Psalms comforting,
you are welcome to download them for
your personal use.

Here is a reading of the 23rd Psalm

Perspective Video: A Symposium and A Message about Loving Ourself

2009-10-23T10:57:00.000-07:00

I went to a "Girls Day Out" Symposium. It was
an awesome event.

The video below is a message from my experience,
along with a few interviews of some of the great
women I met.

Enjoy!

(PS
Click here for MP3 for meetings/conferences/seminars)

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - They say

2009-10-21T16:28:00.000-07:00

Who are 'THEY' and why
do they get to have a say?
~Elizabeth Alraune

Recipe: Banana Bread

2009-10-20T12:49:00.000-07:00

Several years ago I found the recipe this
one is based on. I thought I lost it since
the last time I moved. I was bummed. It
was so delicious...everyone loved it.

Fortunately I found it, and now I get to
share it with you. :-D

I hope you enjoy it!

Banana Bread

2/3c. Organic Sugar
1/4c. butter
1 egg
2 egg whites
1c. very ripe mashed banana
1/4c. water
1 2/3c. flour
1t. baking soda
1/2t. salt
1/4t. + 1/8t. baking powder

Beat softened butter with sugar. Beat
in egg and egg whites, bananas and water
until well blended. Stir in remaining
ingredients until moistened.

350/45-60 minutes

Cool 10 minutes, and remove from pan.
Cool completely before slicing
(24 slices)

Perspective: When Trust is Turned into Ammunition

2009-10-20T10:26:00.001-07:00

When you meet a new person, you don't know everything
about each other. It is not possible.

As you get to know one another, you begin to reveal
pieces and parts of yourself. You reveal your history.
You reveal your weaknesses, your insecurities. You
get comfortable, and the other person gets to see the
"real" you.

That can be the beautiful thing about expressing yourself,
and getting to know another. There is something quite
wonderful and freeing about being able to express
yourself, without your guard up.

What isn't so beautiful is when you in that moment of
trust confide something about yourself or your history
only to have the other person come back at a later time
and use it as ammo when they see an opportunity.

Even worse, is when the other person uses the
knowledge in a way that s/he might even claim as
helpful or beneficial to you - often by seemingly
kicking you while you are down. More times than not
the LAST thing we need to hear is another's assessment
of us in what is likely already an argument or disagreement.

How often is someone likely to mention something that
is seemingly "wrong" with you when everything is going OK?

http://www.flickr.com/photos/tscarlisle/ / CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

The next time you are upset about something, and are
tempted to "use" some information about the other consider
the following:

1. Are you being defensive? Are you "pointing" at them as
a way of not looking at yourself?

2. Do you really think the person will "hear" what you are
saying if you point to something sensitive for or about them
when you are in the midst of a heated conversation?

3. Are you looking to hurt someone because you feel hurt?

4. Do you really think you are being helpful? Then consider
if there might be a better - less charged - time to address
the issue(s).

5. Do you really think you are being helpful? Does this
person want to hear what you have to say? Have they
"invited" you to address this issue? If not, odds may be
pretty good s/he will not be in a position to appreciate
what you have to say.

Arguments are bad enough without the additional stress
and heartache of the pain of feeling a betrayal of trust that
addressing sensitivities at the wrong time/in the wrong
way can bring.

Consider that you may think you know why a person is
acting as they are, but also consider that you haven't got
a clue. Many times what we think the issue at hand is
has nothing to do with what is really going on.

The world is a much better place when we have people that
we can trust and confide in, and when someone does that
with us, the best thing we can do for them is appreciate
the gift they've given us and respect them and the
information shared.

If you suspect the issue might be the issue, consider that
you can give them what they might need in the moment
as a result of the issue. For instance, maybe there is a
certain reaction because the person feels a lack of love.
Pointing out that they react that way, or that they feel a
lack of love is potentially unhelpful. What could be helpful
is to find a way to have that person feeling loved in that
moment.

If you find yourself on the receiving end of this type of
action, the best thing you can do is step back and see if
this might be what is happening.

If it is, then it might be helpful to let the other person
know that what s/he is doing is UNhelpful to you at that
time. If you really want to be generous, you can
acknowledge them for wanting to be helpful, but let
them know that you aren't in a place to appreciate it
at the moment.

I would truly like to think that most people don't set
out to hurt another, but that their own hurts and
defensiveness is what is speaking when they lash out.

When we love and trust another, it is a risk we take.
If we can recognize each other's humanity in moments
like this, it could make all the difference when it comes
to the outcome.

I am a great believer in expression. However, it would
be wise to consider what you say before you say it.
While words only take on the meaning that the receiver
brings to them, you can't take the result of their being
said back.

Sometimes it is wise to step back, and evaluate so you
can ACT vs. REACT. It is helpful to know when to walk
away. This is not to say to avoid the conversation, but
rather allow it time to breathe, so that the conversation
can be more productive. It is important to consider what
your goal is for the moment/for the conversation, and
where you are coming from. Is it a place of love? Or
somewhere more spiteful/hurtful?

In the heat of the moment we often are going to wind up
defensive (and defensively attacking), while the real issue
is standing in the corner watching and, as a result, remain
unaddressed and unresolved ready to appear another day.

Perspective: Collage Jewelry by MiMi

2009-10-19T21:46:00.000-07:00

My friend MiMi is very creative.

She taught me how to make some very cool
things using an art style she developed
using previously used goods - in other
words, recycled art.

She has made her own jewelry for years,
as well as other things. The picture
above is one of her pieces. I love it,
and wanted to share some of her work,
because I just love her jewelry, and
the perspective from which she works.

Of course, if anyone also happens to
love it, then all the better for her,
too. Because she is the artist, and
not the business person, I am playing
middle man for anyone who might be
interested in purchasing her jewelry.

I will be putting together a page of
her work, so if you think it will be
of interest - stay tuned.

In the meantime, if you'd like to
purchase this set, email me at
infoATJoLoPe.com for details. Please
put "MiMi" in the Subject Line.

If you would like to get the word out
about what you do (or know of someone
who would like to get the word out
about what they do), let's talk...I'd
be happy to see what I could do to
help! Email, or click the telephone
image just below to call.

Perspective: A girl, A Yo-Yo, and Times Square

2009-10-18T20:27:00.000-07:00

Several years ago I was waiting for a guy
I was dating in Times Square in New York City.

I arrived at our agreed location before
he did, and he was running late.

I called him at some point, and he sounded
like something was wrong, but when I asked
him about it, he was short, and pretty much
said he would still be coming.

I felt anxious about his coming as I was
standing virtually on a street corner waiting
for him. I wondered if there was anything
personal, as this was a new guy I was starting
to see. My mind started to take all kinds of
twists and turns, none of them particularly
good.

I knew I had to shake the feeling, and I
decided I had to find a way to do it. Having
time on my hands, I started to roam the many
stores of Time Square, looking for something
that would help my mood transition.

I was in the middle of some courses at the
time, and part of what they were suggesting
was that we could be the essence of something
in our interactions, and who we were. I had
determined that for me it was the essence of
Love and Fun.

As I looked around for something that would
represent Love and Fun I wasn't having much
luck, until I came upon a Yo-Yo which I
bought. I then went back to the street
corner. It wasn't really the corner, but
close enough...just love saying it for the
effect :-p.

I went back to our meeting location, and
proceeded to stand there, and Yo-Yo'd. It
was a cool November/December Day, and I
was slightly more than casually dressed
for my date, so imagine what I would have
looked like, standing there, in front of
the ESPN Zone, Yo-Yo-ing.

Even remembering that image brings a smile
to my face. Needless to say, people
certainly gave me second looks. I think I
almost had more fun with them, than I did
with the Yo-Yo.

When my date showed, he was cracking up at
me. What was I doing with a Yo-Yo? I
don't recall, but I don't think I explained
to him the fact that I was sort of freaking
out, and that I needed to switch gears so
that I could get into the space of Love and
Fun. And, even though he cracked up at me,
he took the Yo-Yo and started playing with
it himself as we walked to Mars2112 where
there were lots of games to play.

We had a great night.

The next day I found out what was bothering
him the night before and, of course, it had
nothing to do with me. Had it been the "old"
me I would have wanted to know what was wrong,
even if it had nothing to do with me and it
would have likely have ruined - or at the very
least strained - our evening together. However,
that night, thanks to Love and Fun, I was able
to let it go, and be in the moment.

By the way, I still have that Yo-Yo (it is the
one in the picture above). I have kept it as
a reminder of what focusing on the essence of
something can do for me. It was a wonderful
gift that has kept on giving, as it is one of
those stories that I have told many times.

And now I have told it once more.
-*-
Picture above is an adaptation of a Trey Ratcliff photo:

http://www.flickr.com/photos/stuckincustoms/ / CC BY-NC-SA 2.0

I admired his work so much, I asked him to be a guest.
Here's an excerpt from when Trey was on my
World of Perspective Radio Show.

Perspective: Pizza without cheese?! No Way?!

2009-10-18T16:02:00.001-07:00

I don't know how you view food, and how
you make your choices, but lately I have
been seeing what I can do to make better
ones for me.

I have heard things that say we shouldn't
be eating dairy, that it's not healthy.
I also heard that cheese has some additive
that is addicting.

That last part I can believe, if for no
other reason, my experience with cheese.
It never lasts very long with me. I also
find that I don't feel the greatest after
I have eaten it.

I also heard recently about how MSG
reportedly kills off brain cells. I
don't know if that is true, or not, but
I also know how I seem to be affected
when I use ingredients (like bouillon)
that have MSG*.

So why am I mentioning these two things?

Recently, there was a coming together of
these two pieces when I sought out a
recipe for homemade bouillon. There was
one recipe that I found (that I have yet
to try) that called for Nutritional
Yeast Flakes (that is what is in the
upper left of the picture above).

I had no idea what they were, and went
I went looking, I found out that they
were used in vegetarian dishes, often as
a cheese substitute, since they have a
cheesy flavor.

I was a little hesitant to try them, as
odd as they seemed, but decided it was
worth it. My first use was some mashed
potatoes with spinach. I put a little,
because I didn't want to ruin what I had,
and was pleased with the outcome.

Next was a big test. Pizza. I decided
that if I was going to make such a big
change, then why not go even further?

I decided to make Broccoli Pizza.

I steamed the broccoli, and mixed it
with a little bit of butter, Parmesan
Cheese, and the Yeast Flakes, and then
topped the pizza crust, which had meat
flavored sauce.

The results were amazing. You get the
cheese flavor without the cheese, fat,
or calories.

Any die hard pizza fan may have serious
reservations about these choices, but
someone with an open mind, and a willing-
ness to try it, might be pleasantly
surprised.

The crust I made was the NYC Style
Pizza Crust from my previous blog.

I LOVE cheese...and I don't know that
I will never eat again...but what I do
know is that I will be eating it less.

If you try it, let me know what you
think!

*After seeing this post @LunaJune
forwarded me this article about MSG,
and other things. It's from the
Health Ranger's site (as referenced
in a previous entry).

Perspective Art: Two Flowers

2009-10-16T15:02:00.000-07:00

(ALL WORKS HERE ARE COPYRIGHTED.
ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)

Perspective Art: Joy Love Peace

2009-10-16T13:02:00.000-07:00

Perspective: What do Love, Hypnosis & Photography have in common?

2009-10-15T10:56:00.000-07:00

Q: Perspective: What do Love, Hypnosis & Photography have in common?
A: The True Love Project

The True Love Project from Zack Seckler on Vimeo.

What a great idea!

Under hypnosis you can "conjure" up all kinds of feelings.
(I am glad he chose Love!) What a great gift those people
received. I have been witness to some similar, profound
moments, and there is nothing more beautiful.

What do you think of his work?

If you can feel an emotion in your body, your body will
react to it. Hypnosis can tune you into the emotions that
are beneficial and can feed your body in a healthy way.

Some believe that the mind and body are connected. If they
are, it might be wise to consider what the stress you are
feeling might be doing to your body. Would it be advantageous
to be able to turn it off while turning a more positive
feeling on, like a light switch? If so, Hypnosis might be
something to investigate.

Amazingly, it CAN be THAT simple.

If you're curious about what Hypnosis can do for you, and
would like some inspiration, here is a list in PDF format.

If you'd like to learn more, or
explore your options, you can
call me, or
email me at infoATJoLoPe.com

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Perspective: Changing Jobs or Career?

2009-10-15T09:13:00.000-07:00

If you are considering a change,
this perspective might be
worth considering, too.

Perspective: Astrology

2009-10-12T10:29:00.000-07:00

(This is a re-post of an earlier entry.)

(ALL WORKS HERE ARE COPYRIGHTED.
ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)
I love the sun...

This pic is a Photoshop effort, with
the base a picture of a piece of jewelry
on display at the Griffith Observatory.

I spent a few hours there today, and it
was so beautiful. The "flaky" part of me
(the part of me that likes Astrology, and
the planets, and things of that sort - and
so named by my brother) loves things
like what the observatory had to offer.

I was looking for a park like place to spend
the day and @nsane8 took me there, and it
was perfect.

I took a bunch of pictures, and we'll see
which ones might be shareable for anyone
interested. From the observatory grounds,
you can get a great view, too, of the
famous Hollywood sign.

When thinking about planets, I think about
astrology, and what it might have to offer.

There are two awesome books that come to
mind on this subject, and if you have a
moment, perhaps check them out for yourself,
and see whether or not they "fit" you and
your interests. For me they both have
helped to validate who I am, and how I am,
and who doesn't appreciate some validation
every now and again?

I don't know about you, but it's not often
I re-read a book, and even when I do, I
don't often appreciate it as much the
second time around. The second of the two
books is one I read several years ago, and
am again reading it with incredible interest
and passion. It "speaks" to me differently
now that I have had a few more years of
life experience and perspective.

The first book is a resource book that I
have pulled out several times for myself
and others, especially in relation to how
we are affected by Lunar and Solar Eclipse
energy prior to our birth. The Lunar
Eclipse speaks to the lessons we are here
to learn, and the Solar Eclipse speaks to
the gifts we have been given.

To anyone I have ever shared these pages
with, it has been a "bulls-eye." Amazing
how something that speaks to us can provide
perspective that can be empowering...even
when (and especially if) it's something
we already recognize about ourself.

The two books are:
Spiritual Astrology by Jan Spiller & Karen McCoy
I Remember Union by Flo Avevia Magdelena

Perspective Short: John Nuveen

2009-10-11T15:14:00.000-07:00

You can judge your age by the amount of pain
you feel when you come in contact with a new idea.
~John Nuveen

Perspective Short: Rob R. Dunn - The Effect of Humans on Extinction & Evolution

2009-10-11T13:34:00.000-07:00

http://www.flickr.com/photos/digitalart/ / CC BY 2.0

Human habitation has been, and is increasingly,
playing a direct role not only in the extinction
of species, but in their evolution. By our own
ations, we may be accompanied into the future
byever more diverse pests and pathogens, and
may leave behind what we value most - elephants,
tigers, and others of the earth's great megabeasts.

~ Rob R. Dunn

Perspective: 5 Benefits of being True to Yourself

2009-10-10T17:24:00.000-07:00

It may not seem easy to do, but it's easier
than it might seem, when you know how to do
it. It might seem odd that we need to
better understand how to be our best - and
true - self. However, when you think about
how many influences and forces we have in
our life that tend to go against it, it is
not surprising that it might take a different
perspective to allow us to truly be who we
were meant to be.

While it may not seem to be the easiest thing
to do, the benefits would seem worthy of
consideration. Let me know what you think of
this list. Would you amend/subtract/add anything?

5 Benefits of Being True to Yourself
(and listen to your own inner wisdom)

1. You will have an unparalleled understanding
of yourself and others, as you will be open to
seeing and experiencing insights which will
allow you to be flexible in your words and
actions. You'll be less reactive.

2. You will be at peace with yourself and your
life and its circumstances because you will know
that you are making the choices that are right
for you.

3. You will be able to do more than listen to
others words, you will be able to hear what
they're truly speaking/saying.

4. You will find yourself open to things in a
whole new way, and find inspiration in people,
places, perspectives, and things. Choices you
make will seem inspired when you listen to your
Inner Guidance.

5. You will find yourself more easily able to
pursue the things that matter most to you - in
spite of seeming adversity.

Perspective: Joy Love Peace

2009-10-09T20:29:00.000-07:00

A few nights ago there was a full moon.

It was also a cloudy night, but the clouds
weren't so dense that you were still able
to see the moon.

Even though you can't really tell this
video graphic is the moon, you might still
enjoy it when you're stressed, or if you
are having trouble sleeping. It is very
soothing, especially if you give it your
full attention.

Perspective: We're Bombing the Moon

2009-10-08T15:42:00.000-07:00

Anyone beside me find it baffling that 79 MILLION DOLLARS
can be spent this way?

Visit msnbc.com for Breaking News, World News, and News about the Economy

Want to know more? Visit NASA's site.
PS
10/10/09 Update
You can click here for the NASA Mission Outcome

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Control

2009-10-06T16:19:00.000-07:00

You can't control a damn thing!
You just think you can.

You're probably safer in the
domains you don't think you have
control because there's
no sense of false security.

~ Elizabeth Alraune

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Connection

2009-10-06T15:43:00.000-07:00

Your soul has touched mine.
And once it did,
I just knew you
and loved you.
~Elizabeth Alraune

Lessons About Life in an Unexpected Place

2009-10-06T11:22:00.000-07:00

Here's an article I wrote from the "Archives."
Enjoy.

Lessons About Life in an Unexpected Place
by Elizabeth Alraune

Did you ever receive a gift in an unexpected place?

I did, when I went to McDonald’s recently. My order was mistakenly placed as a Child’s Happy Meal. For some reason, I decided it was worth keeping, and in it was a gift in the form of a Sega game for kids.
After ignoring the game initially, and then haphazardly trying to play, I decided to figure it out. A couple of days passed, and it occurred to me that there were lessons about life in this little hand held game.

In a nutshell, the character of the game is to move up and down on lines, otherwise known as elevators, in its attempt to get diamonds distributed on various landings/floors. One side of the elevators is up, and the other is down. Stay on either too long, and the character gets smushed. If the character misses the elevator, or doesn’t collect the diamonds in time, or stays on the elevator too long, it loses a play. Lose 5 plays on a level, and the game is over. Be successful with the collection of 1 diamond 5 times, then move to the next level for 2, and then 3, 4, and 5. In order to win the game, the player must successfully get to level 5, and be able to successfully complete the diamond collection 5 times.

What lessons could someone take away from this little toy?

For starters, I realized my haphazard approach wasn't getting me anywhere. I realized that I needed to know how to play, needed to be focused, and in the moment. If not, there is a good chance that I will fall into any of the pitfalls. If I get distracted, I can lose a play, and potentially the game.

• Just how many times in your life have you been THAT focused and conscious and intentional about what you have done? Have you taken the time to really engross yourself in what you're doing? What kind of results are you getting? Have you truly been playing “your game”?

Next, while there is some predictability to the game, the starting location varies, and the diamonds are planted in different places each time. As I have played, it has occurred to me that there are different ways to accomplish what needs to be done.

• How often do you miss opportunities because you think the situation is predictable, or (you think) there is only one way to go?

While realizing that there are different ways to get things done, I also realized a second delay in pressing a button might mean that I would lose a play because the character would miss the elevator that seemed to be there.

• How often do you think you’re standing on a firm foundation, only to have a misstep? The great thing about the game is that there is always another chance. Even if the options run out on the level I am on, I can always start over. Just how often are you willing to just pick yourself up and begin again in your “real” life?

Occasionally, while playing, I will think that the character is going to one space, but the game is just a second faster, and the character winds up in a different place than I thought it would be. I then need to reconsider what I am doing, oftentimes working with something better than expected.

• How many times do you think you know where you’re going, only to find yourself somewhere else? Are you flexible enough to adapt to the changes?

Sometimes, I need to use the up elevator to maneuver myself into a place, so that I could go down…and sometimes I need to use the down elevator to maneuver myself to a place, so I can go up.

• How often do you realize that the direction you are headed in is taking you the direction you need to go?

Once one level is completed 5 times, I am bumped into the next level. In the game, it’s the next place to go.

• Once you have mastered something, does it seem that there is always something else? Once growth has been achieved, does a new challenge present itself? At times growth can seem like a lot of work, but it would also seem that each thing that happens comes because it’s time for it to.

As I have continued to play, I realize that I have gotten better at it. What seemed challenging at first, now almost seems too easy.

• How many times have things gotten easier for you, the more you’ve allowed yourself to practice them? How often has a challenge ceased to be one with practice, awareness, and frequency?

Lastly, it’s “just” a game, right? I can’t take it seriously – can I? Well, I could, actually, but because it’s a game, I am willing to give myself space to breathe, and have kept at it.

• Do you take your life seriously sometimes? What if you treated it more like this game? What if you were willing to keep trying because you always knew you had another chance? What if you could see your failures as stepping stones to your ultimate successes?

By the way, I win the game now every time I play it with focus and intention. Sometimes I get distracted, and I need to do something else, at which time I just put it away and start over again another time. Sometimes I’m so close to finishing, too. While it may at times be disappointing to stop, I know I can always to back to it, and build myself up again to hear the sounds that tell me I’ve gotten as far as I can, and that I have succeeded in what I set out to do.

Too bad life doesn’t have the “winning sounds” that this game plays…so that we’d know without a doubt when we’ve won. However, the sounds are still there, they may just come in the form of cheers, clapping, or a friendly, supportive voice. We succeed at something all the time, but are we too busy listening to the sounds of failure to hear our successes?

What truly is success? Is it my ability to win the game? Perhaps. However, I have come to realize that the minute that I did the best I could do in that moment, I was already successful. What perspective this unexpected treasure offered me, a big gift that came in the form of something that fits in the palm of my hand – something that reminds me, too, that whatever I need is well within my grasp.

The next time you are tempted to disregard something that has come your way, consider that it may be a gift that has yet to be unwrapped.

Perspective: Life in the Moment

2009-10-04T17:31:00.000-07:00

Another automatic writing gift...
What do you think of the message?
Does it resonate for you?

-*-

Let the past be the past. You bring
much of the past into the present
every time you feel anguish over what was,
what could have been, even what will be is
shrouded by your shadows from the past.

This is the only moment that matters.
This one. This one. This one. Truly
get that. Truly believe that - feel
that - know that - and when you do you
will feel an incredible release in your
body, and you will be healthier than
you've ever been.

If this is truly the only moment - it
is truly the only moment - then you get
to choose right now what this moment
experiences. You get to choose from all
available moments fear or love. understanding.
compassion. honesty with oneself and others.

Everything good is embraced and all anxiety -
which is only concern over the past, or
concern for the future - just melts away.

Be in the moment. Live in the moment.

Why is it that humans have such a difficult
time appreciating such a gorgeous gift - the
gift of life is only in THIS moment.

Take it, embrace it, wrap yourself around it.
Celebrate it. Cherish it. It is all you have.

Perspective: Do you believe in past lives?

2009-10-03T14:36:00.000-07:00

I wrote this to someone I was in
a relationship with. It is interesting
to me how I have felt this way about
others since.

If you believe in the possibility of
past lives, you might relate.

We've Travelled Miles
Written by Elizabeth Alraune

we've travelled miles
to be with one another
crossed through centuries
for a love that is
ours for the making
started lifetimes ago
it is being
reawakened
our souls know the way
they've been this route before
the feeling
oh so familiar
leaves me wanting more
finding me in you
makes me want to explore
in your arms
I feel safe, secure
and I know we'll meet again
just like
each time
before.

Have you ever explored the idea
of past lives? Whether you "believe"
in them, or not, having an hypnotic
experience that takes you on a past
life journey can give you perspective
that is amazingly helpful.

If you've ever wondered about what
your own experience would be like,
let's talk about it. I have taken
many on the journey, with incredible
results (even on the phone - so it
doesn't matter where you live). You
might be surprised how it can free
you up from some of the things that
seem to limit you.

You can call me, or
email me at infoATJoLoPe.com

Thanks for stopping by!

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Perspective: Helpful Website for Replacement Parts

2009-10-02T17:17:00.000-07:00

Did you ever see the website StoryofStuff.com?

It might be enough to make you consider what you
do with your stuff.

Here's an idea...
get replacement parts for gadgets that you
have instead of getting a whole new gadget.

Check it out:
http://www.thegourmetdepotco.com/store/default.asp
(It used to be CulinaryParts.com)

Perspective: This is not real - but it's the reality you created

2009-10-02T16:45:00.000-07:00

This was written circa August 2002.

I am always glad when something is dated,
just for a point of reference.

I think the message is quite profound,
and certainly not one I think I could
have come to without some "help." This
was written via an "automatic writing"
process.

For some it might be a big leap, or even
seem to be odd and impossible. For others
it may resonate. Which camp do you fall
into? Let me know what you think:

This is all illusion - All is illusion -
these words, this pen - all is floating
in space - dancing in the air, but looking
as though it is on paper - you are a
segmented being who claims to be whole.
But there are only segments knitted
together by the imagination.

There are threads that are there, but are
not acknowledged - threads between you
and your chair, you and your vehicle, you
and your neighbors. There are many threads,
like a spider's web.

We are all knitted together by an imagination
we do not claim. But it is as much ours as
the one that knits your body together. We
are all one organism that appears to breathe
separately. But it actually takes one
collective breath.

Know that your world leaders make decisions
that affect this body's well being. They
make the decisions that you call them to make.
They are you. You are the energy that is
them. Feed them nutritiously, because they
need to be fed "the good" stuff for the health
of the organism and its survival.

This is not real - but it's the reality you
created. Lessons are here to be learned, and
learned they will be. Know that these lessons
come in this world.

There are alternates with different lessons.
It's like a control room with many TV screens.
One can watch many scenes of many lifetimes
transpiring at one time - and at any one time,
one, or more of those screens can go blank -
as if shut off.

The screen could then turn on again, only to
find a different scenario. There are limitless
possibilities, and it is beyond human
comprehension to realize that this is not the
"one" reality. It is just one among many - and
can be scrapped at any time - ss others have
throughout time.

Time as you know it does not exist. Time as
you know it is only the appearance of movement.
There is no such thing as movement. There is
only now. If you were to blink, the next reality
would be upon you. Blink again, and there's the
next one.

Minute by minute is nothing but reality to reality.
Know that there is no such thing as minutes,
seconds, years - you are as young today as you
always have been - and you are as old today as you
have always been - what mirror are you looking in.

What is the reflection that you see? It's your
choice. Mirrors reflect your reality. There are
all kinds of mirrors - your family, your environment,
your health...the world in which you live is a
reflection of you...

~ Elizabeth Alraune (CY)

Perspective Short: Thich Nhat Hanh - On What's Possible

2009-10-02T11:54:00.000-07:00

Photo used with permission

http://www.flickr.com/photos/mind_meal/ / CC BY-SA 2.0

"Thanks to impermanence, everything is possible."
~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Perspective: Looking without Seeing

2009-10-01T20:05:00.000-07:00

Intentional blindness? Or Unconscious blindness?

Sometimes we don't see,
and sometimes we don't want to see.

Sometimes it takes an "outsider" to see
possibilities where we aren't able to see them.

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - Humorous

2009-10-01T10:23:00.000-07:00

Repair man: "I've been doing this work 35 years,
and I started when I was 5."

Me: "You must have been a prodigy then."

Perspective: Pepper

2009-10-01T10:09:00.001-07:00

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ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)
Do you eat peppers?

For a long time I didn't think I liked them.

Why? Because I didn't enjoy cooked green
peppers.

Then, one day, my sister was cutting up a
bunch, and I was told the ones that weren't
green weren't like the green. My young
nieces even liked them.

I figured if young kids could like them,
maybe they couldn't be all bad.

I had a pleasant surprise.

Above is another "tribute" to healthy food.

Oh, and by the way, I have eaten broccoli
steamed with a little butter and
Parmesan, that was suggested in a
comment from my previous blog entry,
and have to say it is pretty good. Still
looking for other ideas on how to eat healthy
food, and keep it healthy. So...if you have any,
please let me know!

Have a great day!

Perspective: Hypnosis instead of Gastric Bypass with the same results?

2009-09-29T13:23:00.000-07:00

I just read a story about a woman in Spain
who had hypnosis intended to have the
results of Gastric Band Surgery.

She said she had tried every diet and every
workout plan, and none of it seemed to work
for her, so she decided to try the hypnotic
option.

Apparently it seems to be working for her.
She is losing three pounds a week.

There are a few things that come to mind for
me about this situation:

1. If she believed that the surgery was
completed, there is also the potential that
there could be some pitfalls that come from
when someone has the surgery. Anyone who
is in a hypnotic state is more suggestible
than someone who is not, so extraordinary
care should be made as to what the person
in hypnosis hears and experiences. In
addition, if one is mindful of any potential
difficulties from the procedure they might
also be addressed through suggestions to
help ensure a positive and healthful outcome.

2. If she tried every diet and every exercise
program, then the question that comes for me
is: is there something that hasn't been
addressed for her?

I had hypnosis for weight loss long before
I ever became a hypnotist. And, while it
worked, it only worked for a time. I suspect
a couple of things as to why it didn't work
in the long run, and I suspect that it had
a lot to do with the fact that I believe it
worked with my behaviors, and not the
underlying causes.

One just has to look at what happened with
Carney Wilson, and see that a procedure
like that might occur more like a "fix" than
a resolution.

Looking at oneself is likely to be uncomfortable,
and maybe even painful. But when those things
that are uncomfortable or painful aren't
addressed, or in some way released, they
may still live in the body, and the results
could potentially be any number of things from
a headache to extra weight, to any dis-ease in
the body you can think of.

It's always good to have options...and I think
it great for her that she investigated it.
Given the results, it certainly seemed to be a
worthy consideration. How awesome to see a
story that can show how amazing hypnosis can be.

As with anything, we don't always know what we
don't know. It is wise to move forward with
caution and questions and remember that all
opinions are formulated from perspectives. And,
since perspectives can vary, so can your "mileage."

If you have any questions about hypnosis, please
feel free to ask. You can also see a list of
over 140 things hypnosis can be used for in the
PDF section of JoLoPe.net.

Have a great day, and if you are available at
6PM California time today, please come and join
me and @PamelaGlasner for our show this evening.
Visit World of Perspective Radio for details.

Perspective: Collective Soul and Harmony

2009-09-28T18:34:00.000-07:00

I loved this video...and loved how choreographed it
is...it feels like all of the pieces are in perfect
harmony with each other.

Here's to your own personal harmony within your world.

Perpective: Food for Thought

2009-09-28T14:13:00.000-07:00

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ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)
I don't know about you, but eating healthy
isn't always easy for me. I have phases,
and the more I become aware of things, the
easier it becomes for me to make better
choices.

The previous video from the Health Ranger
really got me thinking, and I am working
on the idea that taking care of myself by
taking care of the foods I eat can be a
stronger idea than anything that might be
sub-consciously torpedoing me.

What are the risks of eating foods that
have chemicals in them, and things that
are of questionable nutrition and have
questionable effect? Yes, there are
"authorities" that will tell you what
to believe. I don't know if you've
noticed it, but every so often the tide
changes on milk, on eggs, on chocolate,
on coffee, on...

I am learning that I need to pay attention
to who is saying what. It is way too easy
to manipulate the facts to suit any
perspective, depending on what the desired
outcome is.

At the same time, looking for ways to
enjoy food like broccoli.

How do you enjoy it? Please let me know
some of your favorite health foods and
how you enjoy them.

Thanks!

Perspective Short: Richard Bach - Our Highest Self

2009-09-27T10:39:00.000-07:00

Used with Permission

http://www.flickr.com/photos/audrix/ / CC BY-NC 2.0

Character comes from following our highest
sense of right, from trusting ideas without
being sure they'll work. One challenge of
our adventure on earth is to rise above dead
systems - wars, religions, nations, destructions -
to refuse to be a part of them, and
express instead the highest selves
we know how to be.

*Richard Bach, One (p.95)

-*-

Could you imagine what a world like this
could be like?

Perspective: Health Ranger - Mike Adams

2009-09-26T17:28:00.000-07:00

@MonteCarloSS2K shared this video with me
after she saw info regarding my upcoming show with
@PamelaGlasner.

I haven't even watched the whole thing yet, but
every second so far is worthy of sharing.

I suspect it WILL all be worth it. If I think
otherwise, I will come back and let you know.

Seriously...this is stuff we need to consider.

Awareness is where change often begins. If you
don't know something, you may not know you can
change it. Whether you do or don't is something
else, but at least an opportunity exists where
you might not have known before.

What are your thoughts? Do you have any resources
to share?

Find out more about Mike Adams Here

Perspective Radio: Pamela Glasner

2009-09-26T08:34:00.000-07:00

This is a controversial conversation and,
as with any topic, there are many perspectives
and resulting questions. The above video is
one of 10 on YouTube. If the topic is of
interest, consider watching the others.

Note that the videos do tend to lean on the
sensational side. As I said, there are
perspectives, and to each his own. What works
for one may not work for another. However, I
believe having access to other perspectives
can be quite beneficial, even if it just
solidifies your own.

Some interesting questions to ask:

*Is it irresponsible for someone not to take drugs?

*What defines mental illness?

*Why would someone be given medication?

*What is the medication supposed to do?

*What if what the medication "treats" is something
that is something that is "supposed" to be expressed?

*What about side effects?

*and many others

I have an experience that I will be sharing on
my World-of-Perspective-Radio.com show with
@PamelaGlasner this coming Tuesday. There are
a few theories I have developed from my own life
and observations. We will be speaking about it
in the context of Pamela's new book Finding
Emmaus, and her extensive research to write
the novel.

I hope you'll be able to join us. To see more
information about Pamela, please visit her website,
Lodestarre.com and/or see my last blog entry
on the topic.

For information on the show, visit
World of Perspective Radio.com

PS I just put a new page up that will give you
a preview of where I will be coming from during
the show -> YouJustDontUnderstand.com

Do you have a question for me or about me?

2009-09-23T19:50:00.000-07:00

Patrick Mathieu (@barcodeguy/MortalityManifesto.com)
has offered to play host on my radio show
WorldofPerspectiveRadio.com so that I can play
guest.

Please watch this short video on what to expect, and
how to take part in it. :-) I would appreciate your input!

If you prefer, you can put your comments/questions below
this blog entry. Thanks!

Perspective: Easy Chicken Nuggets

2009-09-19T19:56:00.000-07:00

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Chicken Nuggets

Chicken Breasts
Seasoned Bread Crumbs
Egg
Garlic Powder
Olive Oil

Cut breasts into nugget sized pieces. Depending on the
size of the breast, each breast could be 6-8 pieces.

Coat pieces with egg, and then place into a plastic bag
with bread crumbs and garlic powder, and shake to coat.

Place on cookie sheet and sprinkle with olive oil.

Bake 325 for approximately 40 minutes, or until chicken
is fully cooked.

If making a large batch, you can cool and freeze for
later use. They freeze very well.

Enjoy!

Perspective: The Children's Story - James Clavell

2009-09-18T15:04:00.000-07:00

These videos have an interesting perspective, to say the
least. And while the idea of it is chilling, and hopefully
unlikely, there are aspects that I would suggest are
important to note.

Below the videos I will give you my thoughts. You might
want to view the videos first to see what you think before
you hear my thoughts so you aren't influenced by my
perspective. But, that is obviously up to you. :-)

I would love to hear your comments once you've had a chance
to view these videos. Awareness is always an important key
to the potential prevention of manipulation.

1. You'll notice how the Teacher starts with the familiar,
and then changes things. You have to start where a person
is to have a better chance of having them go where you want
them to.

2. You'll notice the rewards for doing things a certain way.
Reward someone for something he or she has done, and
they'll lkely want to do it again.

3. You'll notice a sense of being "all knowing" which puts
a level of trust into the situation. This person must know
what she is talking about.

4. You'll notice that things of a certain context are taken
into another context, and by relationship, they make sense
(ie "School" for adults).

5. You'll notice the organic nature of the manipulation.
Teacher uses everything to HER advantage. Nothing is an
obstacle, and she never loses her cool.

Your thoughts?

Perspective: A Story About Love and Never Giving Up

2009-09-17T16:44:00.000-07:00

When I was 10ish, I wrote and illustrated a story. That story
stayed with me through 8th grade graduation, high school,
college, a move to Ohio, a move back to New York, several
moves while in New York, and a move to California.

That story has been with me for years. Who knows why
someone holds onto something. Many things have been
tossed through the years, and yet, a few things seem to
remain.

I imagine it helped that it was only a few sheets of paper,
but still...I have thrown others out.

Recently the story has been on my mind, and when I shared
it with a few people it became apparent that it needed to be
shared on a bigger scale. As a result, I found it (had my
fingers crossed that I would) and I scanned the pictures that
I drew, and re-typed the story. The original had fading
typing, and I thought it might be best to have a version that
was easily read.

To order a copy (or to see me as a 10-year-old!) please
visit CrushProofCar.com

Here is a quick video I did to give you a little sense of
what I have done:

Perpective: Knowing What's Important

2009-09-17T10:23:00.000-07:00

Have you heard about the Phillie Fan who caught
a foul ball, only to have his young daughter
toss it back?

Have you ever "caught" something only to have
someone else who you loved and cared about
who might not have known any better toss it
away? How did YOU react?

There is beauty in sharing, and sometimes it
may not look the way we might want it to.

Check out this beautiful and touching story:

and the afterglow...nice touch Phillies!

Perspective: Pamela Glasner on World of Perspective Radio

2009-09-15T17:46:00.000-07:00

Pamela (@PamelaGlasner) will be my guest on World of
Perspective Radio on September 29. Please see the
Radio Show page for information on how to listen, and
for information on our discussion: Do You Know Whose
Feelings You Are Feeling?

I hope you'll be able to join us!

Perspective on Perspective from Working Daze

2009-09-15T17:30:00.000-07:00

It's Football Season: Two Football Stories

2009-09-15T09:18:00.001-07:00

http://www.flickr.com/photos/fensterbme/ / CC BY-NC 2.0

Fall is almost here (much to the chagrin of a friend
of mine) and football season IS here. Lately that
seems to be a big topic. I wonder if it is because
people relate through the things that are common and
familiar, or if it might be something else.

If it was the spring, it might be conjuring up talk
about baseball, or if it was hockey season, hockey.

Any which way, it reminds me of two of my own football
stories. The first from when I was a child, the other
when I was in Chicago at a game with a friend.

I have never known much about football, but I still
went to a game when I was in Chicago visiting the city.
At one point there was no play, and I suggested that
there might be a TV timeout. You would have thought
that I just told the funniest joke ever, my friend
cracked up, and proceeded to laugh at what I said, and
told her boyfriend my "joke."

What you may, or may not, know depending on what you
are aware of in sports, is that occasionally if the
game doesn't allow for it on its own, the play will be
put on hold so that the advertisers can have their say
(commercials). It is known as a TV timeout. I had
only learned about it a short time before the game, as
my then boyfriend had explained it to me at an Ohio
State Basketball Game.

Backing up a bit, when I was a child (starting in third
or fourth grade) I was a HUGE Met fan (I know it's odd
because most New Yorkers are Yankee fans, but that's me,
picking the odd choice) and I was learning the players
names, numbers, positions, rules, stats, etc.

I never had an interest for some reason in football -
that is, until 8th grade. So I decided to ask my
grandfather, who taught me about baseball, to teach me
about football.

We got about as far as me incorrectly understanding that
you had four tries to make a touchdown (when in
actuality you have four tries to get ten yards) when the
lesson abruptly ended because my grandfather asked me,
"is there a boy you like?" My immediate response,
"Oh, nooooo, Grandpa," followed by a fairly quick
retreat.

How dare he figure that out. I was so embarrassed, I
never asked him about it again. I tried to get into
it when I was in a relationship with someone who had
a sport for every season, and that is when I had the
"TV Timeout Episode."

As you might imagine, to this day, I haven't learned
much more about the game. Any ideas why that might
be? LOL.

What occurs around these stories are a few things:

1. Sometimes we can make fun of things we don't
understand. My friend may have one day have found
out something new, but it wasn't going to be
that day.

2. How we take something has everything to do with
perspective. Was my friend laughing at me? Or
was she laughing at what I said? At the time it
certainly felt like she was laughing at ME.

3. Sometimes our reaction to something can stop
us in our tracks.

4. Sometimes someone may tell us that they're
going to tell us about "football," but it really
is about something else, and they may know that
they're doing it, and there may be times they
don't recognize it.

Do YOU have any "football" stories?

Perspective: Chicken Parmesan Recipe - Wanna Come For Dinner?

2009-09-14T19:49:00.000-07:00

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ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)
This was done the cheater's way. I put sauce in a pan, placed
chicken on top, and covered it with sauce, and sprinkled it with
Parmesan Cheese. I baked it at 350 for approximately 40
minutes.

However, if you have the time to make it from scratch,
here is a delicious recipe:

6 boneless chicken breasts
2, 8oz cans tomato sauce
1/2t. basil
1/2t. oregano
1/4t. garlic powder
1T. butter
1/4c. parmesan cheese
8oz. mozzarella

Flatten chicken. Quickly brown on both sides. Remove
to shallow baking dish.

Mix tomato sauce and spices and bring to a boil, and
simmer 10 minutes. Stir in butter. Pour over chicken.
Sprinkle with Parmesan, and cover.

Bake 350 for 30 minutes. Uncover, and sprinkle with
mozzarella, and bake for 10 minutes, until cheese melts.

What is Peace (P.E.A.C.E.)?

2009-09-14T10:50:00.000-07:00

You may have seen this before...it has had a
few incarnations...here's the latest:

Perspective Art: A Flower for a Sunday

2009-09-13T11:42:00.000-07:00

Perspective: A Few Thoughts on Marriage and Divorce

2009-09-12T18:30:00.000-07:00

I found the following writing cleaning out some old files. I wrote it in 2003. Thought I would share its perspective with you. As a broad stroke, it is hardly a complete conversation on the topic. However, I think it might be a perspective worth discussing, and a starting point for a conversation.

I wonder what you will think. Please feel free to let me know personally or in the comments below. I am pretty certain anyone who reads this is likely to have a reaction.

What's yours?

----*----

http://www.flickr.com/photos/tudorache/ / CC BY-NC-ND 2.0

I could go and research the history of morality, but as it is a big topic and discussion, I am going to simply suggest that morality is an appearance of “right and wrong” in action. The question, though, that comes next for me is, “whose right?”

The dictionary actually uses the word “conforming” when describing what is considered moral behavior. In an extreme, you might consider that people could conform to a murderous society, and in that society, murder could be considered moral. Granted that is an extreme example, but the idea is to consider a term that many have been taking for granted for a long time, and for things to look different, sometimes I think we need to look at extreme, unlikely examples.

It would seem to me that if there are enough people who believe that something is “bad” then it can become “bad”. Think for a moment about the divorce rate in the United States alone. In the 60s and 70s divorce was practically unheard of. Yes, it probably did happen, but not with the frequency that it does today. Marriages lasted a lot longer back then too.

Now this is not to say that the marriages were of any better quality than they are today, or that the couples love each other any less these days than they did back then. I can’t even begin to speak to the “facts” of the state of marriage then and now, but what I can speak to is that there has been a change in environment.

Divorce is a part of our culture in a way that it never has been. Is that wrong? Is that voice in your head yours, or someone else’s?

Let us suppose that you, like my grandparents, were married over 50 years - unhappily.

(My grandmother went to leave my grandfather on a number of occasions, but it never lasted. In the end, she couldn’t see very well. He couldn’t hear very well. I believe in the power of the mind to create things in the body, and have always found it interesting that she couldn’t look at her life, and he didn’t want to hear his (no doubt he didn’t want to hear her and she didn’t want to see the things that came from his drinking problems). They stayed together. Should they have? Likely there are those who would say yes. After all they took a marriage vow, “for better or for worse.”)

The vows you took say nothing of changing your mind. Let me ask you human to human – in the years that you have been living, have you changed your mind – once? twice? a few times? more times than you can count? That last one is me.

There are those of you who might say, well, this is different than most things. Well, let me ask you – have you ever been forced to keep your choice? How did you feel? I guess it would depend on the circumstances surrounding it, but likely you weren’t a very happy camper. It could even be that the next time it came to make another choice you were very cautious, or maybe even abstained, after all, you didn’t want to make the wrong one, and then have to live with it.

Now, before you go off thinking that I am not in favor of marriage (too late?) let me say that that could not be farther from the truth. But I am in favor of it coming from a different place than most.

For some, with marriage, comes the thought that they will never again have a choice. They have made their choice, and that’s that. So then, I theorize that, those who believe that they never again will have a choice set out to prove that they indeed do have a choice – to the detriment of the relationship that falls within the name of “marriage.” “I have to prove that I have a choice outside of you, so that I can choose you.”

It sounds kind of strange, doesn’t it? Maybe even a little warped. But human beings are even if just a little, warped. Things that seem illogical somewhere along the way make sense somehow to someone. I am sure you have done things that seem to defy logic, and yet, there you are doing it.

So here we are, in a society that says that marriage is not only sacred, but important to the fabric of our lives, and there it is unraveling at rates that no one could have predicted years ago. Is it possible that the very dynamic that was created to sustain it is in some way responsible for the ugliness of the separations and, even worse, for the ugly relationships that remain intact, despite reasons to split?

I was in a relationship that lasted six years. It was a tumultuous six years. The relationship was over long before it was over, but we kept trying to “make it work,” or so it seemed. It was like a marriage, even though we never got that piece of paper. In some ways I was glad that we never married, as I believe we would have likely wound up divorced. If anything, I could see how that piece of paper may have had me trying more and more as things grew worse and worse.

It never got better. I just kept looking for ways to see how I could get it to work. Finally, I just saw that it wasn’t going to work. We were not meant to continue to have a relationship. Finally, it was over. But it took every last gasp it had before it let me go from its death rattle.

If something doesn't work for you, is being bound by the morality worth it? Instead of looking at what might seem to be "right" morally, it might be helpful to consider acknowledging marriage for what it could seem to come down to - a choice, a piece of paper, and a legislative intervention.

Perspective: Blueberry Muffin Recipe

2009-09-12T14:23:00.000-07:00

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ONLY USE WITH PERMISSION.)
Blueberry Muffins
3/4c. butter
1 3/4c. organic sugar
6 eggs
1T. vanilla
1T. lemon extract
5 1/4c. flour
2T. baking powder
2t. salt
1c. water
1/3c. non-fat dry milk
3 1/4c. blueberries

Beat softened butter until creamy. Mix in sugar.
Add eggs, vanilla, and lemon extract. Beat until
thoroughly combined.

Add dry ingredients alternately with water.

Fold blueberries into mixture.

Distribute in muffin pans/cups and sprinkle with
cinnamon and sugar mix.

Bake at 350 45 minutes.
Makes 24 Delicious Muffins

Perspective Short: Elizabeth Alraune - On Loneliness

2009-09-12T12:06:00.000-07:00

Are you alone, and feeling lonely, and
thinking that a relationship would be
an answer for that feeling?

Consider this:
I was lonelier in a bad relationship
than I have ever been by myself.

- Elizabeth Alraune

Perspective Art: Orange Flower

2009-09-12T12:02:00.000-07:00

Perspective Art: A Flower for a Sunday - Revamp

2009-09-10T20:33:00.000-07:00

Just for the heck of it, I re-worked an earlier pic:
A Flower for a Sunday.

It's interesting to me how things can look
very different, and yet still appealing.

Here's the new version :-)

To me, it looks like a rainy day, like an old
pic. How does it look to you? Do the different
pictures bring up different feelings for you?

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Perspective: Story of Stuff with Annie Leonard

2009-09-10T19:02:00.000-07:00

Have you visited the website called
Story of Stuff?

It has an incredible video that
explores the "journey" of the cycle
of our "stuff."

I have often wondered about the
disposal of trash. After having seen
this video it makes me wonder if we
considered where things go when they
"die," if we would reconsider what
we create.

I have also noticed how the quality
of furniture has gone down over the
last several years. Could it be why
this video suggests?

It is sad to me to see the things
that are produced that are not far
from "junk" quality.

Some people would have a different
perspective than the one that this
site/video promotes. My question,
as always, is what harm would there
be if we considered the negative
implications of our actions and
altered them?

As a side note, are you aware of
Freecycle? They are a site that
helps to keep things out of the
trash. It's a cool community, even
if quirky. Check it out to get
rid of things, or if you might be
looking for something, and would
like to possibly find it for free
from a member of the community.

Perspective: A Letter of Love

2009-09-10T15:09:00.000-07:00

This video is a reading of one of my Letters of Love.

Perspective: Baking Chocolate Meringues

2009-09-08T12:01:00.000-07:00

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Have you ever wondered how it is that
we know that certain ingredients work
together, or will respond a certain
way?

It would seem somewhere along the way
someone (or ones) had to experiment, and
lay the groundwork for others, and their
experiments.

It's interesting to consider the positive/
negative effects of this way of interacting
with things.

On one hand, it could be good, as you would
have some idea what to expect. However, it
could be potentially limiting if you never
sought to experiment further because what
you had worked.

Yesterday I tried to make Pea Soup without
an established recipe. All I can say is,
oh well. Maybe I will try again another day,
or maybe next time I will consider using
someone else's foundation. I have had some
flops. Some even laughable.

Fortunately, these meringues are anything but
a flop or laughable. Enjoy!

Chocolate Meringues

2 egg whites
1/4t cream of tartar
1/8t sea salt
2/3c sugar
3T unsweetned cocoa
1t pure vanilla

Place baking parchment paper (or brown shopping
bag) on cookie sheets. In bowl, combine egg
whites,cream of tartar,and salt. Beat on high
until foamy. Add sugar, and beat until stiff
(the whites have peaks that stand on their own)
and glossy. Add vanilla and cocoa. Use a
teaspoon to drop onto cookie sheets. If it is
stiff enough, it'll hold its shape.

Bake 300/25-30 minutes, or until meringues feel
firm to touch.

Makes approximately 2 Dozen